Star and Well

Happy task of unboxing new treasures from Mizan Botanicals this morning - lovely way to transition out of school holidays.

Who else could use some restoration after that Easter break?

We heal in connection. I believe this 100%. 💗

Many protocols and other products make sweeping promises to trauma survivors when what they truly offer is a temporary relief at best. Many times they are even harmful.

This late in the game I find it maddening. How much time and effort I wasted chasing down protocols and treatments because I was desperate for relief. And 99% of the time, it was either a dead end or wildly misrepresented.

Almost a decade of that sharpened my perspective. There are hardly any treatments or interventions I could recommend. Simultaneously, all those let downs also reinforced that applying Relational Neuroscience principles to my life is the most sensible, practical, economical, and safest route to improved well-being.

Teaching this seems to be the best I can do to help individuals and the culture find their way back to humanity. Back home to our birthright of individual and collective well-being through safe connection, mutuality, and community care.

Listen to it… and suddenly, you remember your way back. 🖋️

Happy World Down Syndrome Day!

Sending out love and blessings to mothers everywhere this Mother’s Day.

Mother’s Day has historically been a hard one for me - if this is you today, please offer yourself kindness whether you’re receiving it from others or not.

Deep appreciation and gratitude from me for the work of mothers everywhere. Be blessed!

In celebration of women this month, I'm holding a special focus on women's health.

SPRING REBALANCE (1 hour 20 minute session) massage and/or energy work £65, includes: brief consultation and full body treatment, recommendations for next steps.

WELL WOMB (3 hour session) £90 deep dive into Mizan Therapy for new or returning clients, includes in depth consultation, massage, recommendations and teaching for self-care beyond the session.

Optional upgrade: Mizan self-care kit (womb wrap, steaming/bath herbs, castor oil pack £15).

Special offers valid for sessions in March 2026.

Limited spaces available (dm to enquire or to book).

Sessions are in person at Ushaw (near Durham).

It's more than okay to take your time and to allow yourself what you need. 💙

Blowing away the cobwebs after 5 days stuck in caring for 2 with flu. Love + solidarity to all dealing with similar. ♥️

♥️ this - if you’d like to know more, feel free to dm me.

🌿 Why So Many Parents Are Tired of Birth Debriefs

There’s a quiet shift happening in the birth world right now.

Parents are saying:

“I talked through the notes… but I don’t feel any better.”
“I understand what happened medically… but something still doesn’t feel right.”
“I’ve told the story so many times, and it still sits in my chest.”
“I’m tired of talking about it, but it still won’t settle.”

This is birth debrief fatigue — and it’s real.

Because a debrief can give you information…
but not integration.

It can explain the sequence of events…
but it can’t touch the part of you that felt confused, shocked, unseen, rushed, or powerless in a single moment.

A debrief can review the external story…
but it rarely meets the internal story —
the meaning you made,
the beliefs you formed,
the identity that cracked open,
the parts of you still holding that moment.

Birth Story Medicine is different.

It’s not factual retelling.
It’s not “What could we do better next time?”
It’s not a clinical review or a do-over plan.

It’s tending to your inner landscape —
the tangled emotions, the unfinished loops, the unanswered questions inside your nervous system.

It’s a place where we listen for the moment the story snagged,
the part of you that didn’t have words yet,
and the deeper truth waiting beneath the survival narrative.

Parents don’t need more information.
They need integration.
They need compassion.
They need a way to come home to themselves again.

🌿 This is the work we do in Birth Story Medicine.

It’s gentle, surprising, deeply human — and often the missing piece after a birth that left you unsettled in ways a debrief could never resolve. DM to enquire about a session.

FESTIVE GIVING - 'tis the season

Digital gift vouchers applicable to anything Star and Well offers are available.

Some nourishing gift ideas for the women on your list:

*gift a circle (£17)
*holistic therapy (energy or bodywork, from £65)
*birth story medicine session (£65)
*healing ceremony, including Closing the Bones (from £120).

In 2026, I'll be returning to doula work as well with a focus on antenatal (birth prep) and postnatal support. Packages start from £350 and honestly is a fantastic gift for an expectant family.

You can gift in any amount from £10 and it can be applied to any service. 💙