18/05/2026
There’s a point in life where the questions start changing.
Stop asking “What should I achieve next?”
Answer this instead:
“Who am I now?”
“Now what should I do?”
“Am I stagnant or just exhausted?”
“Have I outgrown this?”
“Why does my life look okay on paper but not feel right anymore?”
These are the kinds of questions that often show up in midlife. Not necessarily because life has come to a standstill, but because you are changing.
And to answer them properly, you need a moment to stop and actually think. 👉🏽 To notice what has shifted. 👉🏽 What no longer fits. 👉🏽 What feels a bit too humdrum. 👉🏽 And whether the life you have still gives you enough of what you need now.
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Sometimes one honest question is enough to start changing the direction of things.
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That’s often where coaching can help: creating the space to untangle what’s going on 👉🏽 help you understand what you actually need now 👉🏽 work out what comes next 👉🏽 and recognise what you may need to let go of because it’s slowing you down.
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Hi, I’m Vivienne, a midlife and career coach helping people think clearly, rebuild confidence and work out what comes next.
11/05/2026
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At some point in midlife, a lot of people realise they’ve spent years being who they needed to be.
But one day, they admit that something no longer fits > their work > their priorities > their relationships.
Or even the version of themselves they’ve been carrying around for years.
And that’s usually the point people find me.
They know they can’t keep ignoring the feeling that something needs attention.
Most of my clients arrive with tangled thoughts, too many options, no direction that feels quite right, or a sense that they’ve lost themselves a bit along the way.
The work we do together is about untangling those thoughts, understanding what’s really going on, and working out what comes next.
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If this post resonated with you, book a discovery chat and we can talk things through properly.
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I look forward to hearing from you.
20/04/2026
Their comment made me smile but it also sums up how I tend to work.
This is someone who’s come back to work with me again. Not because nothing changed the first time (I hasten to add) but because it did.
When clients return, we’re not starting from scratch. There’s history there, in a good way!. They don’t have to explain themselves all over again.
And there’s already a trust that's been built.
They’d already done some of the thinking, made shifts, got themselves into a better place and built some momentum. Now they want to build on that with someone who already knows them. We can pick things up mid-thought and get straight into it.
Which means we get to the nitty gritty much faster and sessions adapt depending on what’s going on.
The gist is this: you don’t have to figure everything out alone.
And if you’ve done some of this work already, we can build on it, together.
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Hello, I’m Vivienne, a midlife and career coach.
If you’ve already started figuring things out but feel a bit stuck on what to do next, let’s get it moving - whether we’ve worked together before or not.
You know the drill by now... the 🔗 is in my bio. ☝🏼
14/04/2026
When I’m asked “why did you become a life coach?” my immediate answer is: because I like helping people. And I don’t mean that in a vague, woo-woo way.
When a client goes from “I’m not sure what I want” to “Oh, so that’s what I’m capable of.” or, when they start noticing the choices they can make for themselves or when they realise they can step off the treadmill of the same old - same old because they’ve worked out what actually suits them, rather than comparing themselves to others.
Those are the transitions I love to see and feel proud of them.
And they’ve figured it out themselves.
Sure! I’m there to nudge, ask the questions, challenge where needed but they’re the ones doing the thinking.
And that’s the bit I love.
Helping my clients join the dots.
And yes, when a message like this pops up on WhatsApp, it does put a spring in my step.
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Do you see yourself in this?
Want a space to talk it through and get off the treadmill?
Book a discovery chat to find out how we can work together and join the dots.
09/04/2026
Sprout is a chatty reminder that when you’re working from home, it’s very easy to forget the basics…
To get up, stretch, drink some water. To take lunch at a reasonable time. To step away from the screen so you can actually come back and focus.
So while Sprout has absolutely no boundaries…the rest of us probably need a few.
1) With work - logging off properly at the end of the day.
2) With the people around us - being clear when we need time and space to focus.
Despite HR not approving of Sprout and his lackadaisical work style, he’s on the payroll and here to stay! 😽 And to remind me and you that stepping away from your laptop for a few minutes isn’t a waste of time, it’s all part of it. ☕️ 🫖
Who’s your Sprout??
How do you remember to stop hunching those shoulders and walk about a bit to re-focus??
P.S. have you read this sitting up straight? good for you.
For the rest of you - have a little stretch and sip of water. 💧 🧘🏼
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If this has hit a nerve, and you want to get clearer on your boundaries (work or life), book a one-off session with me.
90 minutes to untangle things, talk it through, join the dots.
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29/03/2026
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Being heard can change everything.
I’m one of many trained volunteers at , which offers free, regular face-to-face support for people who want to talk openly about their suicidal feelings, without judgement.
What this role has shown me, time and again, is that talking does help. But it only really helps when someone is properly listening.
When someone feels heard - not rushed, not interrupted or talked over, not analysed or offered solutions, things have a chance to shift for them. The pressure can ease. Sometimes, that’s enough to keep going.
Talking about what’s going on can release that ‘pressure cooker’ feeling - the sense that there’s no way out.
Every shift I’m reminded that everyone is carrying something. We don’t see it on the surface, which is why it’s so easy to make assumptions about the people we cross paths with.
Which is why small gestures matter more than we think.
A bit of patience.
A smile to a stranger.
A moment of attention.
Listening, without trying to fix.
"..but what does a suicidal person look like?"
“Like you, me, and the person sipping coffee over there.”
Someone feeling suicidal doesn’t have a “look.” They don’t always appear sad or depressed. Often, they exist behind a mask of smiles, busy schedules, and everyday-ness.
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If you or someone you know is struggling, please seek support.
Trust me, you are not alone.
I’ll share helplines in the comments below.
21/03/2026
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If you’re recognising yourself in this and feel like you’re standing in a room that no longer fits, book a discovery chat with me and we can start to work out what comes next.
I’m Vivienne, a life and career coach for people navigating the messy, meaningful middle of life.
Whether you’re questioning what’s next, feeling disconnected from who you are, or simply tired of going through the motions, I can help you pause, reflect, and reconnect with what matters.
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