Carla Da Costa, Coolangatta (2026)

28/09/2026

Divorce recovery sounds like:
“How do I become okay again?”

Divorce transformation asks:
“Who do I need to become for the life I actually want?”

Recovery gets you back on your feet.

Transformation changes the person standing on them.

And that distinction matters.

It’s why my clients work with me over a period of time.

Because we’re often navigating two entirely different stages:

Getting through what happened.

And then deciding who you’re going to become because of it.

You might be one month out from the ending of your marriage.

You might be several years out, with a whole new life already built around you.

Transformation can begin wherever you are.

If you’d like information about working with me, DM me READY.

Or head to the link in my bio to read my new article, Your Divorce Changed Your Life. But Did It Change You?

Are you in the stage where you’re recovering or needing to transform now?

25/09/2026

Sometimes outgrowing yourself feels a lot like losing yourself.

🤍 Which of these 7 signs are you experiencing right now?

Your marriage has ended.

Your circumstances have changed.

And now things that once felt completely normal don’t fit anymore.

Relationships.
Friendships.
Work.
Money.
Where you live.
What you tolerate.
What you want.
Even the way you think about yourself.

And this is where the in-between can get uncomfortable.

Because the old version of you is familiar…

but the new version isn’t fully formed yet.

So you can mistake becoming for being lost.

But maybe you’re not lost.

Maybe you’re simply beginning to realise:

I can’t create the life I want next as the person I’ve always been.

And that is where transformation begins.

Not when your marriage ends.

When you begin changing too.

Your standards change.
Your boundaries change.
Your relationships change.
Your ambitions change.
Your choices change.

And eventually, your life starts to look different because the person creating it is different.

And if you’re caught somewhere between who you were and who you can feel yourself becoming, this is exactly the work I do with my clients.

I coach men and women through the personal and professional transformation that can happen after separation.

Comment TRANSFORMATION below or DM me TRANSFORMATION to enquire about working with me.

23/09/2026

🎙️ Comment PODCAST below and I’ll send you my new episode, The In-Between Version of You.

I am not the woman who left her marriage in 2016.

And that’s the point.

When my marriage ended, I was a stay-at-home mum.

I was emotionally and financially co-dependent on men.

I had lived on one side of Australia for 19 years, and I didn’t have the career, business, financial independence or life I have today.

Ten years later, I’m an author of three books.

I’ve built a multiple five-figure-a-month coaching business.

I moved across the country to follow my career.

My daughters are now living here with me.

But the biggest transformation isn’t what changed around me.

It’s who I became.

I’ve changed emotionally, professionally, financially and relationally.

I’ve changed what I tolerate.

How I communicate.

How I love.

The men I attract.

What I believe I’m capable of.

My divorce changed my circumstances.
But transformation changed me.

And I didn’t leave my marriage as this version of myself.

I had to become her.

That’s what today’s podcast is about — the in-between space where you’re no longer who you were inside your marriage…

but you haven’t fully become who you’re going to be yet.

And perhaps the question isn’t simply:

How do I move on from my divorce?

Maybe it’s:

Who am I becoming because my old life no longer exists?

Because your next chapter can transform far more than your relationship status.

Your career.
Money.
Relationships.
Confidence.
Ambition.
Where you live.
How you see yourself.

Your entire life.

This is also the work I now do with my clients — coaching men and women through the personal and professional transformation that can happen after separation.

🎙️ Comment PODCAST and I’ll send you the episode.

And if you can feel another version of yourself trying to emerge…

Chase them.

22/09/2026

There is a strange space after a marriage ends where the life you knew no longer fits…

but the life you’re creating hasn’t fully arrived yet.

You’re changing what you tolerate.

What you want.

How you love.

Who you spend time with.

What you want financially.

How you work.

Where you want to live.

What you believe you’re capable of.

Even the things that once felt completely normal can suddenly feel completely wrong.

And I think this is where people can mistakenly believe they’re lost.

But maybe you’re not lost.

Maybe you’re between versions of yourself.

You’re no longer who you were inside your marriage.

But you haven’t fully become who you’re going to be yet.

And there’s something incredibly powerful about that space.

Because for perhaps the first time in a very long time, you get to consciously decide:

Who do I want to be now?

Not who does everyone else need me to be.

Not who have I always been.

Not who was I inside that relationship.

Who do I want to become?

You don’t have to have the whole answer yet.

But don’t automatically interpret the unfamiliarity of becoming as evidence that you’re lost.

You might simply be meeting a version of yourself you’ve never been before.

Does this describe where you are right now? 🤍

20/09/2026

Your past patterns will tempt you to fall back into them after your marriage ends.

Your old ways of behaving.
Your old ways of thinking.
Your old relationship patterns.
Your old coping mechanisms.
The version of you that is familiar and knows exactly how to survive inside life.

Because even when the familiar wasn’t working for you, it was still familiar.

