Dave & Zoë - Relationship Coaching

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Hello everyone, we are very excited to announce that we are starting our Liberate In Love relationship podcast ✨💕🎙️

To keep us in the spontaneity of the unknown, each week we will be picking a topic at random 🌀

Does anyone have any topics they would like us to talk about? We are happy to share about anything!

Comment below or PM us and we will add it to the hat / box / jar ☺️

We plan to go live on YouTube every Sunday at 5 pm UK time / 12pm EST / 9am PST, so if you would like to be notified when we’re rolling, subscribe to our YouTube channel :

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Looking forward to sharing honestly and openly, and taking questions via the online chat ✨

Love and liberation,
Zoë and Dave 💐

After sitting on this website for a year, we are finally tackling it morning by morning in a beautiful café on the beach.

Creating a website together has revealed to us both more layers for us to work on, including writing blocks, resistance to schooling, ADHD tendencies, resistance to technology and differences in how we both work.

Dave picked up the belief at school that he wasn’t good enough, having dyslexia he felt this was reflected in his inability to spell and write, and together we have been transforming this belief and I have been scribing his voice.

Luckily for humanity, we are all unique and different in what we offer to the world. I am more adept at writing for example but I am not practical. Put me on a desert island and I would need Dave to survive. 🏝️

Dave is full of practical wisdom and even if he finds it difficult to spell he is full of intelligence - the real heart intelligence, not the intellect of the mind.

Together we can use our uniquness to help and support one another, naturally tackling tasks that we find easier and in this way we work together as a unit.

G unit

Love & blessings
Zoe & Dave

Whatever has happened to you, you can forgive, you can heal, and you can create anew 🌹

You are a powerful creator 💕

What do you choose for yourself now? 🩷

When I was younger, I’d heard people talk about full body energetic or***ms without receiving any touch or being in a romantic exchange and I was curious about how this was possible

It wasn’t until I was on my meditation teacher training that I began to experience this for myself

This was the first time I had meditated in a relaxed position, laid back in a chair / laid down completely, and my body started to relax so deeply that waves and waves of pleasure took over me

In India, the qualities of consciousness are explained in the Sanskrit term ‘Sat Chit Ananda’

One translation of this is : existence, awareness, bliss

What this means is that within our own consciousness, when we tune into it there is a natural blissfulness

This bliss of the infinite expansion of Consciousness can then be translated by the body into sexual ecstatic energy

It doesn’t need be this way - all the time it would probably be too much 😅 so it can also be felt less ecstatically as a deep, sweet peace

Our nature as Consciousness is by essence bliss - without needing anyone or anything to feel this pleasure

This is why as consciousness grows, you no longer need someone else to give you pleasure - you generate it yourself and this self-fulfillment becomes very very sexy…

But when two or more people cultivate bliss together, they can bring more bliss into all aspects of their life, including lo******ng if they so desire

As a couple we deepen in bliss together through resting, simply being together, meditating naturally and dropping evermore deeply into relaxation as a way of life

And Bliss grows and grows! 💕

From our Heart to yours,
Sending love from the beach 🏝️

Zoë & Dave 💐

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I was flicking through a poetry book I left in a library here in Goa, and I came across this poem by Kabir.

The truth in the words stuck with me. It doesn't matter how many 'practises' we do - spiritual, or otherwise, if we can't actually control our anger when it comes - then we live a life of suffering and separation. We hurt others and we hurt ourselves.

I know this deeply. In past relationships me and my partner would be filled with so much internally uncontrolled anger that we would push away into immense suffering.

Even in my relationship with Dave, I used to wake up feeling frustrated every morning for a time without reason. I would get up and be tense with Dave and try to take space, and it was horrible to wake up like this.

My emotional energy was out of control.

I much prefer our slow mornings now where we laugh, cuddle and make love.

In order to make this happen I had to choose to control my anger. I had to claim my power to choose to wake up consciously.

So before sleep I did a nightly practise where I would consciously choose how I was going to wake up by creating the feelings I wanted to feel.

I did this every night for a while, and eventually - hey presto! I am not angry when I wake up anymore.

'Controlling' our emotions has a bad rep in new-age healing and therapeutic circles, as there has been an over emphasis on 'feeling our feelings', 'expressing' and 'releasing' due to inter-generational emotional suppression.

But in my own experience, after 5 years of emotional release and catharsis living in an Osho centre and having weekly therapy, I learnt that the more I focussed on releasing and expressing, the more emotions were generated for expression and release.

Where attention goes energy flows!

That’s why controlling my anger has been far more valuable to me than all the years of releasing. I have within a short space of time co-created a romantic relationship of deep peace from this simple wisdom.

Controlling anger does not mean not feeling it.

Denying our feelings is what suppresses them. If we want to heal we must open and accept our emotions

It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m on day one of my period. Dave had a fancy resort booked but we cancelled it - no drama - we are ultimate chillers, and enjoy to simply be 🩷

Today is another day creating heaven together - Dave has offered to massage me if I so desire, and otherwise left to be on my own except for cake and chai and dinner delivery! 🤪

I do not expect this from Dave, but he gives to me effortlessly from the fullness of his Being and Love that overfills from his cup.

For years I have been practising to master my emotions, which means my periods are no longer times where I fall out with my partner or lash out with needs, expectations or emotional processing.

Even if I am not perfect in emotional mastery (yet) Dave knows that I am on this path, and this creates an ever deepening sense of safety and nervous system regulation between us, as we know that neither one will unconsciously lash out at each other.

The more conscious we both become, the less emotional reactivity we create.

This creates space - and the more spacious we are, the more we are able to truly give and receive Love and Peace.

I am feeling very blessed to have this romantic relationship with Dave ; living and travelling together filled with ease, peace, intimacy, honesty, joy and freedom.

Every day is Valentine’s Day for us; every day we tell each other how much we love each other, how grateful we are for each other, and every day we celebrate whatever we can.

I am grateful for this remembrance that we are claiming in this lifetime; that we are powerful creators of our life and of our relationship.

Why would we create a relationship anything less than a daily celebration of joy and sweet playful love?

Happy valentines life! 💘

Zoë & Dave ♾️

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