Ashley The Parent Coach

Why did I become a Parent Coach?

Because most of us don’t have the’ village’ anymore and I believe parenting shouldn’t feel like a solo mission. 🚀

I love helping parents:
✨ Trade overwhelm for confidence
✨ Turn chaos into calm
✨ Build stronger connections with their kids

Every "aha!" moment, every relieved smile—that’s why I do this. If you’re ready to feel empowered (not exhausted), let’s talk! 💬

🌟 One Quick Tip to Boost Your Child’s Resilience! 🌟

Resilience is literally the ability to bounce back (recover) from challenges or adversity.

One simple, quick way to help your children be able to do this, is to normalise failure!

Failure is a vital part of growth, but we have to learn this. Whether your child is young or a teen, understanding that setbacks are learning opportunities helps them become more confident and resilient adults. 💪✨

👉 Share stories about of how you have messed up, as often as you can! No matter how old your child is they all become interested when (as parents) we share our failures! “I said the wrong thing in a meeting today” or “I forgot about an important thing I had to do”. Then talk about what you learned, what you would do differently next time. Or even just laugh about it!

Your children are so much more likely to be self-compassionate and learn from their mistakes, if they see you doing it.

Remember, failures are our stepping stones to success! SHARE YOURS! 🚀💖

Simply saying less can work like magic if your struggling to get your teen to listen to you, or even engage with you.

Teenagers are navigating a world full of changes, and sometimes all they need is to be heard.

Instead of giving advice or judgments, try to listen actively (give eye contact, repeat what they say for understanding and show empathy).

It can be hard for parents to transition from giving instructions and advice... but the truth is no one really likes being told what to do, especially teenagers. So try to listen 80% off the time and only talk 20% and see what happens!

I am thrilled to be a guest on Marlow FM 97.5 business’s show this Thursday at 2pm, alongside Sara Alston from Stowhills Estates and hosted by the wonderful We’ll be chatting all things local business—plus how supporting parents’ benefits businesses.

This is excitingly, my mini Desert Island Discs as we get a song choice! I've gone for a 90s classic. American female lead vocalist, can you guess which song it is?

Please tune in or listen to the recording later @ Listen Again | Marlow FM 97.5 - Business Show 08.5.25.

If you'd like further information on parenting support please get in touch via www.AshleytheParentCoach.co.uk

Have a lovely sunny bank holiday wkd!


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“Mum. Mum. Mum. MUM. MUUUUM” 😵‍💫

It can really do your head in!What if every time you heard it though …..you did a quick squat? 🏋️‍♀️

Turning the incessant calls into a fitness benefit! 1 squats per ‘Mum’ = much much stronger legs. 💪

Although if your children are anything like mine they will realise and just start doing it more! 😩 Maybe not the best parenting idea I’ve shared ahead of Mother’s Day.

If you’re looking for some actual proper evidence based parental advice, don’t judge me on this, check out the feedback on my website instead.

Www.Ashleytheparentcoach.co.uk

I’d love to support you manage any parenting frustrations you may have.

Wishing you some peace on Mother’s Day. ❤️

**Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, but you don’t have to do it alone!** 🌟

Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or just in need of some guidance on this wild parenting journey? You’re in the right place!

Hello 👋 I’m Ashley, The Parent Coach, and I’m here to help you navigate the ups, downs, and everything in between. Whether you’re struggling with tantrums, communication, or just finding balance in your family life, I’ve got your back. 💪

✨ What I offer:
✅ Personalized coaching sessions tailored to YOUR family’s needs
✅ Proven strategies to build stronger connections with your kids
✅ Tools to create a calmer, happier home

Parenting is tough, but you’re tougher. Let’s work together to make it a little easier—and a lot more joyful. 💕

📩 DM me or click the link in my bio to book a FREE discovery call today! Let’s start this journey together.

🌟 Parenting Isn’t About Perfection; It’s About Connection! 🌟

Are you worrying about whether you’re doing a good enough job or getting it 100% right? All the science says there is no definitive guide to parenting! Instead, it’s simply about focusing on building genuine connections with our children.

Whether it’s a cuddle, a spontaneous dance in the lounge, or simply sharing a biscuit, these moments can make your child feel treasured. So, if you’re feeling in doubt, just swap the pursuit of perfection for some heartfelt interactions!

Better connection almost always leads to better behavior!

👉 Get in touch if you'd like support on how to build connection without the pressure of perfection.

www.Ashleytheparentcoah.co.uk

“Children should be seen and not heard” is a phrase I imagine everyone has heard. It originated in the 15th century and was initially used to dictate how young women should behave before it began to apply to children. So, we have two wildly outdated notions wrapped up in one phrase!

