12/04/2026
“I was told that during the time of the ancient Egyptians, I was a queen.
A bad queen - I misused my power and was not very kind to those I governed.
As a result of these actions, I accrued some ‘karmic debt’ towards various people, one of whom chose to show up - five life times later - as my mother.
Like all of us, she tried her best with the tools that she had at her disposal. But not always: she was both severely narcissistic (a result of a childhood riddled with abuse and neglect) but also deeply envious, which could lead to intentional cruelty.
It wasn’t easy.
But if I take a ‘past life’ approach to this challenging dynamic, I realise that the suffering that came with being her daughter is just a kind of rebalancing.
What I put out there, simply came back to me.
Five life times ago, I wasn’t very kind; this life time I got to experience what it was like for others to not always be kind to me.
Fair’s fair.
There are many lenses through which you can view the specific life you turned up in - where you were born, when and to whom - and sometimes opting for one lens over another can afford the required perspective to unlock what might have been keeping you small or sad up until that point.
This is what happened to me…”
To read more of my latest blog, click below ♥️
(Art credit: Christian Schloe)
Why Heal If It’s All Just Karma? | Lavinia Brown
I was told that during the time of the ancient Egyptians, I was a queen. A bad queen - I misused my power and was not very kind to those I governed. As a result of these actions, I accrued some ‘karmic debt’ towards various people, one of whom chose to show up - five life times later - as my mot
11/04/2026
Food nourishes in more than one sense - it provides emotional comfort, it can be trusted to deliver ‘mentally’ and it sustains us physically.
Just as a close, secure (and therefore unconditionally loving) attachment holds the promise of doing the same.
So it’s no suprise if, when attachment to another human misses the mark - a dynamic we are not in control of - we may turn to food instead - something we can feel in control of.
The same subsititution can be seen with what could be described as a form of workaholism (starting with school, continuing through university and finding a permanent home within a career).
What you put in is what you get out, the rules of engagement are more clearly defined, there is a right and a wrong way of doings in order to get ahead (at least to a more certain degree than within a relationship defined by an insecure attachment).
So being a high achiever at school and/or disordered eating as an adolescent or young adult can be seen as different types of coping mechanisms for emotionally volatile childhoods.
They provided the consistency, structure, sense of control and reliability that our parents often couldn’t.
If this resonates, it’s not too late to reverse the relationship blueprint you received as a child and find alternative, healthier ways to cope with wounds that can be healed. I’m here to support you with that process 💗 www.laviniabrown.com/private-clients
29/03/2026
How to do ‘memory work’ is a technique I teach you so that you can integrate unprocessed memories from your past that are hijacking you in the present.
For example, feeling disproportionately triggered by:
- being late
- the kids fighting
- being ignored
- being disrespected
- feeling trapped by social expectations
All disproportionate reactions have their root cause in your past - most of these in your childhood, adolescence or young adulthood and occasionally, in the more recent past.
And because of this, they can be healed - simply by going back to the original experience that remains unprocessed...
..(usually because you were unable to do so yourself at the time - perhaps you didn’t feel safe to express your feelings, you weren’t allowed to or you were too little).
Memory work is very easy and yet hugely powerful - just look at this reaction my client had last week when practising it for the first time!
If and when you are ready to apply this very same method to your own, challenging memories and get rid of triggers in the now that are affecting how you show up as a mama or partner, let me know.
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20/03/2026
Inner child work is all about SHEDDING the patterns that you unconsciously picked up during childhood (that were rolemodelled to you by your parents).
The patterns that govern:
➡️ how compassionately (or harshly) you treat yourself
➡️ how easily you connect with (or push away) others
➡️ how safe (or unsafe) the world feels
Because if you don’t, they continue to have power over you, even without you realising.
And you unconsciously end up living your life according to someone else’s fears, worries and limiting beliefs rather than your own.
You are someone else’s puppet, never fully embodying your own path.
To accept and love yourself fully then, means starting at the beginning. And disentangling the TRUE you from what you absorbed that was never yours.
