POP Leadership by Jennifer Welter Coaching, LLC

You may be wondering what the value of having a coach really is — and there are many — but, one of the most significant values of working with a coach is simply having someone OUTSIDE your immediate bubble of people to help you THINK.

A coach will create a safe place for you to think through your thoughts in an objective way. Your coach will listen to you without including their own thoughts or beliefs or memories or ways that you’ve hurt them or all the things familiar people may think while you’re talking. A coach won’t double your trouble!

You can come to a coaching environment and expect an objective and uncluttered mindset. Studies show that when you are with the same people all the time, a shared bubble is created. Mindsets can narrow and become dull. Oftentimes the ones you share life with aren’t the best at helping you see alternatives, to see clearly outside the bubble.

The possibilities you’ll unlock when you’re guided by a trained, certified coach are wild — you’ll be inspired to POP the bubble and step into new levels of freedom that feel like soaring for the first time!

You’ve tried and failed countless programs in an attempt to stop. You can sort of envision yourself and what life would look like after you stop, but you can’t stay in the vision long because the waves of disappointment quickly wash the vision away. You look inward and outward at the mess of a self you’ve made because you can’t stop and roll your eyes at even allowing yourself to dream yet again.

It’s always in those moments when you need to decide whether or not to have one more that you fail every single time. It’s as if you’re not yourself when those moments happen. You don’t stop when you want to. You just can’t. You do the opposite of what you want over and over again. You feel like two people at war with one another. You’re so ashamed to admit your weakness with yourself. You know what people would say: “Just stop,” right? Just simply stop. You’ve excelled in so many other areas of your life up to this point, but this is one area that no matter how hard you try, you just can’t stop. And that’s such a hard fact to accept.

You think to yourself, “You silly girl, you’ll never get it right. Might as well accept what you got because this is as good as it gets. Oh and by the way, you can’t handle this, so it’s time for another.” You quickly grab another to squash those thoughts and feelings. You’ve given in yet again. And again. You feel like YOU are the definition of insanity.

One day, you are on social media and come across an interesting post. An old friend, who has become a certified coach, posts her vulnerable “stopping” story. You see some commonality and ultimately, hope. This girl claims to have stopped and has some evidence to show what she’s doing is truly working. You perk up. Maybe, just maybe, you can too.

You reach out and have a quick call. You pour out your frustrations and are met with, “Girl, I know, I feel you to my core. Me too. But there’s real hope for actually stopping if that’s what you want. I can be your guide.”

You begin working together and you realize you’re making more progress than ever before — as your friend lovingly listens and guides you through untangling the mess.

You make huge strides. Your dream finally becomes a reality — you discover the ability to stop and to stay consistent. You stop letting yourself down. You don’t have to settle for helplessness any more. You learn what it means to be human and face your struggles with strength and resolve. You become more whole in every nook and cranny of your life.

Future you imagining what your life would look like had you not reached out scares you. Imagining not making the progress you’ve made seems unthinkable. You knew back in the beginning you were in big trouble with yourself and had to get help to get out of your own head. You needed a trusted professional to shine light into your thoughts. You’re changing in ways you never could have done on your own.

This could be your story. Text me today at (352) 270-1494. Stop putting it off, your guide is waiting.

My body needs to be trained, challenged, and managed. It’s a flesh suit, a slave to the unseen part of me that’s the master of its maintenance.

I’m so much more than just a flesh suit, I’m a spirit and soul walking around in this body “vehicle.” It’s the only way I can interact in this material world.

I read this secular piece yesterday that I want to share with you. It’s called the Tomorrow Man Theory by Chuck Hogan.

