Polly Bloom Divorce & Relationship Coach · Clinical Hypnotherapist

𝗖𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗶𝘅𝗲𝗱.

As parents, grandparents and carers, we've all had moments we'd like to take back. I know I have.

This isn't about blame or getting everything right. It's about recognising that our presence can be just as powerful as our words.

Sometimes children's emotions become bigger because they're trying to make sense of changes in their lives, such as separation, divorce, moving home, starting a new school or losing someone they love. Often, they don't yet have the words to explain how they're feeling.

When children are upset, it's natural to want to make everything better.

But sometimes the greatest comfort isn't having the perfect answer.

It's sitting beside them.

Listening.

Helping them understand that every emotion is welcome.

That they're safe.

And that they don't have to face difficult feelings alone.

Children don't need perfect adults.

They need adults who are willing to pause, reflect and repair.

🧡 Every emotion is an opportunity to strengthen connection.

Perhaps today, instead of trying to fix every feeling, let a child know you're there.

Much love,
Polly 🧡

When grief or emotional overwhelm takes hold, it doesn’t only affect your thoughts; you may feel it throughout your body.

Slowing down, breathing and noticing where you are holding tension can help quieten the noise and create a little more space to think.

You don’t have to work everything out today. Sometimes, the first step is simply giving yourself space to breathe.

Where do you notice stress or grief showing up in your body?

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝗰𝗸, 𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗖𝗮𝗻 𝗙𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗧𝗼𝗼 𝗠𝘂𝗰𝗵

Separation, divorce, infidelity and betrayal can leave you in a state of emotional shock.

When your nervous system is overwhelmed, things that would normally feel manageable can suddenly feel impossible. Patience wears thin. Tempers become frayed. Small decisions feel enormous, and it can be difficult to think clearly or stay fully present.

And yet, your children may need your reassurance, patience and emotional availability at the very same time you are struggling to regulate your own emotions.

That does not make you an inadequate parent. It makes you a human being going through something deeply painful.

This is why finding support and restoring some internal balance is so important. Before we can begin making changes or dealing with everything ahead, we often need to help the mind and body feel safer and steadier.

Regulation before transformation.

The support you seek for yourself now doesn't only help you through today; it can shape the way your children experience this chapter of their lives.

When they see a parent asking for help, learning to respond rather than react and creating more emotional safety at home, they carry those lessons with them into adulthood.

Getting support for yourself can be one of the most loving things you do for your children - and for the adults they will one day become.

You do not have to navigate all of this alone. 🧡

Much love,
Polly Bloom 🧡

𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘂𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀.

They simply need us to be fully present.

Life is busy.

Phones buzz.

The washing needs folding.

Dinner needs cooking.

Emails keep arriving.

There always seems to be something demanding our attention.

But when we stop...

put everything down...

and give a child our complete attention...

something beautiful happens.

They begin to feel safe.

Being fully present doesn't have to mean hours together.

Sometimes just 10–15 minutes of genuine, uninterrupted time tells a child:

"I'm here."

"I'm listening."

"You matter."

"Right now, there's nowhere else I'd rather be."

Because when we give them our full attention, we tell them something incredibly powerful:

"Right now, you are the most important person in my world."

💛 Children may not remember every conversation.

But they'll often remember how you made them feel.

Have you ever noticed how differently a child responds when they know they have your complete attention?

Much love,
Polly 🧡

"𝗜'𝗺 𝗼𝗸𝗮𝘆."

How many times have we heard those words from a child?

Sometimes they really are okay.

Sometimes they simply don't have the words to explain what they're feeling.

Children don't always have the emotional vocabulary to explain what they're feeling.

They may feel worried, confused, overwhelmed or unsettled, but struggle to find the words to describe those feelings.

Instead, they might complain of a tummy ache.

Become unusually quiet.

Have trouble sleeping.

Or suddenly become angry.

If, in the past, their feelings have been dismissed or brushed aside, they may begin to believe that talking about them won't make any difference.

