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A lack of compassion can be as vulgar as an excess of tears

Keep coming back; it works if you work it.

If a challenge arises I use system correction before I look for a people correction. Brad Sugars

There is nothing to ‘fix’ in ourselves and digging for ‘what is wrong with me’ is a flawed system

My coach shared this quote with me today and it resonated so much with everything that I have been learning and going through:

"Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won't either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could." - Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum.

It is not easy to sit in the storm of whatever it is that is occurring in your life at the moment or in the past and it is the only thing that we can actually do and when we are ready get up again and love with all the heart and try again and again because THAT IS an experience of living.

And in sharing this I am creating a community of people who this resonates with and who'd like to know more about how to have fun and ease through each and every experiment for the learning that it offers. It is in conversation of such we get to offer love and compassion first to ourselves and others along every step of the way in this sometimes confusing journey of life.

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The only purpose of life is the revelation of confusion.
Bold?

Over the weekend at a dinner conversation with friends I was asked what is a life coach and why does someone need one?

The video that I am sharing is mostly to answer that question and to add that, in my opinion, no one NEEDS a coach. Really. It is as simple of an answer as I can give to anyone. We all can and will live our lives to the best and the fullest of our abilities.

AND YOU CAN DO IT ALONE!

You got all the resources - your intelligence, aliveness, consciousness, wisdom, health and love and there really isn't much more that you need.

AND... if there is a nagging feeling/desire (unrealistic dream like in the video) that you constantly 'hear' as a voice whispering or a sixth sense that you can and something can be different than what it is right now - it is your truth - your intuition - your wisdom speaking to you AND IT IS BEING IGNORED.

WHY?

Because you have tried many times and failed, because it is never going to happen for/to you - it is just too crazy of a dream to even speak it out loud, you don't have x,y,z to do it (not enough) - they can but you can't, they do not understand you, don't hear you and all the victim and villain thinking that is in the way. I know and speak from experience of that mentality and it seems so real!

UNTIL IT'S NOT... When you realize that you still want to do that (whatever it is for you - even to learn singing) you will find a way to create that in your life. And the first step is what can I do differently? What haven't I tried yet? Really slowing down and looking at things/attempts that you have done with honest accountability and testing out something new. For Casey it was hiring a coach and for you it can simply be awareness of your own of something different that you can do relative to what you want.

Where the coach can help you is to see your blind spots and support you with creating new awareness and a system to put it all into action. I know I've been blindfolded my whole life and finally saw all the patterns of repeated behaviours and continue to see them but now it is an invitation to sanity and life lived in reality of what is.

I was so scared of even speaking my dream out loud. I thought that I was too old to study again and become an entrepreneur at the age of 45. My whole life up until then was a search for fulfillment/career that I can enjoy and be driven by. So when I finally stepped onto this path it wasn't for the resources that I had or didn't have to continue my education in becoming a life coach but it was a burning desire within me to see if I can and commit to it. And it is with the help of a coach that I have awakened to the truth of who we are - consciousness and ability to continuously learn through each and every experience.

BUT... there was a phrase that woke me up even before that. As I went back and forth in my mind wondering if I should commit to studying and becoming a working coach and if it is even possible for me, I came upon a phrase in a book that shook me to my core:

"WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO REALIZE THAT WE ARE ALL GOING TO DIE"

And I didn't want to go without giving it a full shot, without attaching myself to the outcome but holding myself accountable every step of the way and not without the fear but through it.

WHAT DREAM DO YOU HAVE THAT SEEMS IMPOSSIBLE but deep down you know you can do?

Sisyphus and the Impossible Dream if you wanna run fast - https://robertomandje.com/please check out my dear friend Mislav's work. he made all fo the animations in this video https://www.you...

What is unconditional love?

What we need isn’t what we think we need. Huh?… 👇🏻

WHAT IS MY EQUIVALENT?

An amazing question, in fact when I first heard it I did not know the meaning of it and what it represented. Practicing to ask this question has been really enabling me to have sanity towards some of the things and situations in my life that help me see clearly especially at the moments of deep confusion and resentment.

Ugh... how much I struggled with the meaning of this and even now recommending to you to listen to this podcast I am short for words. The only thing that I can tell you is that practicing and asking this question got me out of toxic and unproductive thoughts and behaviours. This question is an invitation to slow down and see what is real, as all of us get caught up in our thinking and judgments of others. This simple question of where is it in my life what I see and criticize in people/situations/even politics? That behaviour that I most resent out there, where is that in me?

I get astonished time and time again, that what I see externally always reflects what is going on internally and those behaviours that I most resent out there are what is current in my world. And when the question is asked, there is no more place for resentment and blame - there is a sense of compassion.
Yes, compassion, you heard it right. Try it and you will see for yourself and this may be an invitation to sanity and peace that you've been wanting as you realize that "we are all lost children looking for an identity, looking for a way to feel strength, to feel like we matter..."

Enjoy and feel free to share your insights in the comments!

‎Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond: 022 What is My Equivalent? on Apple Podcasts ‎Show Superpowered Mind with Clare Dimond, Ep 022 What is My Equivalent? - Jul 21, 2024

NO is the kindest word when it’s honest

I’m learning to dance in the rain