“It’s pretty basic. Today, right here, you are who you are. Tomorrow, you will be who you will be. Each and every night, we lie down to die, and each morning we arise, reborn. Now, those who are in good spirits, with strong mental health, they look out for their Tomorrow Man. They eat right today, they drink right today, they go to sleep early today–all so that Tomorrow Man, when he awakes in his bed reborn as Today Man, thanks Yesterday Man. He looks upon him fondly as a child might a good parent. He knows that someone–himself–was looking out for him. He feels cared for, and respected. Loved, in a word. And now he has a legacy to pass on to his subsequent selves…. But those who are in a bad way, with poor mental health, they constantly leave these messes for Tomorrow Man to clean up. They eat whatever the hell they want, drink like the night will never end, and then fall asleep to forget. They don’t respect Tomorrow Man because they don’t think through the fact that Tomorrow Man will be them. So then they wake up, new Today Man, groaning at the disrespect Yesterday Man showed them. Wondering why does that guy–myself–keep punishing me? But they never learn and instead come to settle for that behavior, eventually learning to ask and expect nothing of themselves. They pass along these same bad habits tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow, and it becomes psychologically genetic, like a curse. Looking at you now, I can see exactly where you fall on this spectrum. You are a man constantly trying to fix today what Yesterday Man did to you. You make up your bed, you clean those dirty dishes from the night before, and pledge not to start drinking until six, thinking that’s the way to keep an even keel. But in reality you’re always playing catch-up. I know this because I’ve been there. The thing is–you can’t fix the mistakes of Yesterday. Yesterday Man is dead, he’s gone forever, and blame and atonement aren’t worth a damn. What you can do is help yourself today. Eat a vegetable. Read a book. Cut that hair of yours. Leave Tomorrow Man something more than a headache and a jam-packed colon. Do for Tomorrow Man what you would have wanted Yesterday Man to do for you.”

I really love this piece. It does a great job of simplifying a proactive mindset, emphasizing the importance of making mindful choices today to benefit our future selves.

As much as I love it, this piece falls short in the practical daily application. The reality of human experience is we are living a great big contradiction, aren’t we?

The contradiction is this: we live in the material world, we are flesh beings, but there’s also the spiritual part of us that we know exists but is tricky to truly grasp and align with our temporal, bodily experience. We have higher desires than just the feeding and watering of our bodies. We want more meaning for our lives, but the body wants what the body wants NOW. Getting superior results demands for us to override our fleshly wants, to defer that immediate gratification for the realization of tomorrow’s goals and aspirations. We have to overrule the flesh. Ask anyone who trains for a marathon, for example. They get the contradiction in a real way. They know something has to be in charge and it cannot be the body’s whims of the moment.

I know this contradiction well and struggled mightily up until January ‘24.

In January ‘24, my spirit was officially plugged into the Lord’s power source — I quite literally surrendered my spirit to the power of the Holy Spirit and I’ve experienced the supernatural current consistently flow into my every day. (Romans 8 changed my life — thank you, to my heavenly friend Dr. Ken Wackes, for giving me the gold nugget that would ultimately make the difference.)

My problem was always that I deeply wanted great things for myself, but I couldn’t effectively make my flesh do what I wanted it to do consistently.

In the beginning of some new “Jen’s gonna lose weight craze,” I’d be ok for a bit by willpowering through. But then my resolve would break as my flesh rebelled fiercely against the discomfort. I powerlessly gave in to my flesh and spiraled again. The shame I endured as I felt powerless to my body’s tractor beam and that loss of control broke me a little further each time. Eventually, I gave up and felt utterly hopeless. Don’t be discouraged — he would NOT leave me stranded. He was always there working.

I may be speaking in terms that don’t make sense for someone in the trenches. For me, I had to learn about the duality, or even the “TRI-ality” of my human experience. I had to get ahold of who I actually am — the flesh part and the parts that no one can actually see (but we know are there!!), the parts that are easy to ignore in contrast to the pressing immediate, continuous desires of the body.

I learned I am more than just a body. I AM a spirit WITH a soul living IN a body. And only the Holy Spirit’s residence in me holistically governing my spirit has actually given me the power to sustain in a way that makes me an incredible co-master of my body. And in that co-mastery, I’m able to drive this high performance body-vehicle toward others who need to figure out their self government. We don’t have to give in to the carnal whims of our flesh!!!

