Swati Jagdish

SELF LOVE

6 Signs you are very choosy about what you allow into your life.

🔥Do you also understand that these points are all related to boundaries ?

Go through all 6 and let me know your thoughts below.

👉🏽How many are you actively working on?
👉🏽Which is the toughest ?
👉🏽Tag your friends or family members whom you think must work on any of these points (or all)

Swati Jagdish
Psychologist
Sexuality health educator
Busy working on all 6..!

Dear parents & negative commentators:

I have a request to Parents & A meaningful activity suggestion for ppl who dislike my content -

Parents : When you see a comment that goes against the concept of consent or boundaries that I propagate, it means in some way they have some other ideas/ theories on how to keep our children safe. That's why logically they are against my point right?

So if I say X & they are not ok with X
It means they have another point called Y or Z that's better than my X.

👉🏽So do this:

Just ask the email id of commentators/ trolls & mail your questions to them. Or dm them.

Maybe the troll video makers & commentators have a better strategy to guide you all.

It's good if they can volunteer to help with coaching, classes or can guide you to better professionals.

👉🏽But one condition - if they are recommending other professionals they should be people guiding parents in a different way than how I'm educating. If they are also using the same strategies to answer parents' questions, then the trolls will have to agree that I'm right about what I say & they are just trolling coz they don't like me.

Then the trolling becomes personal vendetta & will no longer be about children or society's wellbeing in general.

So they need to give assurance that whoever they suggest will guide parents using other methodologies different than what I talk about. Parents who go to recommended professionals that the commentators suggest can mail me feedbacks on how you were guided. I can talk with that professional to understand how their methods are different than mine, but will still work.

💯And if there's a better strategy in promoting s*x-ed in Indian households without teaching consent or boundaries & if it's better than the points you see here, I'll be happy to learn too, coz ultimately we all want a common goal - which is safe kids & happy parents.

Actually in a way, haters & trolls taking up parents' questions & issues will be good for me too. Can take a break from all these dms on s*x ed & parenting questions.

Been years at this..
Getting tired at times..
36, age is catching up too.

Swati Jagdish😊

Every thing is fine in our country..
Especially for kids, it is super safe.
Let's not introduce any concepts to try and change things. 😊



With the kind of wierd ways people's brains are working these days, though I expect everyone to understand I'm being sarcastic about the whole thing, I'd like to still make it clear that I'm being sarcastic here.
Hellooo.... Obviously kidding.

Parents, don't bother me.
Think for yourself.
And Please teach boundaries or whatever you feel is the best thing for your child to keep them s*xually safe & healthy.
😊👍💯

Ultimately - Your child, your rules.

Swati Jagdish
Sexuality health educator

Go through carousel for detailed explanation .

💕There are more societal norms I feel she neednt abide by. Some I talk about openly. Some I don't on social media as its related to my personal value systems. Each individual & each family has their own unique value systems that they need (or keep their fingers crossed and wish for) their child to follow. 😅

Some very sensitive points I discuss only in safe spaces with a closed group of people preferably only with parents in some support group meetings, or my sessions. That's because not everything is interpreted in the same way on social media & some ideas need to be discussed in person, with examples & real emotions - to be understood & comprehended better.

Especially with regard to parenting in a certain way, not everyone understands why a parent chooses a certain path and it's ok. We're all here to understand ourselves better and not to be understood.

This is just to give a picture of what we repeatedly talk about at home as personal/body/emotional/relationship boundaries are all related to the above points and boundaries are my favourite thing ever you all know that by now.😊👍

Swati Jagdish

I was back home after a week.
I haven't been away for this long.
It's always been just a couple of days or maybe 4. Not 7!!

On the day I was back, Maya returned from school, we had our hugs & kisses. Sat down for homework & all was good until dinner.

Then she was drawing & something she drew didn't go according to plan, a tantrum began & there was a lot of crying. I held space pretty well even though my cup was full. I was actually quite surprised because it went on for more than 30 min with a lot of anger getting released & then she calmed down.

Later we hugged & kissed again.
This morning at breakfast after she left to school we were all having a conversation.

...Continued in carousel ❤️

✔️Questions to parents in the last slide.👆🏽

I'm born in 1987

My peers who are parents of very young kids now, come from a generation where our parents wanted to give us education beyond every thing because they felt that will emancipate all of us. Give us what we want - a house or a car or a comfortable lifestyle.

Today we're a bunch of parents that probably got education ,house, car or even a cell phone in our early adulthood, so when we're becoming parents now, we want more for our children.

👉🏽Many of us are practicing gentle & respectful communication with our kids because those who came from authoritarian or toxic households don't want our kids to have a difficult relationship with us , like many of us have with our parents .

