Welcome to the Temple

There is something powerful about being in a room full of women who have given themselves permission to feel.

To move without being watched.
To take up space without apologizing.
To reconnect with the parts of themselves that get buried beneath schedules, responsibilities, and expectations.

Velvet & Lace is an invitation into self-expression, confidence, playfulness, softness, strength, and freedom through movement.

No dance experience required.
No choreography to learn.
Just a beautiful evening of music, movement, and community.

🖤 Women Only
🖤 June 11
🖤 6:00 PM - 8:30 PM

Ticket link in the comments. Join Krista Mendez and I on the floor.

Your body already knows how to move.
All you have to do is show up.

The advice out there is usually "don't get too familiar with your clients."

Meanwhile, me and my community...

We're laughing til we cry in the live rooms, celebrating wins, talking through the messy bits, sharing the things we'd probably often keep to ourselves, and lovingly calling each other forward when we've gone a little quiet on the thing we said we wanted.

Because building a business can feel lonely as hell when you're trying to do it all on your own.

The space I'm creating isn't about collecting clients.

It's about building a community of women who genuinely want to see each other succeed.

A place where you can show up as you are.

A place where your wins get celebrated.

A place where your challenges don't have to stay hidden.

A place where accountability feels supportive instead of scary.

Turns out growth gets a whole lot easier when you're surrounded by people who get it.

If you're looking for a community like that, you can get in the door at no cost through my free Skool community.

Comment SKOOL and I'll send you the link. ✨

So... what are you going to do with it? 😏

This has been a deeply confronting and emotional week.

For months, I've known something needed to change inside The Phoenix Code. Little nudges. Repeating thoughts. Moments where I could feel myself bumping up against the edges of what I'd built.

Lives and businesses were changing.

And yet something felt... off.

After a lot of reflection, I realized I'd become so focused on working in the business that I wasn't giving enough attention to working on the business. I was pouring my energy into serving, supporting, coaching, creating, and holding space, but not spending enough time stepping back to ask bigger questions.

Questions like:

Is this structure still serving where we're going?

Is this sustainable?

Is there a better way?

And once I started asking those questions, I couldn't unsee the answers.

So this week I did something that felt equal parts exciting and terrifying.

I burned it down.

Not the heart of it. Not the mission. Not the community.

The structure.

The way we've been doing things.

The assumptions I'd been carrying about what it had to look like.

And if I'm being honest, that process brought up a lot.

Fear.

Doubt.

Concern about disappointing people.

The familiar temptation to stare at the entire mountain instead of the next step directly in front of me.

My nervous system was preparing for war. 😅

There were moments when everything felt expansive and clear, and moments when I wanted to crawl under a blanket and pretend none of these decisions needed to be made.

So I did what I've learned to do over the years.

I stopped trying to force certainty.

I let myself move in and out of the discomfort.

I took the next step.

Then the next one.

Then the next.

Because courage has rarely looked like confidence in my life.

Most of the time it looks like moving forward while my knees are still wobbling.

And that's the thing about the Phoenix.

People focus on the rising.

The wings.

The fire.

The transformation.

But the Phoenix doesn't rise without first surrendering the version that can no longer carry it forward.

There is a season of burning.

A season of uncertainty.

A season where the old identity, the old structure, the old way of doing things has to fall away before something stronger can emerge.

This isn't the first time I've lived that cycle.

It won't be the last.

Because rebirth isn't a one-time event.

It's a rhythm.

A practice.

A willingness to trust that what is being created is worth the discomfort of what is being released.

Every good thing I have in my life came after I decided to be brave.

This week was no exception.

💜

What's something you've been feeling called to reimagine lately?

The timeline we were sold as women is honestly kind of tragic.

Our parents, educators, society seems to imply we’re supposed to have everything figured out by 21.. when in truth, most women are just beginning to come home to themselves in their late 30s and 40s.

Career changes at 39.
Entrepreneurship at 42.
Millionaires at 49.
Creative peak between 45–55.

You are not late. In fact, you are right on time.

And what I really want you to hear is this... A lot of the women I work with are building their most aligned and grounded chapter after years of trying to force themselves into lives that never really fit.

This isn’t the “too late” era.
This is the finally doing it your way era.

With structure and support and a nervous system that doesn’t feel like it’s being hunted for sport... You are just as capable as the next woman.

You’re in very good company if you’re craving a shift.

And if you want support building the business, clarity, momentum, and self-trust to actually make that shift real… that’s kind of my thing. 💓

DM me “PHOENIX” if you want the details.

Funny until you realise I’m actually just deeply committed to reminding women that the vision they keep trying to downplay might be there for a reason. 😉

Some desires are ego noise, fueled by fear or conditioning. Sure.

But those feel-good ones that won't go away? They’re signals.

A glimpse of the life, business, impact, freedom, relationship, or version of yourself that actually fits who you are.

And I think we get into trouble when we treat our deepest desires like embarrassing delusions instead of useful information.

Because if the vision keeps tapping you on the shoulder, maybe it’s not random.

Maybe the real question is whether you’re surrounding yourself with people who reinforce your limitations… or expand your sense of what’s actually possible.

Biggest vision right now? Drop it in the comments. I want to hear it.

If your business strategy was built for a 24-year-old man living on protein powder… we should talk.

Because truly.

So much business advice assumes:
consistent energy
clean focus
predictable motivation
zero hormonal fluctuations
minimal emotional labour
and a brain that simply decides things and then… does them.

Cute. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Meanwhile, some of us are building businesses while navigating perimenopause, ADHD tendencies, caregiving, reinvention, actual adulthood, and a nervous system that occasionally responds to “important task” with "absolutely not" .

That does not mean you’re incapable.

It also does not mean the answer is “just honour your flow” while your business quietly gathers dust. Sorry to break it to you.

This is where nuance matters.

Because sometimes low capacity is real.

Sometimes your cycle is telling the truth.

Sometimes your brain needs a different approach.

And sometimes… you’re in avoidance and calling it self-awareness because that feels nicer.

(Respectfully. 😘)

This is why I care so much about coaching that looks at patterns instead of performance.

Not:
“Why weren’t you productive this week?”

But:
“Okay, what happened here?”

Where are you in your cycle?

What’s your actual capacity?

Is this a focus problem?
A nervous system problem?
A prioritization problem?
A hormone problem?
A shame spiral?

Because those require very different solutions.

The goal is not forcing yourself into rigid hustle systems built for someone else’s biology.

The goal is learning your rhythms well enough to create sustainable momentum inside your real life.

That’s when women stop starting over every Monday.

If this feels wildly familiar… hi. 💛

Tell me:
When things get uncomfortable, are you more likely to freeze, avoid, or hyperfocus into an entirely unrelated side quest?