Untamed Coaching

Here's my take: when we take full responsibility for our life, our actions, our behavior, our thoughts, our choices and the path it puts us on, then freedom is the result of it. I believe that we often blame external influences, systems, or circumstances for our situation or lack of freedom in what we want our life to look like. And while society does want us to believe that and we grow up in a system that puts this belief in us, we actually have a lot more choice than we might think.

But it's on us to make this decision and choose freedom without blaming others that it's not possible for us. Radical personal responsibility. Nothing else.

'Now's not the right time', are you one of those people who like to put things or decisions off into some 'right' or 'perfect' moment in the future?

Then I want you to listen to my anecdote about a situation just like that and what I realized I was actually doing.

Do you recognize yourself in this story?

I'm sharing with you my perspective on perfection and why I believe that it's an illusion, especially when it comes to decision making.

What are your thoughts?

Sometimes it's not your inability to make the decision, but your ability to ask yourself the 'right' questions. Here are 3 questions that I like to work with to get my clients more clarity around their decision:

1️⃣ Which option is more in line with your most important values?

2️⃣ Which option will bring you closer to the future you want for yourself?

3️⃣ Which option are you most excited about?

If these questions brought you closer to making your decision, but you'd still like some advice, send me a dm and I can give you some guidance!

It can seem logical to want to ask many people for their opinion and it might even give us the false impression that they will make the decision for us and we don't even have to decide. Definitely would be nice, right?

That usually doesn't work out though. My tip: ask 1 to 3 people max from your inner circle who you trust. Maybe even people with similar values and interests as you.

Are you one of those people who tend to ask as many people as they can find?

Big decisions can be really hard. So when times get tough and challenging after you've made your choice, you might think you've made the wrong one. Or others might try to make you believe that by invalidating your feelings: 'Well, it was your choice, you put yourself in that position'.

Well...yes, it was your decision. And no, you can still go through a tough time because of it. Your feelings are valid. It doesn't mean you (have to) regret the choice you made. Or feel like everything should be easy and happy.

Happiness and pain can coexist.