👉🏽We are making sure we don't body shame our kids, we don't compare them with other kids, we don't pressure them to score well, trying to creating an open environment at home, encouraging all kinds of conversations, & Parents are even trying to mode healthy relationships..wow.!

👉🏽Many have now also started imparting consent ,boundaries ,autonomy & safety information with children to make sure they have a safer, s*xually healthier childhood & teenage so that they don't go through abuse or trauma.

💜Overall, we're trying our best to give a better life to our kids by giving them what we didn't get as children .

We're definitely the cycle breaking generation and I'm proud of each one of you that's trying to make a difference in our children's lives.

👉🏽And my 2 extra cents -
Don't feel bad or sad if no one understands what you're trying to do. Only you know what is best for your child so just keep going. We don't want validation from anyone. From grandparents,from society & we shouldn't expect even our children to validate us in future.

🔥If you are clear to your conscience , & if YOU know you are doing your best for your child,that's more than enough.
And if you have a community that resonates with you, good for you- because it takes a village.

Let me know in comments if you've felt alone in this journey ,if you found your community & if not, how you find comfort. Might help other parents .👇

Swati Jagdish
Sexuality health educator
Autonomous parent. ❤️

International kiss day to you all.!😘
Presenting a carousel of kisses ❤️
Including a super rare one I caught with her less expressive granny 😍

💕Personally I'm a big fan of kiss on foreheads. Somehow I feel it's a really affectionate form of kiss ❤️🤗

💕Also just reminding you that when we had a discussion a while back on kisses, there were so many (mostly women) who shared they were uncomfortable with kissing with tongue. So a gentle reminder to check with your partner what they are ok with before going ahead with big sloppy tongue work out- assuming everyone is cool with it 😝😅

💕From a peck on the cheek to a full fledged French, go show some love to your loved ones with a kiss today 😊❤️





1st Pic courtesy & kissing her papa -


Last pic, taken last month -

Tightest kiss in the lot -

Second pic taken on maya's first birthday. ❤️

Quick question:

Are you someone who just took up a course or got in touch with a trainer/coach/professional I suggested on my stories, just because I suggested.??

Could you share something about how that trust/intuition worked for you? ❤️😊

-Swati




Pic:

Zoom calls available for

👉🏽Menstrual cups
June 14
9 to 9.30 pm

👉🏽People reading
June 15
5pm to 7pm

👉🏽Pregnancy package
(pregnancy health, ideal birth
Or breastfeeding & infant care)
June 16
5pm to 6pm

👉🏽The real talk
June 17
7.30pm to 9pm

👉🏽BTS - Between The sheets
June 20
7.30pm to 9.30 pm

✔️Important note :
Zoom calls available for those who completed any of my session between Mid May - June 9th.

Since we changed our app, we can't retrieve some of your details plus can't give zoom link in notifications bar like before so if you need zoom link plz Mail [email protected]

No entry into meeting room 15 min after of discussion has begun.

Those who have downloaded sessions from new app after June 9, Just wait for the zoom calls coming up in July 2nd week. If there's any technical issues plz Mail [email protected] 💕

New followers who want to try recorded workshops of mine, go to bio to get links to download my app.❤️

Swati Jagdish

2 Announcements!

🎈Maya's Amma Community is here!

🎈And NEW APP for courses too!

Last December when we wound up the existing community, which was active for a year, I've been wanting to restart asap but to get what I was looking for, was not an easy thing.

Today we are launching 5 communities that you can choose to be part of.

3 communities for general public & 2 for participants of two of my most important workshops.

🤝Postpartum community : mainly focused at women who are under or below their first year of childbirth. To discuss feeding challenges, sleep issues, mental health & much more.

🤝Gentle Parenting - For all parents following gentle parenting or want to follow, you can help each other.

🤝Youth Community - this is for all non- parents. Working professionals or students who want to be part of a like minded group where any topic under the sun can be discussed & you can get to know new people as well.

🤝For those who attended Between the sheets (BTS) & The Real talk, you can be part of these two separate communities to talk about the stuff we learnt in the session,share experiences etc.

LINKS FOR APP (links in bio now):

1. Playstore - https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tagmango.mayasamma

2. Appstore - https://apps.apple.com/in/app/mayas-amma/id6447067143

😃👇🏼

More communities (especially location based groups) will be added in a month's time as few things are being tested & added.
For now the plan is to have a monthly meet & greet on zoom with me for all community members so that you get to interact with me or ask questions. I will be hosting 2 extra zoom calls with other professionals exclusively for community members for you to learn something new. Extra bonuses & fun events on the way. So much being planned this time for this closed community.!

Currently we have only monthly subscription option. Soon we will have a 6 month & one year option too.

Welcoming my new community managers & who will be watching what's going on & guiding you through.

See you there. 😍

Swati Jagdish
First Community member to join.