Shakti Sundari

Patriarchy & individualism is the water we swim in

I’ve said the very same thing, but most men get defensive / don’t want to listen.

Maybe if they hear a male elder say what I’ve said, it’ll land better?

And, of course, if it does that totally proves my point (& a well documented fact): women’s voices & wisdom are routinely overlooked or disbelieved. It’s written into the culture.

The sad irony is that it’s precisely the behaviours men display such as 1) objectifying & sexualising women or 2) openly hating on them, that guarantees them no access to the feminine: the very thing they crave &/or which could heal & support them.

A man responded to my blog on sexual violence against women & men’s defensiveness around this topic by saying women shouldn’t be wearing yoga pants in public ! 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭

Gosh, as a dance & yoga teacher, I had no idea my attire meant I’ve been “asking for it” all these years ! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

What do you think ladies? Shall we all start sharing selfies of ourselves in yoga pants IN PUBLIC as a form of sacred activism ?! 🤔 🧘🏻‍♀️ 📸 ✨✨✨✨✨

There’s a powerful opportunity in the world right now for men to step up & become the new heroes of our time.

If you’re a man & you get defensive rather than proactive when you hear about the “online r**e academy” everyone is posting about today, then you are part of the problem.

Dating advice for men - don’t lead with a comment on our looks.

We don’t want to feel objectified or lusted after.

We want to feel SEEN & SAFE.

Seen means you are genuinely interested in us as people.

Safe means you display kindness & respect.

Sure, you may find us physically attractive, but that tells you NOTHING about our compatibility in relating.

Nor does it tell you anything about our attraction to you!!

We have no interest in your rating of our beauty. And you’ll only get OUR interest if your behaviour demonstrates you’re genuinely interested in who we are.

It’s only once you matter to us that we care that you find us beautiful.

But to get to that point you first need to catch our attention & prove yourself to be worthy of our time. Which any man who leads with objectification is not. We simply block, avoid or fail to respond to men who initiates with comments like that.

So quit the “hey beautiful”’s, notice if you’ve slipped into objectification & remember the woman in front of you is a whole person deserving of care, curiosity & respect. If you can’t offer that just now, then leave her alone. It’s a waste of your energy & her time.

Dear Divine Masculine,

I do not demand your perfection …

This message came through this morning & I’’m guided to share it with you.

Namaste 🙏🏼❤️‍🔥🌹✨✨✨