Annalie Howling

The drama triangle and the rules of engagement for playing it.

There are 3 reactive roles in the drama triangle people switch between in conflict: Victim (“poor me”), Persecutor (“it’s your fault”), and Rescuer (“let me / us save you”).

Spoiler alert the only way to win with the drama triangle is never to play at all!

It is easier said than done not to engage, particularly when you have previously been a victim of somebody else’s behaviour or betrayal and then you find that perhaps due to a smear campaign or on boarding of others to listen to their narrative you’ve become the villain / persecutor or in the drama in someone else’s story.

It can feel so unsettling to see yourself represented as the very thing that you yourself have been harmed by and to watch the person that caused you harm playing the role of a victim.

Pay it and them no heed, time truly is the greatest truth teller of all and by you stepping out of that game out of that triangle they will look around eventually for other players and you’ll be relieved that you’re no longer anywhere near a system designed to continually cause chaos.

Prioritising your peace is always the power move 💫❤️

Annalie x

My favourite person 🩷 in one of my favourite places

Solo parenting is hard, travelling as a solo parent can be so daunting & anxiety inducing especially the first time you go on a trip.

I can remember vividly all of the fears that I had, so many that I nearly talked myself out of the trip.

I wanted to share this for anyone going through this journey that my bond with my daughter and our trips are now both of our favourite times together. You are more than enough ❤️ they don’t lack any love.

Moments that become core memories for us both 💫

Annalie xx

A lot of new faces around here and I thought I would share some of my favourite things.

As we go into the weekend I would love to hear more about you & what you love ❤️

Happy Friday everyone, we made it!

Annalie x