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… Imma be real for a sec.

Since moving to the beautiful Sunny Coast (I am TOTALLY in love here!! 🏖️☀️😍), I’ve been struggling to find my rhythm & balance.

I’ve fallen back into the trap of trying to keep up. 🏃🏻🏃🏻🏃🏻

And TODAY was the first time in a VERY long time, I felt guilt & wrong for ‘not keeping up’. (Some words spoken to me hit deeper than I thought they would).😒

You see, you can’t unlearn something once you’ve learnt it!

And I’ve learnt:
- How to TRULY tap in & listen to my body (to the point it feels disrespectful if I ignore it).
- How females hormones affect EVERYTHING (we cannot exercise the same, the entire month like men).
- The different Human Design energy types.
- How I NEED more rest/downtime in order to be more productive.

We aren’t all the same. FACT. 🤓

So why the heck have I been trying to do that since moving up to the ‘fit beach girl’ state? 🤦🏽‍♀️

Pressure?
Guilt?
Trying to fit in?

Probably all of the above. ⬆️✅

>> Time that stops!! 🛑

A mini reminder (as it is mine!)… to not worry what others are doing, or you think you ‘should’ be doing.

Your life isn’t supposed to look like anyone else.

Stripe back those layers, find what makes you, uniquely you & do that!

And if you don’t know where to begin, & feel you need some guidance, let’s chat in my DMs 🤍.
I’m opening up my 1:1 sessions soon!

Much love,
SB x

-K®

... It’s ok to take time away to re-adjust your sails. Just as long as you come back 😘

I’ve been a little MIA & not showing up like I usually love to do.

Truthfully, I’m feeling unsettled.

A BIG change is coming my way soon (which I’ve always wanted) but there are heavy mixed 🥺🥹 emotions attached.

I know what I’m currently experiencing — is to show me lessons, so that I can help others in the future when they process something similar in their own lives.

But man, it’s been hard.

So today’s message - it’s ok to step back & take space. Especially if you’re a business owner.

Anyone who tells you to keep business & personal separate — is a robot with no emotions.🖤

It’s ok to hit the pause button. It’s ok not to show up for others. It’s ok to take space without explanation.

You’re human, having a human experience.

Everything will unfold as it should.

Me: I will return.

When? I’m not sure.

For now: I’m riding the waves.

Much love,
SB x

… while others fear the unknown, she finds excitement. 🦋

… now of course there are things WE can do to help ourselves thrive 🪴✨ - however our environment plays a VITAL role in making this happen!

Where in your life could you make an environmental change?

💟 Leaving an unfulfilling, soul sucking job.

💟 Moving cities/ towns.

💟 Removing unsupportive people and/or friends from your life.

All of the above 👆🏼are a key factor in how you feel daily.

If you can’t change any of those things above — maybe try implementing the steps in the 3 slides!

Without a supportive environment, change can be somewhat harder to achieve.

Remember, I am always here to be your support system if & when you need it. 🤍✨

Much love,
SB x
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Part (2/2).. (If you haven’t yet read Prt 1, scroll back👈🏼😉)

Ok, now for the biggest block (shock!) revealed in my PSYCH-K® session w/ ..

— I’ve been using the gym as a coping mechanism 😬

Who would have thought?

We found this coping mechanism grew 12yrs ago, age 24, shortly after I discovered my long-term boyfriend had cheated💔on me.

This was the time I first stepped foot into a gym. I remember feeling my world had turned upside down, the pain was unbearable & I wanted something else to focus on.

— Thus began the pattern of using gym to distract myself from future uncomfortable emotions I would experience.

(MIND BLOWN!🤯)

Because I have done exactly that.🤦🏽‍♀️

Whenever I hit a challenge in my business, have boy problems, feel anxious, feel sad, feel angry - I turn to the gym to escape.

It makes me feel in control.

It’s my safe place, where I shut off from the world.

Past Sarah has formed an unhealthy pattern.🫤

Now I intend to break it!

Coping mechanisms — excessive exercising/dieting, emotional eating, alcohol, smoking, overgiving. There are many! — are formed when you haven’t processed past trauma (stress).