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14/03/2026
‘“If I die, then you’ll be sorry.”
“Then, you’ll realise how much I was truly hurting. How I wasn’t actually ok underneath it all, even though I seemed so strong.”
“And then you’ll feel the love you should have shown me at the time, that you hadn’t realised that I so badly needed.”
“But then, it will be too late...”
This is what my inner child screams from inside - to the world, my children, husband, clients, family and friends - when she feels unseen in her efforts to connect and to be there for others.
She feels grief that no-one is there for her, rage that no-one realises that they should be, and spite - that it is worth dying to prove her need for love.
For her, not feeling seen leads to literally unbearable feelings of worthlessness.
These are so great that she feels like she doesn’t exist and therefore shouldn’t; that without connection with any other to whom she can be a mirror, she is not there and therefore doesn’t deserve to be.
Because this is my ‘CORE WOUND’.
And like all other wounds, it originates in childhood - it’s why feeling invisible to me feels like a matter of life or death.
(Because to a child who can’t survive on their own, that’s exactly what it is.)
But it’s a ‘core wound’, because, unlike others which are not so deep, the inner child can feel SO dysregulated by the former that her feelings of unsafety can consume Adult You too.
And your usual healing tools - such as inner parenting - don’t seem to work.
This, mama, is why I’ve written you a guide on how to spot one - to remind you that when you think you’re failing, you’re not.
You’re just dealing with an altogether different innerwork beast.’
To read more of my latest blog, click below ♥️
If I Die, Then You’ll Be Sorry - A Guide To ‘Core Wounds’ | Lavinia Brown
“If I die, then you’ll be sorry.” “Then, you’ll realise how much I was truly hurting. How I wasn’t actually ok underneath it all, even though I seemed so strong.” “And then you’ll feel the love you should have shown me at the time, that you hadn’t realised that I so badly needed....
10/03/2026
Understanding behaviour allows us to empathise with it.
So when your child’s behaviour is hard to understand or feels unreasonable, it can be difficult not to feel triggered by it.
Especially if, as a child, you:
- were punished for behaviour that your parents saw as unreasonable
- had to learn how to adapt your behaviour in line with your parent’s values in order to avoid punishment
..so you are used to ‘performing’ in a way that is deemed reasonable to others.
Choosing to bring your children up in a different, less inflexible way to your own parents is one thing. Being able to embody this choice is another.
Because whatever your mind chooses may be at odds with what your body remembers.
And if you remember having to dampen or repress your needs for others, then your body will react to behaviour from others who aren’t doing so. Even if that’s your children.
Living a less stressful life, being a calmer parent, feeling more connected to your partner, being a more productive employee - it all goes back to childhood, and to healing the self-limiting beliefs that you unconsciously created then.
Here are some of the ways in which you can work with me when you are ready: online, self-led foundational course (Finding Freedom); online supported programme alongside twice-monthly group coaching calls (Making Peace With Your Past), or one-to-one guidance (Private Client work) ♥️
06/03/2026
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05/03/2026
Your inner critic(s) didn’t pop out of nowhere.
It usually has many masks - all of which are INTERNALISED versions of EXTERNAL voices from your past - ones that you were susceptible to and therefore most often, childhood or adolescent figures of authority.
They also don’t disappear into nowhere just by willing them to.
You not only need to be able to accept their presence but also to transform their power over you.
Which comes from healing the unprocessed feelings provoked by the original perpetrators (the real life people who spoke to you in this way) that are behind the voices in your head.
The truth is, you are none of the things that your inner critic labels you as.
These are all just subjective judgements.
But there will be a deeper reason that you have allowed specific critics to remain in place - because their criticism of you serves a purpose.
Inner work is the key to working that out.
Here are some of the ways in which you can work with me when you are ready: online, self-led foundational course (Finding Freedom); online supported programme alongside twice-monthly group coaching calls (Making Peace With Your Past), or one-to-one guidance (Private Client work) ♥️
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