Jesus died, resurrected, and then walked among us in his resurrected form. He then ascended into Heaven and left his spirit for each of us who trust in him alone.

Sounds crazy, right? I know. Once I truly came to terms with the supernatural nature of my own spiritual growth, the easier it’s been for me to accept Jesus’s supernatural story. I simply could not have achieved this without the Holy Spirit and this I KNOW because I tried most every other way and failed.every.single.time.

It’s even more than caring for my tomorrow self. It’s about stewarding the vehicle I’ve been given — breaking the chains of flesh slavery so I can enter the messy fray and authentically serve the way my spirit was created to serve — as C. S. Lewis said in Mere Christianity, “Every Christian is to become a little Christ. The whole purpose of becoming a Christian is simply nothing else.” We need each other now more than ever to be spiritually bigger than our flesh so we can bring healing and restoration in the best way possible.

To me, this is essentially what it means to be a Christ-follower. So many Christians are living a flesh-dominated existence, constantly hung up on their flesh— burning precious bandwidth fighting their flesh and diminishing the spiritual part of them — that which makes them the “little Christs” they are meant to be — who we need them to be in the greater Kingdom story.

If this hits home with you, send me a message. I’m done with inauthentic and powerless “Christianity.” How about you?

The photo below is me lifting this past Wednesday. I initially started lifting for one reason: to improve my core strength and balance so I wouldn’t be a fall risk. Lifting has provided so many other benefits that I can honestly say I’ve NEVER really experienced before through fitness — and that’s saying a lot especially since I’m a veteran of the US Army — even then, I wasn’t as strong as I am now. 💪🏼💥

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Hi, I have to tell you something.

I understand my posts may get on your nerves. I never want it to seem like I have it all figured out and like what I’m doing is easy. This is NEVER a “Hey look at me, be envious, blah blah blah.” I am sharing my story in hopes that you’ll not only find inspiration, but a likeminded sister a bit further down the road willing to grab your hand and help you journey down the same road.

For real: It’s not easy. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I’m on a daily journey of commitment and honor to the real and true ME. Each day presents new and routine choices that give me the opportunity to renew my commitment to myself. The muscles get stronger each day. But some days are harder than others.

Some (many, actually) days I wonder whether I have what it takes to keep going — what’s different NOW, what I didn’t know before all of this happened that’s soooo important: I KNOW I HAVE WHAT IT TAKES because I’ve CONSISTENTLY chosen to do what it takes and I TRUST MYSELF NOW MORE THAN EVER to keep going. Life really is better on this side.

Where did the consistency come from? Me finding ME and getting aligned with all my things. My “fight or flight” brain tries to act up and derail my plans, but I know better now and give that part of my brain a lot of love for trying to protect me and keep me safe at a primal level. My brain in survival mode simply doesn’t have the ability to support higher level performance/action/thinking because of the difficulty level. That’s where my rational side (frontal lobe, spirit, whatever you want to call it) comes in and LEADS especially when it’s hard.

Living the way I was living was not leading to what the real me truly wanted. I had to know what I truly wanted, then construct processes to honor those desires. It’s all about connection and relationship with myself on a spiritual level. A year ago, I kept choosing the easy way, but those choices were leading to harder and harder outcomes — at some point there’s a reckoning and you HAVE to do hard things — I’m so grateful I got to choose which “hard” before it chose me.

Back to getting on people’s nerves… I know several years ago when I was in the throws of self languishing and really believed I’d never recover — a post like this (and others I’ve posted) would send me into a spiral. I pray you can see this as me throwing you a life buoy 🛟 — you can “grab that buoy” by reaching out and saying, “That’s me. I need help. I need a guide.”

I’m here, reach out via messenger or text me at 352.270.1494. Any and all correspondence is absolutely confidential.

