Thriving With Vanessa

I want to share with you one of my favourite poems.

🤍 AN ODE FOR FEARLESS WOMEN 🕊

Defined by no man,

you are your own story,

blazing through the world,

turning history into herstory.

And when they dare to tell you about

all the things you cannot be,

you smile and tell them,

‘I am both war and woman and you cannot stop me.’

–

This poem encapsulates my life purpose to support the fearless women.

The women who smile in the face of challenges.

The women who push forward even if it looks like everything isn’t working in their favour.

The women who work hard for what they want, relentlessly never giving up.

The women who want it all, the women who want 1st place.

I’m here cheering you on and this poem is dedicated to you.

2021 was the year of multiple failures.

It was the year where I cried, like a lot.

I would say it would be around 3-5 times a week as the year started to wind down towards the end.

It was the year where I overworked, over-worried, over-stressed and tied all of my self worth to the productivity and growth of my business.

It was the year where I wrestled daily with my self doubt, where I broke down 2-3x a week during one dark period, where I almost wanted to completely give up trying (3 times).

I only felt worthy when I went viral with a video, or I had a huge surge of new followers come into my socials.

I only felt worthy when I hit a high number in my income for that month (and then back to feeling like a failure when my income was in an ebb).

I only felt worthy when I was of service to others as their coach, but when the clients finished, I was back to feeling not good enough.

Not a sob story — I’ve done the work to move past all of this and this is what I’ll share now coming out the other side:

• Failing is better than not trying. As I write my goals for 2022, it’s literally a bigger extension of the 2021 goals I had written. At the start of every new year, I used to always write the same goals but 2022 was the first year where I had actually moved forward, aiming for higher and much bigger.

• Surround yourself with people who ground you back down to Earth. My favourite phrase is “Keep going, it only takes one moment for your life to change”. I don’t think I would’ve been able to keep going if it wasn’t for a strong support network who pushed me when I couldn’t do it myself.

• Dissolve a belief, quantum leap. The moment I detached my worth fully away from my business, my energy shifted. I started to attract abundance in all sorts of ways - free beachfront stays, client enquiries out of nowhere, receiving consistent money to make content… so. much. fu***ng. goodness.

I want to share one last thing I did in 2021, but I’ll save it for when the offical day comes, which will be on the 22/02/2022. (Meant to be!)

Vanessa # # #

Why you should be fu***ng THANKFUL when you get jealous… 😜

I am a jealous person and I LOVE it.

In the past, I used to feel a lot of shame and anger towards myself for feeling this type of emotion.

I used to try and suppress it, put a figurative lid on it, convince myself I didn’t want what that person had.

DENIAL, DENIAL, DENIAL!!!

Whenever I saw someone achieve massive success in their own business (usually as I was scrolling social media), it made me feel s**t and get me caught putting myself down.

You see, I used to never get jealous of people who worked at 9-5’s however I was jealous of people who were able to travel and work anywhere with just their laptop and a stable WI-FI connection.

Our desires are meant for us for a reason and they get activated through jealousy.

If you don’t desire running a business, you wouldn’t be jealous of someone who is an entrepreneur.

If you didn’t desire becoming an entrepreneur, you wouldn’t be jealous of someone who is working a 9-5.

It’s as simple as that - there’s no if’s or but’s.

When you feel jealousy, your desires are DIALLED the f**k up to 100%.

HOW FU***NG GOOD IS THAT? 😩

It’s as CLEAR as DAY the direction you’ve gotta go in.

I get the activation within + I go straight to work.

Jealousy is an emotion that is too often criticized, shut down too quickly and passes a lot of judgment in our society.

That's the disconnect between you and your deepest desires.

If you can lean into it, be honest with yourself and see how much that feeling is actually trying to help you, that’s where the transformation begins…

Xx
Vanessa

Celebrating my divine client Bonnie 💓

We have only had one session together and the transformation is instant. 💋

I love what I do so much.

Celebrating my client Bonnie!!! 😍💓😍💓🍾💸 In the last 2 weeks working with me she has: 💫 Recieved $450 out and another $600 from her old work that she quit a MONTH ago!! 💫 Made $700 from 7 hours of work + booked in to secure more work which will add up to ($1.3k all up) Shifting from working paycheck to paycheck to holding the $$$ frequency + saving! 💫 Quit drinking and is focused on self disclipline + moving forward with her goals. 💫 Attracted a 3rd job with consistent hours starting next year! 💫 Started a massage therapist business and has signed on her first client already with more lined up the rest of the month!!! 💫 Stepping out of her comfort zone CONSTANTLY, not letting fear win! Hear her audio messages!!!! This is only the beginning, did you know we have only had ONE session?! 🥴🥴🥴😍😍😍

// The Rollercoaster of DOUBT //

When I was first starting my business, I honestly thought that doubt would go once I had my first client.

