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Gratitude changed my perspective. 🍁🍂For years, when I was struggling with depression, people would tell me to “just thin...
10/09/2026

Gratitude changed my perspective. 🍁🍂

For years, when I was struggling with depression, people would tell me to “just think positive.”

Honestly, I found that incredibly frustrating.

When you’re depressed, thinking positive can feel almost impossible.

If your mind is already spiralling, telling yourself to look on the bright side doesn’t necessarily make those thoughts disappear.

But I found something that helped me in a different way:

Gratitude.

Not forcing myself to be positive.

Not pretending everything was okay.

Just taking a few moments to notice something that was good.

A person I was grateful for.

Something that made me smile.

A beautiful day.

A song I loved.

Something small that I might otherwise have overlooked.

Over time, I noticed that this simple practice helped interrupt some of those downward thought spirals.

It gave my mind somewhere else to go.

And slowly, it started changing my perspective.

I could still have difficult things happening in my life and acknowledge them.

But I could also notice that maybe everything wasn’t bad.

There were still good moments.

There were still things I cared about.

There were still things worth noticing.

That’s what gratitude has meant to me.

Not ignoring what’s hard.

Just making room to notice what’s good too. 💖

And sometimes, that small shift in perspective can make a bigger difference than we realise.

This Thanksgiving, I’m especially grateful for the things that remind me there is always more than one way to look at a moment. 🧡🦃








One thing I’ve been learning about people-pleasing is how automatic it can become.Sometimes you say yes before you’ve ev...
10/07/2026

One thing I’ve been learning about people-pleasing is how automatic it can become.

Sometimes you say yes before you’ve even stopped to think about what you want.

You agree because you don’t want someone to be disappointed.

You worry they’ll be upset.

You don’t want to seem difficult.

You feel responsible for making things easy for everyone else.

And because it can feel so automatic, you might not even realise you’re doing it.

I’ve been trying to catch myself before I automatically say yes.

I’ll pause and ask:

✨ Do I actually want to do this?

✨ Do I have the time or energy for it?

✨ Am I saying yes because I want to — or because I’m worried about their reaction?

✨ If I knew they wouldn’t be upset, what would I choose?

That last question can be surprisingly revealing.

Because sometimes people-pleasing isn’t really about wanting to help.

It’s about trying to avoid the discomfort that comes with saying no.

I’m learning that I can care about people without automatically putting their feelings ahead of my own.

And sometimes I don’t need to say yes or no straight away.

I can simply say:

“Let me think about it.”

That little pause can give me the chance to make a choice instead of automatically people-pleasing. 🤍








When I’m overthinking 🙇‍♀️I’ve noticed that when I’m overthinking something, I’m usually not actually getting closer to ...
10/05/2026

When I’m overthinking 🙇‍♀️

I’ve noticed that when I’m overthinking something, I’m usually not actually getting closer to an answer.

I’m just going over the same thoughts again and again.

What if I make the wrong choice?
What if someone gets upset?
What if I regret it?

These days, when I catch myself doing that, I try a few things:

✨ I name what I’m actually afraid of.
Sometimes saying it clearly makes it feel a lot less overwhelming.

✨ I separate what I know from what I’m imagining.
There’s a big difference between a possibility and a fact.

✨ I ask myself what I would choose if I wasn’t trying to avoid everyone else’s reaction.

✨ I give myself permission to stop thinking about it.
Sometimes stepping away gives me more clarity than another hour of analysing.

✨ I focus on the next step rather than the whole outcome.
I don’t need to know exactly how everything will turn out before I move forward.

I still overthink things sometimes.
(Ok, a lot of times 🤦‍♀️)

But I’m getting better at noticing when thinking has stopped being useful.

And that, for me, has made a big difference. 🤍








Fear Isn’t Always a Warning ⚠️Sometimes fear is telling you:👉Don’t do this.👉You’ll regret it.👉Something will go wrong.👉P...
10/02/2026

Fear Isn’t Always a Warning ⚠️

Sometimes fear is telling you:

👉Don’t do this.

👉You’ll regret it.

👉Something will go wrong.

👉People won’t like it.

And sometimes that fear is useful.

But sometimes fear is simply your brain reacting to something unfamiliar.

👉Speaking up.

👉Setting a boundary.

👉Trying something new.

👉Letting someone get close.

👉Choosing what you actually want.

It can feel uncomfortable because you haven’t done it this way before.

That doesn’t automatically mean it’s wrong.

One of the things I love about CBT is learning to pause and question the thoughts that show up when we’re afraid.

Is there actually a danger here?

Or is this just unfamiliar?

What would I choose if fear wasn’t making the decision for me?

You don’t have to ignore fear.

You can listen to it without automatically letting it decide. 🤍








You can understand exactly why you do something…and still not want to keep doing it.You can know where the pattern came ...
09/28/2026

You can understand exactly why you do something…

and still not want to keep doing it.

You can know where the pattern came from.

You can understand what you were trying to protect yourself from.

You can have compassion for the version of you who learned it.