Take the first step, it won’t be easy. But real and lasting progress is seldom “easy!!”

Am I right???!!!

I used to say things like, “if someone would follow me around all the time and keep me from putting food in my mouth, I’d sign up for that in a heart beat.” Or “If I could hire a personal chef, I’d do it.” Or “If I could have someone just eat for me, I’d definitely do it.”

I’m telling you, I would have done most anything to get my weight under control and get fit. Well… almost anything. I never would just do those things on my own. I wanted a quick fix, some program, some plan to dictate my every move. But even then, EVEN THEN… I still didn’t follow it correctly, I cheated OR I did follow it to the letter but was grumpy, unhappy and about 2-3 months in, I slowly began quitting. Things gently went back to normal and I’d be back on my way to a bigger and bigger body.

Ponder this for a moment: If you’re willing to spend your hard earned dollars on weight loss programs: a drug, a shake, a program that supplies you with “food”, you’re hoping that program will get you where you want to go. Quickly and easily maybe. And maybe you’ll make some progress and lose some weight. But you’re gonna run into the same person ever single time. YOU!!!

To make real progress, the personal government problem must be solved.

If you’d willingly spend money on programs, why not spend that money with a coach who can help you get there more efficiently? Instead of wasting your resources with programs that either don’t work or only work temporarily, spend your money with a coach who can help you leap over all the madness and get to work on solving the real problem within.

And this coach has done this work HERSELF.

Full transparency: I have a few requirements for prospective clients:

-They’ve tried most everything and find themselves at a loss for what to do next.

-They’ve spent the money on empty promises, failed maintenance, all of it.

-They’ve basically given up.

-They must have a shred of hope that the problem can be solved and they know it lies deep within themselves. They are afraid though. Because what if this doesn’t work either?

-They must be willing to do the thought work and get vulnerable with the coach
— this includes telling the truth not only to the coach but to themselves.

If this sounds like you: message me. Right now!!!

Not local to Citrus Springs, FL? No biggie, remote coaching is how I coach anyway.

Want to do an in person meeting to see if we’d fit well together? I’d be willing to travel for serious clients. It’s that important to me to help another woman find her solutions and live a life of freedom.

And this includes more than just weight loss. Maybe it’s about alcohol. I can help there too because even though I don’t have an alcohol problem to solve, the process requires the same internal stuff.

Stop struggling alone. Stop feeling like a failure.

Take ACTION now by sending me a FB message and watch your transformation begin!

Leaders are on display.

People watch leaders closely.

When a leader is lacking internal self government, it shows.

What’s happening inside of the leader?

Simply put: war.

A battle between their carnal, physical, fight or flight, their daily, changing preferences side, AND their logical, reasonable, rational, clear thinking frontal lobe, staunch principled side.

The battle raging within shows up in multitudes of ways: anger, self deprecation, over indulgence (anything that’s meant to be good for us but is done in excess past what’s beneficial to our bodies), harsh treatment of others who struggle openly, abrasiveness, lack of a genuine smile, etc.

The more a person disrespects their rational side by allowing the carnal side to win, the hotter battle turns.

The hotter the battle, the less peace within.

The less peace within, the more people want to stay away.

Peaceful leaders attract followers because they are SAFE.

What’s your experience with unsafe leaders?

Who among leaders are truly leading themselves well in most areas of their personal inner lives?

Self leadership must come before leading others.

Followers want to follow leaders who are in command of themselves.

Like it or not, it’s real.

Much of leadership culture gives too much grace to the extreme lack of self leadership because we all understand that focusing on self isn’t easy and many simply aren’t doing the work.

I challenge that cultural premise and have learned that leading self is simple — but only when obedience to the healthy and clear thinking part of us is happening.

Someone internal has to be in charge of the leader — either the carnal, fight or flight monkey brain side, or the rational, steady, healthy, frontal lobe side.

It’s about consistent obedience to the rational side that’s lacking in many leaders.

What’s your experience?