Ruchika Punj

One thing I’ve realised after living abroad is that comfort doesn’t always come from big things.

Sometimes it comes from the small things you don’t even notice at first.

The way people wait their turn.

The way a crossing actually feels like a crossing.

The way daily life has a certain rhythm because people generally know what is expected.

And when you are new to a country, these small things matter more than people realise.

Because settling in is not just about finding a house, school, job or routine.

It is also about slowly feeling that your nervous system can relax a little.

You start trusting the everyday systems around you.

You start feeling less on edge.

You start noticing that order in small public spaces can create a sense of calm in your private life too.

That has been one of my quiet observations about life in the UK.

It is not perfect.

But some small things do make everyday life feel easier.

🇬🇧 What’s one small thing about the UK that made life feel calmer for you?



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When I first moved to the UK, I genuinely thought people were apologising because they’d done something wrong.

Then I started noticing something…

Someone accidentally walks into you…

“Sorry!”

You both try to move out of each other’s way…

“Sorry!”

You ask a simple question in a shop…

“Sorry…”(before they answer!)

At first, I found it confusing.

Then I realised that in many situations, “sorry” isn’t really an apology.

It’s often a way of saying:

• Excuse me.

• Let me pass.

• I acknowledge you.

• I don’t want to inconvenience you.

It’s less about admitting fault and more about keeping everyday interactions polite and comfortable.

Now, after living here for a while, I catch myself saying “sorry” more often too! 😄

It’s one of those small cultural differences that you don’t fully understand until you experience it yourself.

🇬🇧 If you’ve lived in the UK…

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What’s the funniest “sorry” moment you’ve experienced?

For the longest time, I thought confident people were simply born that way.

Then I started creating reels.

Every time I recorded one, I questioned myself.

Is my English good enough?

Did I explain it clearly?

Will people understand what I’m trying to say?

I wanted confidence before I posted.

But something unexpected happened.

The more I showed up, the less those questions controlled me.

Not because they disappeared.

But because I realised confidence wasn’t the starting point.

It was the result of taking action, even when I didn’t feel completely ready.

I think this applies to so many parts of life.

• Speaking up in meetings.

• Learning to drive.

• Starting a new career.

• Moving to a new country.

• Beginning something you’ve never done before.

We often wait until we feel confident.

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What have you been waiting to feel confident enough to start? or

How much of your life is spent waiting for “one day”?

I’ll be happier when work settles down.

When the children are older.

When I lose weight.

When I earn more.

When life feels less busy.

Without even realising it, we keep postponing joy.

I’ve caught myself doing this too.

Saving experiences for “later.”

Waiting until I felt more confident.

Thinking I’d enjoy life properly once everything was in place.

But life rarely becomes perfectly organised.

There’s always another goal.

Another responsibility.

Another reason to wait.

Sometimes we become so focused on preparing for the future that we miss the life quietly happening today.

Maybe today isn’t perfect.

Maybe your to-do list is still long.

Maybe there are things you’re still working towards.

But perhaps there is also something beautiful about today that deserves your attention.

A cup of tea.

A conversation.

An evening walk.

A quiet moment by the window.

Life doesn’t only happen after everything falls into place.

It happens in these ordinary moments too.

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For the longest time, my mind had a currency converter that never switched off.

I’d see something for £20…

….and instantly think,

“That’s over ₹2,000.”

A coffee with friends?

“Is it really worth that much?”

A swimming lesson for my daughter?

“That’s so expensive in rupees.”

A short taxi ride?

“Back home I could travel so much farther for this.”

Without realising it, I wasn’t making decisions based on my life today.

I was making them based on a currency I no longer earned or spent every day.

Of course, being mindful with money is important.

But constantly converting everything back into rupees meant I was often measuring UK experiences using Indian prices.

And they simply aren’t comparable.

Different country.

Different salaries.

Different cost of living.

Different lifestyle.

One day I caught myself doing it again and thought…

“If I’m earning in pounds, living in the UK and building a life here…why am I still making every decision through yesterday’s lens?”

That doesn’t mean spending without thinking.

It means making decisions based on value, not just conversion.

Because if we keep mentally living in one country while physically living in another…

we never fully settle into either.

If you’ve moved countries, have you ever caught yourself doing this too?

Sometimes the biggest lessons aren’t the ones we teach.

They’re the ones we quietly witness.

Watching my daughter during her swimming lesson reminded me of that.

She didn’t become confident because someone told her to be.

She became more confident because she kept showing up.

One lesson at a time.

One small attempt at a time.

One little improvement at a time.

It made me realise how often we expect ourselves to feel confident before we begin something new.

A new job.

A new country.

A new skill.

A difficult conversation.

But confidence rarely comes first.

Experience does.

The first time you drive alone feels uncomfortable.

The first presentation feels nerve-wracking.

The first swimming lesson feels scary.

And then, little by little…

what once felt impossible starts to feel normal.

Watching our children grow can be a beautiful reminder that we’re allowed to be beginners too.

Growth isn’t about getting everything right.

It’s about showing up again even when it feels uncomfortable.

What’s something you’ve started recently that you’re slowly becoming more confident in?

It rarely starts with one big sacrifice.

It happens through hundreds of small decisions.

You choose the restaurant everyone else wants.

You postpone buying something for yourself because someone else needs it more.

You keep saying,

“I’ll do it later.”

Until “later” becomes months…or even years.

For example….

You remind everyone else about their appointments.

But you’ve been postponing your own health check.

You encourage everyone else to rest.

But when you’re tired, you tell yourself to just push through.

You happily make time for your family, friends and work.

But when it comes to doing something just for yourself, guilt quietly appears.

Over time, putting yourself last stops feeling like a choice.

It simply becomes normal.

The difficult part is that many women don’t even notice it’s happening.

Because caring for others is beautiful.

But constantly forgetting yourself isn’t.

Looking after yourself isn’t selfish.

It’s what allows you to keep showing up for the people you love without losing yourself in the process.

When was the last time you chose yourself without feeling guilty?

Hi, I’m Ruchika👋❤️

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When I first moved to the UK, I didn’t consciously notice this.

But over time, I started appreciating it.

Whether you’re standing in a queue, using an ATM, paying at a self-checkout or quickly checking something on your phone, people generally give you personal space.

They don’t usually stand too close or look over your shoulder.

It’s one of those small things that isn’t written anywhere.

No one talks about it.

But it quietly shapes how everyday interactions feel.

It made me realise that respect isn’t always shown through big gestures.

Sometimes it’s as simple as giving someone enough space to feel comfortable.

These small habits are easy to overlook until you’ve experienced life somewhere different.

I’m curious…

What’s one everyday habit where you live that makes people feel respected?

I’d love to hear your experiences.

🇬🇧 Life in the UK
Sharing the little things nobody tells you until you live here.

When we first moved to the UK, there were days when my daughter felt a little hesitant about taking Indian food to school.

Like many children adjusting to a new environment, I think she simply wanted to fit in.

As parents, we often want to tell our children, “Be proud of who you are.”

But confidence doesn’t always work like that.

Sometimes, it grows quietly.

Recently, she came home and said,
“Mum, my friends love Indian curries. Can you make some for them?”

That one sentence made me smile.

This was the same little girl who once wasn’t sure about taking Indian food to school.

Now she wanted to share it.

It reminded me that confidence often grows when children feel accepted, included and safe enough to be themselves.

We can’t force that journey.

But we can support them while they find their own confidence.

As a mum, moments like these stay with me far longer than I expected.

Has your child ever surprised you with how much they’ve grown in confidence? I’d love to hear your story. ❤️

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