The body (nervous system) CONTINUES to remember when a similar experience attached to the stress, resurfaces - hence a coping mechanism has formed as a bandaid.🩹

Thereby keeping you stuck in a negative loop🔁

Receiving everything you DON’T want & blocking⛔️everything you DO want.

This is the importance of inner work!

Learning to regulate your nervous system & using subconscious modalities such as PSYCH-K®, NLP to overcome past trauma (stress).

So you can start to receive your wants (joy) & remove your pain/struggles!

Now.. will I be stopping gym? HELL NO!🤪

I will, however, not be using it to avoid & escape my feelings! 🫠

Please understand there is no shame in having a coping mechanism. You're human, having a human experience doing the best you can!🫶🏼🥰

So I ask this with empathy — where in your life are you avoiding, trying to escape your uncomfortable feelings?

What are you using as a bandaid in order to survive?

Confronting questions I know.

But worth the investigation.😘

Much love,
SB x

Part (1/2):

Recently I had a PSYCH-K® session with . (She is apart of my support toolkit & I am so grateful for her! 🙏🏼🥰)

She helped mirror & breakthrough through some of my BIGGEST blocks I haven’t been able to overcome myself. (Coaches need coaches too! 😉)

I’ve been gaslighting 💔 my emotions, overdoing life, limiting myself with labels & disrespecting myself & my needs. 😔

It was confronting as hell - but it was the smack in the face I needed!

It’s easy to see it now, looking from the outside in.

However, when you’re so deep in something, it’s hard to see where the damage is being made.

I needed someone else to shine 🤍 light on what I couldn’t 🖤 see.

I needed support. So I asked.

There’s no shame in reaching out for help, even if you ‘think’ you can overcome it yourself.

It alleviates the pressure of you thinking you ‘should’ be doing better/ more.

It allows you to breathe again.

Moving forward I intend to look at all areas of my life, where I’m not naturing myself enough & where I’m over giving.

I won’t ever be perfect (no one is) & I will keep making mistakes (lessons 🙃).

That is life.

But I can & will always keep choosing to want better for myself. ❤️

Maybe it’s time you do too?

>> My door (DMs) are always open. Or there’s a 🔗 in my bio to book a free mini support session. 🫶🏼

Much love,
SB x
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… Self care is more than a warm bath, drinking more water & getting more sleep.

Self care is:
- asking for help.
- taking a break when things become overwhelming.
- allowing yourself to feel strong emotions.
- doing the things that make you happy.
- saying no.

✨SAVE as a little reminder.

No more fluff, let’s add more depth. 🤍

Much love,
SB x
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… I can wholeheartedly say I am proud of the woman I have become & the work I do to keep showing up better for myself.

I will continue to sit in my discomfort.

I will continue to want more for myself.

I will continue to learn from my past.

I will continue to hold my boundaries.

I will continue to be authentically vulnerable, open, real & me.

It’s not easy, but it’s worth it to feel the way that I do now. 🥰

Things I thought were hard, no longer are.

This is why I continue to do the work - because I am a priority to me. 🫶🏼

Much love,
SB x

… my wish for you ✨🤍🫶🏼

Much love,
SB x

… Give yourself permission to release what is no longer serving you!

⚡️Berating yourself for past mistakes.
Life is trial & error! We all f**k up at times. it’s how you own it, learn from it & move forward that determines the type of person you are.

⚡️Spending time with people you don’t like.
Your time is a gift. Regardless if they are family or not, no one deserves your time if they make you feel less about yourself.

⚡️Dulling your spark & trying to be like everyone else.
You’ll always be a little “too much” or “not enough” for some people. That’s ok, we aren’t meant for everyone (thankfully). Stop hiding the real you so your people can find you sooner.

⚡️Thinking it can’t be done.
The only limits in life is your perspective & what’s stored in your belief system. Your mindset plays a vital role in getting what you want. Work on that & watch what happens.

⚡️Looking for perfection.
You’ll never be perfect, the process will never be perfect. It can’t. Life is a roller coaster with many twists & turns. Removing the need for things to go exactly according to plan breeds a level of freedom. Which is liberating as heck!

Let 2024 be the year you start discovering more about yourself & caring less about what others think.

Much love,
SB x

Merry Christmas friends and fam 🎅🏼🎄
Love me & my 2 littlest munchkins ❤️ x