And still decide:

I don’t want to live like this anymore.

Understanding yourself matters.

But sometimes we can spend so much time figuring out why that we forget to ask what we want to do differently now.

Maybe the next step isn’t more analysing.

Maybe it’s noticing the pattern when it shows up…

and trying something new.

A different thought.

A different response.

A different choice.

You don’t have to blame yourself for the way you learned to cope.

But you also don’t have to stay there forever. 🤍








Why is it so hard to believe something good about yourself? 💖Someone tells you that you look beautiful.You immediately e...
09/25/2026

Why is it so hard to believe something good about yourself? 💖

Someone tells you that you look beautiful.

You immediately explain it away.

Someone tells you that you’re good at something.

You think of all the reasons they might be wrong.

Someone says they appreciate you.

Part of you wonders what they really mean.

When you’ve spent years being criticized, judged, or made to feel like you weren’t enough, compliments can feel strangely uncomfortable.

You may have become much more practiced at believing the negative things people said about you than the positive things.

I know this one personally.

I’ve had to learn to stop arguing with compliments.

Not explain them.

Not minimize them.

Not give one back.

Just say thank you.

And I’m still practicing.

Sometimes building self-worth isn’t about suddenly believing you’re amazing.

Sometimes it starts with simply becoming willing to consider that the good things other people see in you might actually be true. 🍂

If receiving kindness or compliments is difficult for you too, this is something we can work on together.

Send me a message if you’d like to talk about working with me. 🤍








You might be more capable than you think. 🪷If you’ve spent years questioning yourself, it can become easy to assume you ...
09/23/2026

You might be more capable than you think. 🪷

If you’ve spent years questioning yourself, it can become easy to assume you need someone else to tell you what to do.

You look for reassurance.

You second-guess your decisions.

You worry about getting it wrong.

You wait until you feel completely certain before taking a step.

But certainty rarely comes first.

Sometimes confidence comes after you make the decision.

After you speak up.

After you set the boundary.

After you take the chance.

After you make a mistake and realize you can handle it.

Self-trust isn’t about knowing you’ll always make the right choice.

It’s knowing that whatever happens, you can respond.

You can learn.

You can change your mind.

You can try again.

You can figure things out as you go.

And maybe you don’t need to trust yourself with everything today.

Maybe you just need to trust yourself with the next decision.🥰

If self-trust is something you’re working on, and you’d like some support along the way, send me a message. I’d love to hear from you. 💜








Your brain is trying to protect you. 🧠Don’t speak up — you could upset someone.Don’t take the chance — you might fail.St...
09/21/2026

Your brain is trying to protect you. 🧠

Don’t speak up — you could upset someone.

Don’t take the chance — you might fail.

Stay with what you know — it’s safer.

Keep thinking about what happened — maybe you’ll figure out how to prevent it happening again.

Don’t trust too easily — you could get hurt.

Don’t rest — you might fall behind.

Your brain is constantly looking for ways to keep you safe.

And sometimes those strategies are helpful.

But sometimes, they keep you small.

They keep you stuck.

They keep you living according to what might happen instead of what you actually want.

This is one of the reasons I love CBT.

We can start noticing the thoughts that are driving our behaviour and ask:

Is this thought helping me?
Is it keeping me safe—or keeping me stuck?

You don’t have to believe every warning your brain gives you.

Sometimes moving forward means teaching your brain that something can feel uncomfortable without actually being dangerous.

That you can speak up.

Take the chance.

Rest.

Trust someone.

Make a mistake.

And discover that you can handle what comes next. 💖








When thinking about it makes it worse. 🪷We’re often told that we need to talk about our past to heal.And sometimes, that...
09/18/2026

When thinking about it makes it worse. 🪷

We’re often told that we need to talk about our past to heal.

And sometimes, that can be incredibly helpful.

But sometimes, going over the same painful memories again and again can leave you feeling worse.

You remember what happened.

You think about what you should have done differently.

You look for answers.

You replay conversations.

And before you know it, you’re right back in the same emotional place.

I’ve learned that I don’t always need to go deeper into the story.

Sometimes I need to step out of it.

To notice what I’m thinking.

To shift my focus.

To use a tool that helps me process what I’m feeling without spending hours reliving what happened.

That’s one of the reasons I love EFT.

Healing doesn’t always mean going back over everything that hurt you.

Sometimes it means finding a different way to move forward. 🤍








What changes when you stop putting yourself last? 🧚‍♀️You might start noticing what you actually need.You might say no w...
09/16/2026

What changes when you stop putting yourself last? 🧚‍♀️

You might start noticing what you actually need.

You might say no without spending hours questioning yourself.

You might make decisions based on what feels right for you—not just what keeps everyone else happy.

You might stop explaining yourself so much.

You might make space for things that bring you joy.

And slowly, your life can start to feel a little more like your own.

It doesn’t happen overnight.

It’s built through small choices.

One boundary.
One honest conversation.
One decision to take yourself seriously.

You don’t have to become a completely different person.

You can simply start making room for yourself in your own life. 🤍








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