Healing Relationships

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POINT OF ATTRACTION

WHAT"S WORKING WELL IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS? Whether it's with your partner, your family, your kids, your friends or colleagues at work, ask yourself: What is going really well?
As a human being, we have a tendency to focus on what's not working, and we want to fix it. We live in a society where most of the people like to complain. BREATHE! and CELEBRATE what's working well, whether it's in your relationships or your life in general. Focus on what you are doing well, and give you a hug of love.
There is nothing to fix, there are only opportunities to celebrate.

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DO YOU PRACTICE THE POWER OF INTENTIONS? Let me share with you my experience with manifesting abundance into my life, and creating the life I want. The power of intentions is simply to set some intentions about your day, your month, your year, or for a meeting, or for a relationship... As you set your intention, you can close your eyes and imagine that it has already happened. What do you see? What do you hear? What do you say to yourself? How do you feel? Whatever comes is enough. Just embrace the moment fully and see how it feels. 1/The first key is not trying to figure it out how this is going to happen. Just let it go, just carry the feeling of it in your heart. 2/second key: Trust that the Universe will send your way the experience that you need to grow, not especially what you want. Be ok with that.
3/ The magic happens when you really surrender and stop trying to make things happen.
I have experienced fully the POWER OF INTENTIONS for two years now, and my life is even better than what I imagined. I am blown away by the synchronicities and the healing energy that is supporting my journey.
You can have that too. For years, I have been trying to force things to happen with no great results, at least not the results that were fulfilling. Everything shifted when I realized that I carry The Universe inside my heart, and therefore I carry my power of intentions. I am co-creating with the Universe. I listen, I pay intention, and focus on the present moment. If you want to know more how to create a flow in all areas of your life, and especially in your relationships, It's time to have a powerful conversation with me where I will share my experience so that you can be inspired to do the same.

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Infinite gratitude to DR WAYNE DYER who has inspired me to live my life with no fear and no resistance. ALLOWING to experience more love, connection, gratitude, purpose, and growth. KEEP GOING even if you have no idea where you go.
EMBRACE COURAGE.

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We need to TRUST more that everything is always working for our highest interest, even if it doesn't feel that way.
We need to BREATHE to reconnect with reality and the present moment. There are no stories that we can't question.
We need to GIVE THANKS to ourselves, to the Universe, to people in our lives for the daily lessons.
TRUST
LOVE
LOVE MORE
TRUST MORE
APPRECIATE MORE
SURRENDER MORE

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BE BETTER AT FEELING. We have a natural tendency to avoid how we feel, we don’t know what it really means. We resist and argue with reality. Practice being better at feeling whatever comes. Even if it’s unpleasant and uncomfortable. As we feel more, we open up a space for HEALING. learn more at www.ericbensoussan.ca

What do you need COURAGE for?

COURAGE TO SHOW UP, Courage to speak, Courage to stand, Courage to make new choices, Courage to let go, Courage to live fully, Courage to say No, Courage to say YESSSS, Courage to try something new, Courage to feel the hurt, Courage to wait, Courage to leave, Courage to love and be loved, Courage to forgive, Courage to believe in our power, Courage to appreciate more.
What your biggest Courage? Courage to ... Please share.

RAISING AWARENESS WITH OUR KIDS

RAISING AWARENESS WITH OUR KIDS: This morning I have been reminded how powerful we can be with our kids helping them to be aware of how they think, and how they use their words. The conversation between my 5 years old daughter: Me: I think I will keep you at home today, that you can recover fully from your cold, and you can be cozy at home. Let's ask mom if she is ok. My Daughter: oh but she won't agree... (The minute I heard that I realized that she was making an assumption) Me: Can you be sure that she will tell no? My Daughter: No. So I took few minutes to explain to her that she was making an assumption, and she was creating an unpleasant story. I explained to her that we tend to do that a lot, and because of that we are limiting ourselves. So I encouraged her to be courageous enough to always ask questions and clarifications.
She immediately smiled and felt great. Then we received a text from her mother saying: Sure stay at home with dad.
I have been reminded to always explain to kids what we learn as an adult, and how we can inspire them to be free from stories. Of course, it won't prevent her to experience stories and assumptions, but it will certainly show her that she has the power to choose.

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BE FULLY ALIVE, LET GO OF THE PAST.

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Once you understand and take responsibility for your triggers, then you create awareness. From that awareness you can make new choices and start to create a new experience. learn more at www.ericbensoussan.ca

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HOW TO IMPROVE COMMUNICATION? I always get asked this question. Especially from people who are in a relationship.
There are many ways to improve communication, but here is one tip to absolutely change your conversations: Come from a place a love sharing your experience. Let me give you some examples:
-"When you said that, Here is my experience and how I feel" vs "Why did you say that to me, that was mean..."
- "When you are not listening to me, here is my experience and how I feel" vs "You never listen to me and you don't care about me..."
The main difference in communication by sharing your experience is that you take responsibility for how you feel, and for the experience, you are having. You don't blame or judge the other person. Nobody wants to feel judge ever, and that's one of the big blocks in communication. And then you don't expect the other person to make you feel good. As long as they acknowledge how you feel, they don't need to agree with you or to change your experience.
This can make a huge difference in the way you communicate with your partner. You can invite them to do the same.
Practice and reframe. And feel the change.

