01/09/2026
I have a love/hate relationship with this photo.
On one hand I’m enjoying an amazing weekend in Italy with my mates for a friend’s wedding.
At our age we don’t get together often so it was great to all be together.
But on the other hand I’m ashamed of myself.
Because despite being a PT I’d clearly been neglecting myself and not leading by example.
And I wish there was some sob story or deep reasoning behind it but there isn’t.
I’d made the transition to being a full time online coach and got lazy and complacent.
I hadn’t realised how much until this trip when not only was this photo taken but I had to take my T-shirt off and get in the pool.
I’ll never forget how self conscious I felt.
But although I still struggle with my own body image at times and may never fully shake the feeling of being a “big lad” (fu***ng huge, actually), I can look back now and see how far I’ve come.
But this isn’t really about me.
It’s about you, reading this feeling how I felt over that weekend.
Things can change if you do two things…
1. Take responsibility and ownership of where you’re at.
2. Fix the basics.
Don’t go into yet another crash diet which you can’t stick to longer than a week.
Don’t go punishing your body in the gym every night in a desperate attempt to burn some calories.
Focus on changing your eating habits so you control what’s going in, rather than the calories going out.
And sure, go the gym… but ease yourself in a couple of times a week.
Outside of that just move more - make sure you go for a walk (outside preferably) every day.
Those things alone will get the ball rolling and you can build on them in time.
Need help getting started?
Message me the words “FAT LAD” and I’ll see what I can do to make it easy for you.