And moving forward requires something different.

It requires you to push beyond the comfort of becoming who you’ve always been.

To make an internal decision that says:
I let it go.
I’m not doing that anymore.
I’m not being anxious.
I’m not being a people pleaser.
I’m not keeping my emotions to myself anymore.
I’m not avoiding my emotions and my truth anymore.

I am not taking this version of me into the next chapter.

Not the same patterns.
Not the same beliefs.
Not the same way of loving.
Not the same way of abandoning myself.
Not the same relationship with money, work, boundaries, confidence or my own potential.

At some point after a marriage ends, every adult has a choice:

Fall back into being a version of what they’ve always known…

Or push past their comfort zone and become someone they’ve never been before.

And I think this is one of the biggest differences between someone whose marriage ends and everything changes, but nothing really changes…

And someone who uses the ending of their marriage as the catalyst to completely transform their life.

Because divorce can change your circumstances.
But transformation changes you.

And when you change, what you accept, choose, create, attract and build next changes with you.

That is the work.

Not simply getting a divorce.

Becoming the version of you capable of creating an entirely different life after your divorce.

19/09/2026

Over the last 10 years, I’ve worked with more than 2,500 men and women navigating life after the end of a marriage.

Sometimes they come to me immediately after the marriage has ended.
Sometimes years past.

And one thing I know for sure when you do come to me:

➡️ It’s rarely just about the divorce or your ex.

Yes, there’s healing.

From the marriage.
From your ex.
From the patterns in love and relationships you’re ready to leave behind.

But underneath all of that, something much bigger is happening.

You’re becoming someone new.

Your identity is shifting.
Your relationships change.
Your career can change.
Your financial goals change.
Your life with your children…changing.
What you want from life changes.

And suddenly, you’re in the in-between.

No longer who you were.

Not quite yet who you’re becoming.

That’s the space I work in.

This isn’t simply about “moving on.”

Or finding another partner.
Buying another house.
Creating a life that looks different from the outside.
Looking like you’ve moved on when inside you haven’t quite.

It’s about transforming from the inside out.

Healing what needs to be healed.

Breaking the patterns you refuse to repeat.

Rediscovering who you are.

And consciously creating what comes next.

Because the end of your marriage may be what brought you here.

But the transformation is so much bigger than divorce.

If you’re somewhere between the person you were and the person you’re becoming…
navigating the mid-life or spiritual awakening that happens for some adults at this life junction then…

this work is for you.

There are several ways to work with me. DM me “start” to enquire which is best suited for you.

17/09/2026

This is not an attack on men, always a call to do better but SERIOUSLY (!!!) the amount of clients I’m coaching who are navigating this with their children towards an ex is next level right now.

You need to know:
• the relationship ending is not the end of the pattern.
• don’t energetically lose your children to this person by allowing them to become like them, believe them or idolise them
• your children can’t fully break the internal pattern UNTIL you do
• you need to navigate this positively, with a growth minded focus and awareness of conditioning patterns so that the pattern stops here.

To enquire about this scenario name how I can support you and your children to navigate this please DM me “ex” to enquire.

With love and compassion to all always xx

16/09/2026

Almost every client I work with has one thing in common.

They’re tired of the situation they’re in — and what it’s NOT giving them. 🤍

Maybe it’s in love.
Financially.
Emotionally.
Their headspace.
Their relationships.
Their overall direction in life.

Whatever it is, they’ve reached a point where something has to change.

The story they’ve been telling themselves isn’t working anymore.

They’re tired of running from themselves, avoiding the conversations they know they need to have, or lying to themselves about the truth of their situation.

And deep down, they know:

Their life isn’t going to change until something within them does.

Because eventually you have to look at the patterns you keep repeating.

The standards you keep accepting.

The things you keep tolerating.

The decisions you keep avoiding.

And the version of you that has created — and continues to accept — your current reality.

That’s where real transformation begins.

And transformation as an adult can be clunky and challenging.

We’ve often spent years building an identity around who we believe we are, how we behave, what we tolerate and what we believe is possible for us.

So changing your life isn’t just about setting a new goal or deciding you want something different.

Sometimes it requires changing who you are and how you move through the world.

Which brings me to a question I ask people often:

How deep does the wake-up call need to be before you’re willing to truly face your situation?

How much longer are you prepared to tolerate something you already know isn’t working?

Because you don’t need to hit rock bottom to decide you’re done.

Sometimes the wake-up call is simply being honest enough to say:

“I don’t want to live another year like this.”

I’ve spent more than 10 years in the coaching world and have now worked with over 2,500 clients through their own process of change, growth and transformation.

My work isn’t for everyone.

But if you’ve reached the point where you know something needs to change — and you’re ready to take responsibility for making that change happen — DM me “TRANSFORMATION” to enquire about my 1:1 and online coaching.

Carla Da Costa

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