Perhaps one of the greatest gifts we can give a child is the emotional safety to discover that every feeling is welcome and every feeling matters.

💛 Have you ever realised, afterwards, that there was much more behind a child's "I'm okay" than those two little words?

Much love
Polly 🧡

𝗖𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝗳𝗮𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘄𝗲 𝗼𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘀𝗲.

We work so hard to protect our children, but they are incredibly perceptive.

They notice the atmosphere.

The silence.

The tears.

The whispered conversations.

The slammed doors.

They also notice the little things we sometimes overlook...

A roll of the eyes.

A sneer.

A tut.

A heavy sigh.

A look that says more than words ever could.

Children may not fully understand what's happening, but they often sense the emotion behind it.

Sometimes they don't tell us how they're feeling because they can see we're struggling too. They don't want to add to our worries.

So they tell us they're "fine."

But what we see on the outside isn't always what's happening underneath.

Perhaps one of the greatest gifts we can give a child is a safe space where they know it's okay to talk, it's okay to cry and it's okay to share what's on their heart.

💛 I'd love to hear your thoughts...

Do you think we sometimes underestimate just how much children see and absorb?

Much love,
Polly Bloom 🧡

🌼 𝗖𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆'𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴.

Instead, their emotions can show up in other ways.

They may become anxious, withdrawn, angry, clingy or struggle at school. They might say, "I'm okay," even when they're carrying worries they don't know how to express.

As a former Learning Mentor, I saw first-hand how difficult life changes can affect children.
Today, through Blooming Mind by Polly Bloom, I'm bringing together my years of experience as a Learning Mentor with my coaching and therapeutic skills to support children and the adults who care for them.

Whether a child is navigating:

💛 Family separation or divorce
💛 Anxiety and worry
💛 Bereavement or loss
💛 Friendship or school challenges
💛 Major life transitions

..they deserve to feel seen, heard and understood.

Blooming Minds was created because I believe every child deserves emotional support, and every parent deserves guidance without judgement. My hope is that no child has to carry their feelings alone, and that families know they don't have to figure everything out by themselves either.

If you'd like to know more, or if you're worried about a child in your life, please send me a message. I'm always happy to have a gentle, no-obligation conversation. 💛

Much love
Polly Bloom 🧡

𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗶𝗿𝗿𝗼𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱... "𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝗜 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗲?" 🧡

It rarely happens overnight.

It happens one small compromise at a time.

You keep the peace because it's easier than another argument.

You say yes when every part of you wants to say no.

You put everyone else's needs before your own.

You worry about disappointing other people but rarely stop to ask yourself what you need.

Then one day you realise you've become so busy looking after everyone else that you've lost touch with yourself.

If this sounds familiar, I want you to know something...

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱.

You've simply become disconnected from yourself.

And that can change.

As a Divorce Coach and Clinical Hypnotherapist, I help women gently reconnect with who they are beneath years of people-pleasing, emotional survival, self-doubt and difficult relationship dynamics.

Healing isn't about becoming someone new.

It's about remembering the woman you were before life taught you to make yourself smaller.

🧡 𝗔 𝗴𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆...

Before you automatically say yes to something this week, pause and ask yourself:

"𝗜𝗳 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲, 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗜 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗲?"

You don't have to change anything today.

Just notice what your answer is.

Awareness is where healing begins.

If you'd like to understand these patterns a little better, I've created a free 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗣𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝘀 𝗚𝘂𝗶𝗱𝗲.

Inside you'll find gentle explanations and a self-reflection checklist to help you recognise some of the behaviours that can quietly erode your confidence, identity and wellbeing over time.

🧡 Download your free copy here:

https://breathe.pollybloom.co.uk/space-to-breath-30-523360

I'd love to know...

𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗽𝘂𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗲𝗹𝘀𝗲'𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀 𝗮𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻? 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗲𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝗲𝗴𝗶𝗻 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸? 🧡

Much love,
Polly Bloom 🧡