Then, my first client came and I was still doubtful - doubtful as to when my second client would come.

Then, my second client came and I was still doubtful - and I continued to feel this way for months.

I had this illusion in my mindset where I thought that doubt would magically disappear the more I achieve in my business… cause the more evidence I gather, the more it would… f**k off?

… Right? 🤡

And boy, was I wrong!!!

The doubt just got bigger and bigger - I feel doubt on a bigger scale now than at the beginning of my business if I’m keeping it 100!

Here’s advice for anybody who thinks they can escape the feeling of doubt:

You won’t be able to - you literally will not be able to.

It’s the price you pay for being human and in going after superhuman desires.

In fact, I built my mindset around this idea that you will feel doubt on a daily, even moment to moment basis but that doesn’t mean it gets in the way of you moving forward and achieving BIG things!

Which is EXACTLY what I wished someone had told me back then,

And what I want to tell you now:

It’s not about eliminating doubt and fear.

It’s about seeing doubt and picturing it to be that annoying sibling you have to bring everywhere cause mum told you too.

There’s a lot of people out there who look like they’ve got it together, they’re confident and look like they don’t deal with doubt on a constant basis…

It’s the illusion of social media 💨👻

We deal with it on a constant basis - more than you can even comprehend.

We just deal with it behind closed doors, with a box of tissues.

If I could go back and tell past Vanessa one thing about doubt, it would be this.

Because then she wouldn’t constantly feel like she wasn’t good enough or that there was something wrong with her.

I moved houses 3 times in the month of October and still hit my 5-figure month again with EASE ($13,428 to be exact) 💁🏻‍♀️✈️💸🥳

I’m writing up this post currently on a plane back to Byron… with NO home to go back to. Just couch surfing with friends and figuring it all out moment to moment. This is the reality of my personal life… 💀

🚨 It has NOTHING to do nor has or will affect my business and my client service delivery. My personal life and my business are completely separate entities! 💁🏻‍♀️

I see a common trait that the extremely successful coach has and the regular coach doesn’t… 👀

Most coaches in the industry earn approx. $5k monthly, give or take (this is based off the convos I have in my DM’s)

I have been in the industry for less than 6 months… and in my second month, hit my first 5-figure month and have been consistent ever since.

What’s the distinction? 😜

💸 Stop bringing your personal life to work. When you connect the two, you’re binding your business to the ebbs and flows of your personal life. How are you going to scale effectively if you let your personal life take the lead every time? Can you still make money and service your people WHILST your personal life is pure chaos & stress?

💸 Stop using your personal life drama as excuses as to why you can’t do something. I could’ve easily played victim and said that I was moving around so much, that I emotionally couldn’t take it and that I can’t show up and make money because there’s too much I’m dealing with. I called out my bulls**t and if anything, used the frustration I had and used it as fuel to push forward.

💸 Allow yourself to cry and feel your feelings BUT also train yourself to continue to still create content and show up on your stories. This is emotional development muscle in ACTION.

Would you have run away from your business if you were me? 🤔

If you answered YES, this may be the reason why you are lacking consistent high cash months in your business.

It’s okay, I’ve been there! 🙏🏻💓

It’s an extremely frustrating place to be in but we can change that.

There IS a better way — I’ll see you in my DM’s 😜

You’re losing thousands of dollars right now without even realising! 😤🤬😤

You have untapped and unlimited potential right now to make hella money AND to have all your dreams manifested right now - so why isn’t it here for you?

It’s not enough to...

😬 FEEL into how it would be nice to have $10k right now.

😬 Journal money mindset and then money will come.

😬 Think you will consistently make thousands because you chant the affirmation “Money loves me” three times with your morning coffee.

⬆️ I’ve been there before. This is what I wished someone had told me:

💸🤑 You need to understand the quantum physics of money. The in’s and the out’s.

You need to understand where your subconscious + belief systems are letting money literally pass by you. (You could have a $100k stock portfolio and $45k in savings if you knew how to, not joking)

🔮🪄 You need to understand the quantum physics of manifestation.

