The Wolf & The Wild Thing

An extensive part of my training as a somatic and trauma therapist has been in Polyvagal Theory (Stephen Porges) a framework that has been helping people understand their nervous systems and how trauma plays out in their bodies for several decades. It’s more recently gained popularity and become the golden child theory for all kinds of practitioners. In January 2026 a paper was released, supported by 39 experts across various fields stating that Polyvagal Theory is untenable.

Now, I don’t feel that this is a bad this at all. Polyvagal Theory is exactly that… a THEORY. And when I have introduced it to my clients, I have made this very very clear. I also made it clear that these theories are maps we can use as tools but definitely not the terrain. The terrain is our direct experience and it’s entirely personal to each body. And the great news is that the paper doesn’t invalidate our experience but criticises the biology and evolution theories in PVT.

With that in mind, I wanted to offer something today that can support you in mapping YOUR nervous system and somatic responses.

Read the rest here https://thewolfandthewildthing.com/blogs-about-somatic-therapy-trauma-healing/2026/3/16/how-map-your-nervous-system

Folkestone friends!
This January I am teaching a wide range of movement classes at The Loft.

Shake the Dust is back on Tuesday & Saturday mornings.
And I am teaching an introduction to somatic movement course which begins this Sunday 11th January for three weeks.

It's all going to be a lot fun & deeply nourishing!
All details and booking here https://thewolfandthewildthing.com/upcoming-events-yoga-movement-folkestone

Soooo excited for this incredible offering from beginning this Friday.

37 facilitators over 5 days are offering 33 incredible workshops/conversations/practices for navigating the polycrisis.

I recently blogged about the trauma response Tend & Befriend. This is how instead of fight or flight we might actually seek out connection, community and nurturing in response to crisis. This feels like a beautiful example of that and I would invite you to sign up if you feel in need of that.

All the recordings will be available for 60 days after the festival so you can lean in over the summer. There is a solidarity rate of £20 and a supporter rate of £75 and no one will be turned away for lack of funds.

I will be offering a dance for our hearts on the Sunday at 3.15pm and I can’t wait for all the other incredible offerings.

Head over to for tickets.

I thought I would be posting way more this week.
Making the most of being here before I leave as promised on Sunday.

But the truth is I don’t want to.
I want to put my energy into my real life community, my email list, my blog and STARDUST.

We all have limited energy and this space is costing me so much especially with chronic illness. I am feeling many many things, breaking up with something that has played a minute by minute part in my life for over a decade is scary.

It’s shaped me and made me believe that this is the be all and end all as a business owner but being deeply shadowbanned for nearly two years has shown me that is not true.

My key concerns are making sure I stay in engaged in action (thank you for providing a space for that) building my business without socials AND staying in connection. Friends can expect more messages from me :)

Anyway. I will share more over the coming days. I have some beautiful offerings coming that deserve one last show off on here but if you want to stay in touch and still receive from me then my email list is where you want to be.

Much love.

That’s it.

I love you. I love us. I love our home.

I will continue to show up messily, with my whole heart because I love you.

I have a week left on this platform and I feel a lot of grief around that. I journaled this morning about the beautiful connections I have made on here. How much creativity I have witnessed. How much I have enjoyed making things for you, the humans that have been here with me. But I know it’s the right thing to do.

And I look forward to all the beautiful ways I can connect and love you away from here.

I also want to add a call to action.
Sharing money with humans who need our help right now is an act of love. Please consider expressing yours by supporting the families via the care funds organised by she posts receipts every week and you can send money to PayPal.me/kaytmendies

Or you can come shake the dust with me this Tuesday morning at 7.30am for some fiery love. All money shared to the care funds. You know where to book.

I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you ❤️

Film scans from this spring.

Shame on you for your silence.
But are you REALLY GOING TO DO NOTHING while children are starved to death???

Please email your MP today. Let them know how you feel, what they are complicit in and demand that they fight for our government to intervene AND stop selling weapons to Israel.

Folkestone MP is Tony Vaughan and this is his email
[email protected]

.lammy there is blood on your hands.

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18 months of genocide and everyday it gets worse.
Why have you been silent?
Please show up.

14,000 babies could die in the next 48hrs.
The UK government is doing the bare minimum right now as they are still sending arms to Israel.

Now is the time to SHOW THE F**K UP.
You do not have to be the person who did nothing.

Call to actions in the slides.

I am so excited to be guiding my first shake the dust class at Gather & on Ramsgate Harbour. I am so in love with this space and their ethos.

Shake the dust is a practice that has deepened my relationship to life, body and earth. I love to offer this for other humans.

Think EPIC soundscape, HIIT, yoga, Pilates, somatics, dance and rest. 75mins of pure aliveness 🌀❤️

We will be getting fiery ahead of Saturns transit into Aries (I will offer this online next week) and I am already diving into the music.

Come and play with us at at 6.30pm Thursday 22nd May. Cost is £14 and booking is under upcoming events in my bio.

And it requires regular space to be witnessed, expressed and moved. Grief is not just for when we lose people, although this grief is deeply important, it’s more than that, it’s something we are continually experiencing. Especially during these times of Polycrisis. If you choose to live a life of aliveness & vitality then your grief needs ritual, it needs practice and it needs to be able to move.

Last summer I had the joy of hearing Robin Wall Kimmerer speak. Someone asked her… where do we find hope? Her response was; you lot need to learn how to grieve first. I was in the middle of training as a therapist during that time and I knew then that this is what I wanted to offer the most support in. My own grief is my constant partner, I am in relentless relationship with it and through this I am becoming more alive, experiencing more joy while also and most importantly having a deeper capacity for the pain of these times. My grief makes sure my action stays rooted in love. My grief supports me in staying engaged & connected.

It’s not what we should be avoiding, it’s what we should be running towards.

And that’s why I want to start offering regular grief circles because this work is not meant to be in isolation.

This is a space where you can gather with your fellow humans, to bear witness to one another and be held. No grief is too big or small, you might be aware of your grief or maybe not but perhaps the above is calling to something in your body?

This space will be held therapeutically, with a somatic offering, space to share and listen and also to discuss how we can deepen our relationship to our grief which is ultimately just our love and animacy through practice.

Who is this for?

We will gather on Thursday 29th May at 7pm UK time for 90mins. The session won’t be recorded, this work requires vulnerability and participation. Cost is £12 with £4 from each place being given to the community care funds for Gaza via

Full details and booking are in my bio link under upcoming events.

Photos from the forest by me.

STARFATHER, SALTMOTHER

A workshop to mark Jupiter’s move into Cancer.

Come to the shore, the horizon.
Come to the meeting place.
Come to the body.
Come to where the cosmic father expands and the great mother of the zodiac holds us close.

Together we will move, rest, invoke, and divinate under the mythic gaze of Jupiter entering Cancer – a rare transit, calling us to expand through feeling, to soften into sovereignty, to remember the body as home.

We will:
✧ meet the body through somatic movement
✧ explore Jupiter as the sacred masculine and Cancer as the cosmic womb
✧ dance in the space between becoming and belonging
✧ share tarot in circle as a practice of feeling and witnessing

Guided by +
Where:
When: 14th June, 2-6pm
Exchange: £45

Book via link in bio under upcoming events.
All genders welcome.