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When you start to promote love, you expand the possibility to see love everywhere.

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Beautiful share from Teal Swan about our kids:
Our children do not belong to us. They belong WITH us, but not TO us. They come in with a unique life purpose and mission. It is like a pearl that is contained inside of a lotus blossom. It is a gift that we have been put in the position to meet their unique needs so that they can unfold like a flower blooming in response to rain and to the sun. We need to recognize and tune into each child’s unique essence. We need to listen and see and feel them with all of ourselves so as to make the right decision for them. We need to see how doing this is actually the best thing for US.

Separate who you are from who each child is. When you impose what you think is best on your child, what you are often doing is cutting them off from their own unique calling and unique spirit and unique signature. They are already in touch with who they are and what they want. Our job is to help them actualize this. Every interaction with your child is an opportunity to either bolster their spirit or diminish it and in doing so, either support your own expanding consciousness or hold it back.

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If you can accept that you always do your best. There is no need to judge yourself or to hang on to the past.

Eric Bensoussan - Healing Relationships

Do you make assumptions? You probably do. Especially if you are a people pleaser. You always assume that people's needs come first, and you don't want them to be upset with you. So you believe what they say it's true. You are afraid of asking questions or ask for clarifications. You have already created so many stories, and scripts, that you think you know what people mean or need. When you make assumptions, you block communication, and you disconnect yourself from reality. Join us tomorrow for a great workshop, and learn how to stay connected to yourself, and express your needs.
https://www.ericbensoussan.ca/stop-being-people-pleaser.html

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I use to take everything personally. I use to make assumptions about people, situations, and about what people would expect from me. I have set up myself for suffering. Being contraint to react to life and people. It was exhausting. Until I realized that I have choices: - I am not a victim - I have to take responsibility for my wounds - I am responsible for my needs - I am my priority - Before reacting, I ask questions and clarify to make sure I am connected with reality and none of my stories - I am strong and confident - I am allowed to express my feelings and my needs - I am free of people’s opinion. This transformation lead me to live from a place of truth and love. I create the life I want. I am not a people pleaser anymore. Do you want to learn more? Check my last workshop in my bio, and Join Dr.Kate and me for a transformational time.

NEW DATE: May 9th 2018

We have added a NEW DATE - May 9th :
Online Workshop: HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER.
USING THE TOLTEC AGREEMENTS- May 9th
Hosted by Dr. Kate and myself.
Learn how to reclaim Strength, Confidence and Personal power.

https://www.ericbensoussan.ca/stop-being-people-pleaser.html

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Last Chance to Register: Online Interactive Workshop. HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER.
Join Dr. Kate Dow & Eric Bensoussan - Healing Relationships
for a powerful workshop on how to stop being a people pleaser next Wednesday, May 2nd.

Grab your spot and come feel accepted and supported and guided out of the labyrinth of people pleasing.

You matter too much my dear ones!!

Reach out if you have questions.

https://www.ericbensoussan.ca/stop-being-people-pleaser.html

Workshop: HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER.
Hosted by Dr. Kate and myself.
USING THE TOLTEC AGREEMENTS- May 2th
Stop pretending you are ok when you are not.

https://www.ericbensoussan.ca/stop-being-people-pleaser.html

Workshop: HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER.
Hosted by Dr. Kate and myself.
USING THE TOLTEC AGREEMENTS- May 2th
Stay true to your needs and your feelings without caving.

https://www.ericbensoussan.ca/stop-being-people-pleaser.html

Workshop: HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER. May 2th
USING THE TOLTEC AGREEMENTS
Hosted by Dr. Kate and myself.
Say YES when you want to say YES
Say NO when you want to say NO

https://www.ericbensoussan.ca/stop-being-people-pleaser.html

Workshop: HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER.
Hosted by Dr. Kate and myself.
USING THE TOLTEC AGREEMENTS- May 2th
Stop pretending you are ok when you are not.

https://www.ericbensoussan.ca/stop-being-people-pleaser.html

Workshop: HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER.
Hosted by Dr. Kate and myself.
Say YES when you want to say YES
Say NO when you want to say NO

https://www.ericbensoussan.ca/stop-being-people-pleaser.html

Are you a people pleaser or do you know someone who is one? Join Dr. Kate Dow & Eric Bensoussan for a great Online Workshop: HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER.
https://www.ericbensoussan.ca/stop-being-people-pleaser.html

Last Chance to Register: Online Interactive Workshop. HOW TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER.
Join Dr. Kate Dow & Eric Bensoussan - Healing Relationships
for a powerful workshop on how to stop being a people pleaser next Wednesday, May 2nd.