You need to know how to strategically funnel your energy + have a tailored action plan (it’s not enough to manifest, you also need to know when to act!)

This is why I created the Rich Bitch Hypermind 🥂✨💸

We dive into the deepest QUANTUM LEVEL of MONEY & MANIFESTATION.

I will call you out on your s**t.

I will trigger the f**k out of you.

I will make your ego angry.

I will make you question everything you believed about yourself.

BUT!!!!

I’ll show you all your leaks and your blocks.

I’ll show you where you’re leaving your money on the table.

I’ll show you how to manifest 24/7 with intention and ease. (You’ll manifest so easily, it’ll be as automatic as breathing 😉)

🚨 The Universe wants to give you millions of dollars.

🚨The Universe wants to give you all your manifestations.

🚨 The Universe (and I) wanted you to be a fu***ng rich bitch YESTERDAY!

YOU are the only thing in your way.

It’s just You vs. You in this life - nobody else.

🎉 We already have 3 awesome women in the container!!! This program is like no other and what better way to dive deep with a community that's got you.

The Hypermind starts on the 8th of November.

There’s only 82 days left of 2021.

Are you ready for more? 😉💸🤑🎉⚡️

So, you’re a GREAT coach yet can’t stop panicking about when and where your next client is gonna come from? 😵‍💫

You’ve hired a few coaches to help you expand YET those promised “consistent” results go downhill quickly weeks after finishing up their program (cue the panic, been there!)

You’ve got a few clients you’re working with YET you have no idea what specifically made them say yes to you in an overly saturated coaching industry (feels like you’ve struck lucky every time a client says yes 😰)

You go into a loop of relief and panic every time your programs start (relief - I’m covered!) and when they’re about to end (panic - wtf is my next client coming from?!)

Perhaps you extend your coaching package to 3 months instead of your ideal 2 months to stretch out periods of panic because you have no idea how to attract and close clients consistently in short periods (AND all in the DM’s btw 😉 ) so it’s safer to stretch and prolong.

OR you get on an enrolment call and you’re the one trying to convince them to work with you even though they were the ones insisting on wanting a call with YOU.

I’ve been exactly where you’ve been and let me tell what you DON’T need:

❌ the newest manifestation hack on TikTok

❌ doing your shadow work for the 100th time (there’s only so much till you go in circles - we’re talking operations of actual business and closing clients!)

❌ heal your childhood wounds (here’s a time and place for it - how’s connecting with your inner child going to help you close high ticket peeps this week?)

What you do need is ⚡ S T R A T E G Y ⚡ which has brought me consistent high 4-5 figure months and a stream of F**K YES clients wanting to get coached by me, all within WEEKS (Yes, these shifts happened QUICKLY for myself, for my clients and in my world!)

It’s not enough to just sit back and expect things to happen.

You have to strategise! ⚡️

I KNOW you desire a CONSTANT FLOW of hot DM’s that scream:

“I want to work with you, what do you offer? You do 1:1?”

“I want in, what can I do to get into your world?”

“How do I pay you?”

A reality like this DOES exist because it’s MY reality.

It can be yours too, let me show you the way ✨

Mindset coaches need mindset coaches the MOST — and here’s why 🧙🏻‍♂️

Every person regardless of occupation has a mind. 

I see mindset coaches hyper consume self development content all the time — myself included in the past, guilty as charged. 🤭

Other coaches’ IG content, books, podcasts, YouTube videos — you name it, I’ve consumed it… extensively.

(Cue, the hours of mindless scrolling, saving videos or screenshotting cool infographics to “refer back to later”.... We’ve all been there! 🥸)

I’ve seen it everywhere - especially with coaches who don’t want to invest in their own industry yet get pissy when nobody wants to sign on as their client!

The irony in all of this is that when you are trying to solve your own mindset struggles through online content consumption whilst expecting to charge your clients to help them with theirs — you’re not leading by example, you are SO out of integrity.

I’ve hired business coaches.
I’ve hired trauma healing coaches.
I’ve hired sales coaches.
I’ve hired leadership coaches.
I’ve hired feminine embodiment coaches.

🚨They’re not the same as mindset coaches! 🚨

 I used to think “I’m okay without a mindset coach” because that’s my “job” -- I can do it alone… 🙃

And, that’s where the trap is!

