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Signs you’re touched out as a mom and don’t even realized it ✋🏻

➡️ You flinch when someone hugs you. Not because you don’t love your family. You just desperately want 10 minutes where nobody needs your body.

➡️ Your skin crawls a little when your partner reaches for you. Not because you don’t love his touch, but because you’ve had kids hanging off you all day and just need to embrace having your body to yourself for a minute.

➡️ You need 5 minutes alone in the bathroom just to feel like a person again. Why do kids always feel the need to be on your lap even while you p*e?

➡️ You crave being alone more than usual.

➡️You get irritated when someone asks for “one more thing.”
It’s not the request. It’s that your nervous system is already saying, “I have nothing left to give.”

➡️You feel overstimulated by EVERYTHING.
Noise.
Questions.
Climbing.
Crying.
Someone saying “Mom?” 47 times.

➡️You feel guilty for wanting personal space. You wonder, “What’s wrong with me?”
Nothing.
You may simply be touched out and overstimulated.

Being touched out doesn’t mean you’re a bad mom. 🤍
It means you’re a human being who has been needed a lot.
Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is give yourself a little space to come back to yourself.

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5 things I wish someone told me before I had a baby 👇🏻

1. You will not “just know” what to do. Nobody does. You end up Googling everything or doom scrolling socials to figure it out.

2. The house will not always be clean. Some days, but mostly never. Especially as they get older. Let it go.

3. “Sleep when the baby sleeps” is the worst advice ever given. Your mind never shuts off and you won’t actually sleep. And if you do, they wake up.

4. You’ll grieve your old life a little, even while loving your new one. That’s normal.

5. You need a plan more than you need advice. Single, married, divorced, working, not working…. It matters. (That’s why I built one — more on that soon 👀)

Save and send this post to your pregnant friends 🤰🏻.

Kind of chic to do motherhood in a way that feels good 👑

Hey, I’m Chantel 🤍

Labour & delivery nurse, mom of two, and infant sleep & well-being specialist.

I’ve supported hundreds of moms through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum... & I’ve also lived it myself.

Here’s the truth:
No one really prepares you for what happens after baby arrives.

⁉️The questions.
🙉The anxiety.
🤳🏻The constant Googling at 2am wondering if everything is normal.

That’s why I’m here — to give you honest, reassuring, real-life guidance through the first year postpartum.

If you’re a new mom (or about to be), you’re in the right place. 🫶🏻

Let me know where you are in your motherhood journey in the comments! 🤰🏻👶🏻

“How much sleep does my baby actually need?”

If you’ve ever found yourself Googling this at 2am with a baby on your chest… you’re not alone.

The truth is, baby sleep isn’t one-size-fits-all. Figuring out how much sleep a baby needs isn’t just about numbers—it’s about understanding your baby’s developmental stage, biology, and cues. Here are the key steps to guide you:

1. Know the General Sleep Ranges by Age.
👉🏻 Use developmental guidelines as a starting point:
0–3 months: 14–17 hours in 24 hrs (including day/night confusion)
4–6 months: 12–16 hours (with 3–4 naps)
7–12 months: 12–15 hours (2–3 naps)
1–2 years: 11–14 hours (usually 1 nap)
These are ranges, not rigid rules.

2. Track Your Baby’s Sleep Over 3–5 Days
👉🏻Write down:
When they sleep and wake
Nap lengths
Overnight stretches
Signs of tiredness vs. overtiredness
This helps you spot patterns and total sleep time.

3. Observe Baby’s Behavior, Not Just the Clock
👉🏻Are they:
Happy and alert when awake?
Fussing or resisting naps/bedtime?
Waking frequently at night?
Sleep quality and timing matter more than hitting exact hour goals.

4. Adjust Based on Their Age + Cues
👉🏻If your baby seems overtired, gradually shift bedtime earlier or add rest opportunities. Some babies thrive with more than the “average”—others with less.

5. Use a Flexible Routine (Not a Rigid Schedule)
👉🏻Babies aren’t robots. Especially in the first year, they need rhythm—not strict clocks. Anchoring the day with consistent wake, nap, and bedtime windows can help.

If you’re feeling confused, overwhelmed, or just need someone to break it down with compassion and facts…

Grab The Ultimate Postpartum Mom Bundle — it includes baby sleep normals, age-by-age expectations, and support for the whole first year.

Because knowing what’s normal changes everything.

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🚨✨EXCITING NEWS✨🚨

It’s been quiet… so quiet on here for over a year now.

Being a mom and running a business is HARD.

Accepting that your last baby is indeed your last is HARD.

Finding yourself again postpartum is hard.

But for me? The most excruciating was learning to accept that every waking minute that I spent taking in my last ever newborn moments would never be something I get to experience again.

PPA/PPD, hormonal shifts, adjusting to being a mom of 2, running a business, and dealing with the punches life threw my way had me pushing my business aside and ultimately putting it on hold completely. I needed to focus on myself and my own mental health while taking a step back.

But now, I’m back. I finally feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest and that I have a grasp on my life again. I am finally ready to start connecting with and helping mamas again… and man am I excited!

I will officially be re-launching my business on March 18th, so keep an eye out for an exciting announcement that you won’t want to miss! 💃🏻

I can’t wait to start connecting with all you mamas again, I’ve missed this community! 💜

Hey mamas! A little re-introduction since it’s been a hot minute 🙃. I’m Chantel, a Baby-Led Sleep and Well-Being Specialist, and I want to do something extra special this Mother’s Day! 🌸

Soon, I will be releasing my BRAND NEW digital product: The Ultimate Postpartum Mom Bundle, but I am wanting to treat 15 moms EARLY ACCESS to it for 45% OFF (so only $25!)! It is 80+ pages of literally EVERYTHING I wish I had access to and knowledge of when I had my first baby, all in one place! 🥰

Simply like or comment on this post and I will reach out to those interested. Happy early Mother’s Day! ♥️

Brew the coffee and prepare for a day at home in your pjs, it’s been a night!

If you are feeling like that, you definitely aren’t alone. Here’s 4 ways you can reset after a rough night (or a couple 😵‍💫):

👉🏻 down a glass of H2O, have a hardy breakfast, and THEN enjoy that cup of joe. Jumping straight to the caffeine does nothing but mess with your blood sugar control.

👉🏻 soak in some vitamin D! We all know that it’s amazing for us, but it also helps boost your mood and tell your body that it’s morning time.

👉🏻 call on your village. These times are HARD and leaning on people to help lessen the load or just listen to your struggles can help immensely.

👉🏻 do something for yourself. It doesn’t have to be elaborate, even just something as simple as changing out of your pjs can make you feel better and more human.

What do you find helps you to get through the sleepless, rough patches with your baby? Let me know in the comments!