Today, educators, child psychologists, and neuroscientists agree that this approach is not suitable for modern parenting—especially when it comes to understanding our neurodiverse children. 🧠✨

I am not advocating for children to rule the roost; they need firm boundaries and the ability to listen. However, studies show that when children feel heard, they develop better social skills, emotional regulation, and self-worth. As Dr. Daniel Siegel, a renowned psychiatrist, states, “When children feel felt, they learn to feel for others.” This connection to caregivers ultimately leads to better behavior and a stronger bond between parent and child.

Children should be listened to so they learn how to listen. If you're interested in creating an environment where your kids can express themselves and be heard, let’s connect! I’m here to support you on this journey.

Did you know that all Disney sites have a Hug Rule? 🤗✨

Disney characters can’t break off a hug until the child does, to make sure that children never feel their favorite characters pulling away from them.

How lovely is that? ❤️

This simple principle speaks to the importance of connection and basicaffection in a young child's life.

Apparently, it takes 20 seconds to get the full positive endorphin effects of a hug, so go for a longer one than usual and don’t break off until they do. It’s a simple, no-cost, and immediate connection builder. 🌈

✨ A hug a day keeps the worries away! ✨

For more simple & effective routes to connection with your child, please get in touch! 💌

www.AshleytheParentCoach.co.uk

Elf on the Shelf: A Parent Coach’s’ Perspective! 🎄

The Elf season kicks off this Sunday morning for better or worse - with some parents dreading it and others loving it. Before it starts, here are two insights from me:

1) The Pressure is Real! Doing the Elf every night can feel overwhelming, especially during a busy month that often involves lots of drinking! I loved it at first (the Frozen pictures below was the absolute pinnacle) but after nearly a decade I’ve run out of energy and ideas. Thankfully, my eldest no longer believes - which I thought would upset me but as she’s decided to take on the Elf role this year—I am delighted! I have a friend who plays it cool, and her Elf only changes place every few days, she tells her children he’s a "lazy elf." I envy her laid-back approach and would strongly recommend it. If you're feeling the pressure, know that it’s okay to take it down a notch. Sometimes, less really is more! Children would rather have a more relaxed parent.

2) Reframing Behaviour Expectations: While it is tempting to use the Elf as a behaviour monitor—“He’s watching, so behave!”— there is a better path. Instead of instilling fear of being watched, let’s encourage our children to make good choices even when no one is looking. The ultimate goal is for them to develop a sense of responsibility and self-control, not just temporary fear based compliance. This holds true for Santa cams too! Additionally children who believe and see themselves as naughty could get anxious about being watched. So, if you do, do the Elf thing - try to go with the joy of it vs any watching eyes.

If you want to discuss some positive ways to manage misbehaviour please get in touch.

3 Simple Ways to Safeguard Your Child’s Screen Time

We are the first generation of parents navigating the rise in screen time and it can feel overwhelming. You're not alone if you feel this way but it’s important we calmly teach our children how to use screens responsibly.

Here are my top 3 evidence-based strategies to help your family to manage screentime:

Establish Phone-Free Zones
Agree screen-free areas in your home, especially in your child’s bedroom. Keeping devices in communal spaces encourages better interaction and reduces exposure to inappropriate content. This simple rule can lower risks and enhance family connections.

Delay Social Media Access
Postpone your child's entry to social media until they’re at least 13, longer if possible. Children must be emotionally ready for these platforms, as social media is often a gateway to harmful content like violence or self-harm messaging. Accidental exposure can lead to curiosity and repeated exposure through algorithms. Keep them away from social networks for as long as you can and set parental controls to enforce this limit.

Create a Usage Contract
Consider drafting a straightforward contract with your child outlining when and where screen time is acceptable. Though it may seem formal, it’s an excellent chance to discuss responsible usage and the dangers of excessive screen time while you’re in a strong negotiating position. Discuss guidelines, including occasional device access for safety checks. Establishing a weekly screen-free night can be a great starting point. While respecting their privacy, reassure them your intentions aren’t to invade their space but to understand their online interactions.

To be a fantastic parent in this regard, model healthy screen habits! Join them for the screen-free evening and be mindful of your own phone usage around them.

Had a great time leading an ADHD workshop for parents at Claytons Primary School today!

It was so rewarding to discuss strategies for managing hyperactive behaviors in children.

Thank you to the school for having me!