Grab your spot and come feel accepted and supported and guided out of the labyrinth of people pleasing.

You matter too much my dear ones!!

Reach out if you have questions.

https://www.ericbensoussan.ca/stop-being-people-pleaser.html

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PRO-MARRIAGE OR PRO-DIVORCE?
I had a conversation last week with a woman who is going through a breakup but really wants to get back with her husband. She believes that they can both make it work, with effort and communication.
One of the first questions she asked me as a Relationship Coach was: Are you pro-marriage?

I immediately answered her: I am pro-happiness, I am pro-personal power, I am pro-responsibility, I am pro-freedom, I am pro-love, I am pro-peace. I believe in Marriage, and I believe in Divorce.
I am certain she asked me this question because I have been divorced three times, and she may I have thought that I would encourage her to stay separated based on my personal experience.

However, there is no right or wrong answer. The answer is different for everyone and also depend on situations.

My three marriages and three divorces are just the way I have experienced my life and relationships so far.

Getting married was everything I wished for when I entered into a serious relationship in the past and I was craving to create a family.
Getting divorced was everything I wished for when I lost my personal power in relationships. I realized that I was a people pleaser and I was focusing my energy on everybody else but me. I had created some co-dependent relationships and handed my partners the responsibility for my own happiness. Did I wish to get a divorce? Certainly not.
At that time, it seemed it was the only way for me to get back my confidence, my personal power, and my freedom.

My personal path was that I needed to be on my own to reconnect with my deepest self, and take responsibility for my own happiness.
I could have made different choices and stayed in the relationships. Divorce at that time just felt right for me.

Regardless of whether you are in a relationship or going through a divorce, I am focused on getting you to a safe place of awareness so that you can regain power, strength, confidence, and clarity. You remain empowered with your own decisions. Whatever decisions you make, I support you 100%. I just want to make sure that you are aligned with your values and the life you want to create.

I have helped people to overcome the emotional challenges of divorce.
I have helped couples improve their relationships and communication skills so they could experience a new way of being in a partnership. In this way, they could create a safe space to co-create instead of being co-dependent.
I have helped individuals understand their personal dynamic, patterns, and beliefs so that they can break free from their past stories. They have transformed the way they relate to themselves and have gained, a new level of awareness in relationships. Some of them have chosen to get back with their ex, some of them have decided to try something new.

Everyone and everyone's experiences are unique.
I believe the only way to know what's best for you is to strengthen the relationship you have with yourself.
The key is to overcome your patterns and triggers so that you can get a better understanding of your personal dynamic.

Once you have that awareness, you are able to make new choices and have the clarity to choose what's best for you.
This new awareness has the power to impact and shift every single relationship you have.

I am happy to answer any questions.

Eric Bensoussan - Healing Relationships

What's the story of your relationships? We all have a story behind our relationships. What is the common thread? What are the patterns or behaviors that keep showing up?
There is an opportunity to understand ourselves through our relationship patterns. And if we get real, we can take responsibility for it. Taking responsibility is the first step of awareness, and recognizing that there might be another way.

Last day on earth: What would you do right now?
I would probably be grateful that have lived a life full of love and discovery. I would call all the person in my life that I could reach to tell them how much I love them, how much they are beautiful, and how much they have contributed to my life. Then I would go to nature, and listen to the best music, and feeling joy, love and peace. What would you do? Learn more about my work at www.ericbensoussan.ca Share yours.

Last day on earth: What would you do right now?
I would probably be grateful that have lived a life full of love and discovery. I would call all the person in my life that I could reach to tell them how much I love them, how much they are beautiful, and how much they have contributed to my life. Then I would go to nature, and listen to the best music, and feeling joy, love and peace. What would you do? Learn more about my work at www.ericbensoussan.ca

Eric Bensoussan - Healing Relationships

Moving forward: Letting go your past stories, and create a new experience. At some point in my life, I have realized that there was no need to identify myself with my past, and circumstances. I detached myself from my circumstances just to be able to feel the experience without make it mean anything about myself. Deep down, I knew I was more than my experiences. I decided to feel in order to heal. I decided to change my stories into an opportunity. This has changed my inner dialog. I have created more awareness, to change my thoughts, and to make new choices. This was the beginning of a new experience. learn more at www.ericbensoussan.ca

It's the best day of my life!!!

If today is the best day of your life, what would that look like? Close your eyes and envision the best day of your life as if it already happened. Call a friend, and tell them that this is the best way of your life, tell them everything about it, as if it already happened. Share in the comment below the best day of your life. learn more at www.ericbensoussan.ca