Nupur Singh

First-time managers, do you find it difficult to connect with team-members who are not like you? 🤷‍♀️

You’re not alone.

Transitioning from an individual contributor role to a manager is exciting but it is also often a time where many trip.

This is because there is no behaviour based transition.

Earlier, your role was task focused and managing only yourself. But now, its not just about doing your tasks, Its about getting work done from others.

And the following mindset can be huge road-block: 🛑
“Assuming what motivates you, will motivate everyone else.”

But the truth is: people are driven by different things. Human motivation is not one-size-fits-all.

💡 Some value recognition.
💡 Others care about money or position.
💡 Some chase mastery and growth.
💡 Some seek purpose.

And here’s the key — most of us are a blend of these factors.

And interestingly, these drivers are not fixed. They change with time, age, and their situation in life. 👨‍🦰 👩 👱‍♀️ 👴

For example, a 22-year-old might be motivated by recognition and quick career growth.
The same person at 35 may prioritize purpose or work-life balance.

So, before you walk into a conversation with a team member, pause and ask yourself:
“What does this person value right now? And how can I align their work with that driver?” 🤔

Your ability to connect across these differences shows your adaptability and emotional intelligence.

And that’s what makes a manager worth following.

♻️ Re-post this if you had a similar experience.

“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” - Albert Einstein

So go ahead, make that mistake.
Take the lesson it’s trying to teach you.
And grow!

Happy to announce my new journey as a Leadership Coach for corporate managers.

Although, it turned out to be very different from what I had thought it to be! Would love to talk more about it sometime! ❣️

What matters more as a leader- Warmth or Competence?

You will be surprised to know the truth! 😯

When you move from an individual contributor to a team leader, one thought often takes over:

"I need to prove I can handle this."

✅ So you focus on performance.
✅ On being efficient.
✅ On knowing all the answers.

But that is not sufficient!

Here’s something powerful to remember 👇

According to Harvard researcher Amy Cuddy on “Leadership presence”, people judge leaders on two things:

1️⃣ Warmth – Can I trust you?
2️⃣ Competence – Can I respect you?

And what do you think comes first?

It is TRUST.

See, your team already assumes you’re competent. What they’re really looking for is connection.

🫴 Do you listen?
🫴 Do you care?
🫴 Do you make them feel safe to speak up?

Here’s the truth:
Being dictatorial or dominating isn't a sign of strength—
It’s a sign of insecurity.

And being friendly or warm?
That’s not weakness.

That’s what REAL leadership looks like.

By warmth, I don't mean being passive or a doormat.

Warmth is NOT about being “nice.”

It’s about being human.

🫰 Present.
🫰Clear-headed.
🫰Approachable.

As you grow into leadership, don’t just bring your expertise.
Bring your empathy.

Because real leadership isn’t about being the smartest in the room—
It’s about creating a space where everyone can shine. 💫

What do you think?

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No, relationship is not just candles & roses..🌹🕯️

Its about acceptance,
Its about sacrificing happily,
Its about trying to understand the space your partner is coming from,
Its about being there when they feel low and just want to be heard,
But it’s also about giving them space for their own introspection.

It’s about being a team.
Not perfect yet united in love, wisdom & committed for a higher cause. 😊

Don’t fall in love..
Rise in love.

Do you think your dress can influence your credibility at work?

“The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before.” – Albert Einstein

Had such a thrilling experience with the employees of “Mahindra Lifespaces” at Bangalore!
From Communication with clients to cross-functional teams and family & friends, we got into the depths of the importance and beauty of connecting and communicating with people the right way❣️

Have you ever felt awkward talking to someone new? Mind goes blank & there is a weird silence in the air..

Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! ✨❤️

from our first Parsi wedding! Hearty Congratulations to Aditi & Rushaad! 💐✨

Had a fabulous time co-facilitating another “Employee Development workshop” for engineers at Sigma Electric Manufacturing Pvt Ltd. ✨😊