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#kindnessmatters #helpothers | Murat Aydin | 69 comments Not every pause is weakness. Some people are doing their best just to stay afloat. What they need isn’t judgment. It’s kindness. It’s help without asking. It’s someone who sees the weight they carry and doesn’t walk away. You don’t have to fix everything. But your presence, your words, y...

All welcome to join us at the ADHD support group Friday 10th April at the Manvers Arms from 11-1pm. Feel free to drop in for advice and support or just a friendly chat and meet like minded people who get it! 😬☕️☺️💗🎊

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Grief and ADHD — The Part People Don’t See
Grief with ADHD can feel different.
Not because the love was any less.
Not because the loss hurts any less.
But because ADHD changes how the brain processes emotion.
One minute you might be crying so hard you can barely breathe.
The next minute you might find yourself laughing at something random.
You might feel guilty because your brain briefly forgets the grief —
and then it comes crashing back in waves that feel overwhelming.
People with ADHD often feel emotions very intensely, but they also struggle to regulate them.
So grief can look messy, confusing, unpredictable.
You might: • Feel numb one moment and devastated the next
• Avoid thinking about it because it feels too big
• Hyperfocus on memories
• Feel guilt for not grieving the “right way”
• Struggle to organise practical things during loss
And then there’s the executive function side of grief —
paperwork, phone calls, arrangements, decisions.
The world expects you to function normally while your brain is trying to process something enormous.
If you have ADHD and you’re grieving, please remember this:
There is no correct way to grieve.
Your brain isn’t broken.
Your heart is responding to loss in the only way it knows how.
Be gentle with yourself.
Grief isn’t something you get over.
It’s something you learn to carry.
And some days, carrying it is heavier than others.
That’s okay 💗

There will be no ADHD support group at the Manvers Arms this Friday 13th March due to a Family bereavement.

Understanding Meltdowns and Shutdowns in Neurodivergent Children | Dr. Rawhi Abdat posted on the topic | LinkedIn Before You Correct the Behavior… Understand the Nervous System In classrooms, homes, and therapy rooms, we sometimes see two very different reactions from neurodivergent children. One child may cry, scream, or throw themselves on the floor. Another may suddenly go silent, avoid eye contact, and se...

I’m an 8 year old with ADHD, and my teacher has just shouted at me…

One minute the teacher was talking. The next, a big blur. Next thing I know, everyone in the class is writing in their books.

“What are we supposed to be doing?” My face feels hot. My mind begins to race. I start to panic.

I don’t want to get embarrassed in front of the class so I ask the person sitting next to me for help. The teacher catches me. In front of the whole class she gives me a row for not paying attention.

Little did I know, I wasn’t silly or a troublemaker. My brain was doing something known as ‘dissociation’ - a coping mechanism where neurodiverse kids mentally detach due to stress in their environment.

This zoning out (which I still do today) feels almost dream like. Time speeds up. And you are completely unaware of your surroundings.

The trick to helping a child with ADHD understand a task is to explain it:

✅ One-to-one
✅ One step at a time
✅ And repeat it a second time

Schools may say they don’t have the time. But my take is that they’d find the time to provide alternative arrangements for a child in a wheelchair in PE.

The issue is that the school system is choosing not to give them time, because of deeply embedded stereotypes about the motives and behaviour of the child with ADHD.

The irony? Once we understand the task - we’ll complete it faster than anyone else.

The truth? We are not lazy - we actually work harder than anyone else just to keep up.

The answer? We just need a little bit of support - understanding and empathy doesn’t take much time, but will make a lifetime of a difference for the next neurodiverse generation ❤️

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Ps at the start of 2026 I made a promise to help 1000 people take up exercise for free (including those with neurodiversity).

I don’t know where I’d be without exercise, but I know it’s overwhelming for many, so…

I have a created free guide called ‘Confused to Confident - Get Exercise Ready in 13 days’ (suitable for all ages)

DM me ‘Confident’ now to get it 😊❤️ just doing my bit to give back!

After hearing the news that a school has banned a child with autism from participating in a school trip, I feel the need to write this. There are boys and girls who do not invite anyone to birthdays, for example. There are kids who want to be on a team but don't get picked because it's more important to win than to include these kids. Kids with special needs aren’t weird, they just want what everyone else wants: to
to be accepted!! Can I ask a question??. Is anyone willing to copy and paste this post on their wall without sharing, like I did for a friend? they also need full love and support! ❤️💜💙💚

🧠 ADHD management tips that actually work

ADHD isn’t a lack of willpower—it’s a different brain operating system.

A few things that genuinely help:
✨ Work with your brain, not against it.

ADHD runs on interest, novelty, urgency, and reward. Make boring tasks more fun, add timers or mini-deadlines, and reward yourself right after finishing.

⏱️ Short sprints > long marathons: Try 20 minutes of focus + 5 minute breaks (Pomodoro). Visible timers and breaking tasks into tiny first steps make a huge difference.

🧹 Reduce friction
Keep things where you use them. Checklists aren’t childish—they’re tools. Make the “right” choice the easiest one.

🗂️ Simple organization beats perfect systems
One notes app. One task list. Weekly reset. That’s it.

🎧 Focus hacks
Background noise, music without lyrics, changing locations, or writing down distracting thoughts instead of fighting them.

😴 The boring stuff matters (a lot). Sleep consistency, some movement, protein earlier in the day, and hydration can seriously reduce symptoms.

💊 Support helps
Medication, ADHD-informed therapy or coaching can be life-changing. Learning from experts like Russell Barkley really reframes ADHD—it’s not a motivation problem.

💛 Most important reminder
ADHD does not equal lazy.
You don’t need to be perfect—just resilient.

If a system doesn’t work, it failed you, not the other way around.

If you have ADHD (or love someone who does): you’re not broken—you’re wired differently ❤️

There's lots of positives as well as challenges! Message me if you would like to find out more...