Aarti - The Dynamic Domestic Abuse Coach

Some hearts are not starting the new year with fireworks and big smiles, and that’s okay. 🌱

This new year, may you have moments of safety, pockets of peace, and a days of calm.

You are not what happened to you!
You are a survivor with a history of victory, even on the days that don’t feel strong at all.

If this year only brings:
💜One boundary you hold
💜One night of real rest
💜One person who truly believes in you

..that is still healing, still progress, still enough!

If the new year feels heavy, you are not alone and you are not behind.

Take it one breath and one small act of kindness towards your own heart - at a time.

Love and hugs to you in this new year 💜🤗

xx
Aarti

Trigger Warning: Sensitive subject, sensitive content

International Men's Day originated in 1999 in Trinidad and Tobago. The day soon got recognised in 80+ countries after Dr Jerome Teelucksingh started it in honour of his father's birthday.

The day is a reminder to catalyse a more empathetic and inclusive society for the wellbeing of all men and boys.

The global theme of this day in 2025 is "Celebrating Men and Boys" or "Supporting Men and Boys" as adopted by some countries.

Some initiatives have even embedded men's mental health in to the theme with "Zero Male Su***de" campaigns.

Su***de is very closely linked to men's experiences of domestic abuse.

How? Read more in my blog. Link in bio.

#2025

Trigger Warning: This post touches on challenges like domestic abuse that some may experience during pregnancy. Read with care and seek support if needed.

Pregnancy should be a time of hope and excitement, but for many women across cultures, it is also a time when abuse occurs or continues. Pregnant survivors may have mixed feelings about what to look forward to.

Abuse during pregnancy impacts physical health, mental & emotional well-being, and the safety of the mother and the baby. Please pay attention to your and your baby's needs at this time.

If you or someone you know is pregnant and surviving abuse, stay safe, prioritise your well-being, and seek or direct them to seek trusted professional support.

You are not alone.

xx 💜
Aarti

Step up as an active bystander — your actions really matter. 💜

Being an active bystander doesn’t mean putting yourself in danger, but it does mean speaking up when you see abuse and can do something meaningful about it. However small your action may be.

Here are four simple ways to safely support someone facing domestic abuse:

• Direct: If it’s safe, address the abuser—firmly say it’s not okay. (“Stop! This was so uncalled for!”)

• Distract: Steer the focus away from the situation. Start a conversation, ask a question, or create a diversion to help the survivor out of harm’s way.

• Delegate: Bring in others—friends, security, or someone in authority can help if the situation feels too risky to handle alone.

• Delay: Sometimes it’s safer to wait. Check in with the survivor afterward, let them know you saw what happened, and ask how you can support them (don't force your help on them, though. It might overwhelm them. Leave your phone number or some way to contact you if you sense they can't share when you ask but may seem to do so later).

Every intervention tells survivors they’re seen and supported— and may help break the cycle of silence. Small actions can make a world of difference. 💜

From heartbreak to hope — it’s not just the survivor’s journey. It’s yours too.

When someone you know is trying to heal from domestic abuse, your role matters more than you realize.

It’s not about fixing their pain — it’s about being the calm in their storm.

🌿 Listen without judgment.
🌿 Believe their story.
🌿 Don't give unsolicited advice.
🌿 Remind them they deserve safety and love.
🌿 Respect their pace and their ways — healing isn’t linear.

Every time you stand beside someone in quiet, consistent support, you help them rewrite their story — not as a victim, but as a survivor finding light again.

Your worth and dignity are yours to own!

Remember, being kind, genuine, and empathetic makes you truly attractive.

But don't let these qualities make you vulnerable to abuse.

Abusers often prey on these strengths, and it may take time to recognize the signs.

Don't let the trauma, cynicism , or vulnerability change who you are; hold on to your kindness and empathy, especially towards yourself and those who support you.

You deserve dignity!

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Let's spotlight the abuser today!

While survivors deserve our unwavering support, acknowledging the role of abusers is crucial, too.

They need guidance to change.

But here's the twist : abusers rarely seek help, leaving survivors to reach out.

Bring judgemental, prejudiced, or indifferent doesn't help, especially if the abuser is your relative or friend.

So, --

What can YOU do as a bystander?

How can you create a safe space for both survivors and abusers to seek support?

Let your voice be heard!

🎗October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

👥 Let's bring awareness to the forefront with a fresh twist - focusing on bystanders.

🗣Invite yourself and others to break the silence around domestic violence.

❔️What would you like to learn more about?

Drop your questions, and we'll do our best to shed light on them.

💜 Aarti

As you work on recovering from , be patient with yourself and with the process of healing.

Healing is not instant noodles
Healing is not a formula 1 race
Healing not speed networking with your inner self