We don’t reach out because we’re “mindset coaches”

We think we are invincible to our mind simply because we think we know the right tools to dissolve it.

We can be sort of under this coach ego of “I’ve got this, I can figure this out by myself”

AND, that’s how we get stuck! 😣

“Your mindset determines your success in life.”

The biggest leaps and transformations I’ve ever done have been through hiring a mindset coach who can see my blind spots and see where my mindset is leaking (without me even being consciously aware of it!) -- which is where my zone of genius is 🥳🤩

As mindset coaches, we need more than ever to have our own mindset coaches to help us stay on top of our game, to keep ourselves within integrity and to have someone to make the unconscious, very much conscious for us.

Leave the “coach ego” at the door -- come back into your truth and watch yourself expand like CRAZY 💫

I stopped focusing on being the relatable “bestie” coach that was there for everyone… and that’s when I TRIPLED MY INCOME! 🤫💸🤤

I was always taught by my former coaches that:

“You need to engage and show up consistently at least 3-5x a week online with your followers”

“You need to have conversations in the DM’s to create those client relationships and warm them up”

“You need to get back to everyone and make sure they all feel seen in your online corner of the internet”

LOL - I’m here to tell you, ya don’t gotta do that unless it’s really your thang 😵‍💫

Honestly, all the "rules" in the industry were so f’ing tiring for me.

I DITCHED showing up online all the time and instead focused on closing CASH with clients straight away in the DM’s who were serious and ready.

Here's how my clients ACTUALLY bought from me:

They found me. They consumed my content. They DM'd me.

No warming up. No engaging. No beating around the bush with my prices.

My DM’s now be looking like:

“How long would our sessions go for and how do I pay you?”

“I've been watching your stories for a while and I'm so ready to work with you. How do the payments work?”

It’s not about waiting for the perfect time to pitch in back to forth DM’s, but being so magnetic & strategic with the way you operate your business that they ask YOU how YOU want to be paid so they can enter YOUR world.

It’s never been “Can they invest in me?”

It’s really “How can they pay to be in MY world? Are they worthy of being MY client?”

YOU are the coach. You are the expert. You have something unique to share with the world.

I know what I’m doing works bc I’ve barely shown up online the last few weeks & I’ve tripled my income - whilst having my cozy morning sleep in’s (it’s a Ta**us thang, can’t change that about me! 😝)

If you’ve been forcing yourself to show up in a way that’s not authentic to you and your business, it’s not your fault.

You were just following "the experts" who's strategies worked in 2019… (Been there)

It's a new age. Come into my world... let’s pave a UNIQUE strategy that works for YOU.

Operate like an alpha; live life & operate business as easy as a goddess.

Be an Alpha Goddess 💣✨⚡️

✨ I LIVE & COACH WITH MY INTUITION & MY FEMININE ENERGY….✨

First off… what is feminine energy?

It's when you listen to your heart, your intuition and you flow like water.

You are open to receiving, you are playful and free, you make pleasure your priority.

You are not hustling, running on empty and focusing on results - you are focused on the present, in the moment, in just being.

I have been focusing on bringing more pleasure into my life through:

Buying beautiful french linen bed sheets for my beautiful body to sleep in.

Buying skincare and makeup to help me enhance and maintain my natural beauty.

Sending my friends beautiful gifts in wanting to spread & share pleasure.

Dancing, painting, cooking, creating & sleeping in more often.

Blocked feminine energy can look like:

You need to prove yourself.

You think you need to struggle.

You are busy DOING, you forget how to BE.

You hate asking for help.

You do everything yourself.

How does it show up for me as a business and as a coach?

I lead all my sessions with my clients with only my intuition. Every session always brings up something different. Each relationship I have with each of my clients is bespoke & unique because of that.

My intuition is how I create success for myself and others - it has been how my clients have been able to WIN.

A lil secret as well…

I also guide my clients through informing them of future blockages that I feel may come up. My intuition and energy is connected with all of my clients so I can feel their energies always + what may come up in their future.

My client reached out to me today and said that I was spot on when I was giving her advice on something that may happen within our sessions apart. She was able to remember my advice on what to do - not panic, breathe and take appropriate action.

This is the feminine energy flowing through me, my life and my business.

I'm in the business of being magnetic, leading by my intuition and allowing my life and biz to flow like water - and that's how my clients and I win!

Are you always feeling like you have to prove that you are worthy? Or are you in the magnetic energy of knowing your enoughness? ❤️