I run. I think. I read. Sometimes all at the same time. Seeker of deep connections.
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24/02/2026
Misogi: a goal that defines your entire year. Usually a physical challenge, and the point is to make it so difficult based on your own personal capacity, that even with preparation, you have about a 50% chance of failure.
Itās a modern interpretation of the Japanese misogi, which means water cleansing ritual. Part of Shinto tradition, the original misogi was a purification by standing under freezing cold water.
I decided my 2025 misogi was to complete my first marathon in under 6 hours. Technically, I āfailedā. I finished in 6:28. Butā¦ 42.2km is the longest Iāve ever run, walked or moved anywhere continuously. The fact that I finished it at all 6 weeks after a health scare felt like it was enough.
The takeaway for me is that although I struggled to stay consistent with anything else (mainly around my coaching business and being a solopreneur), I was committing on a daily basis to the December marathon goal.
No hacks needed, no accountability systems required (I discovered Iām not much of a run club fan).
But posting on LinkedIn, marketing myself, stuff like that. I couldnāt force myself to do these things, and no amount of experiments worked. I spent most of 2025 feeling like I was failing at being a solopreneur, even wondering if I have undiagnosed ADHD.
So, it turns out I donāt have a consistency problem. I have a problem being consistent about things I donāt really want.
My 2025 misogi proved I was not just lazy. I CAN commit when something is actually aligned with what I want.
Right now Iām thinking about my 2026 misogiā¦ and encourage you to consider one too. If you do, pick it now, before 2025 ends. Make it hard enough you might fail. And see what it shows about what youāre actually willing to commit to.
He's the boss of us.
When did you decide to take a more intentional approach to your life?
19km this morning, listening to David Brooksā āHow to Know a Personā and this line stayed with me:
āWe see the world not with our eyes but with our livesā.
The same environment looks different to each of us, we notice different things, and whatās inviting to me may be boring to you.
That 19km looks easy to an elite athlete and hard to me.
Fast or slow I try to notice what Iām running past šāāļø
Iām not waiting to look good enough or feel fit enough to complete my first marathon.
I see so many faster fitter people out here (it IS Southeast Asia after all) and itās hard not to compare myself to them, and even harder to not compare myself to younger, svelte, faster self.
āBut I used to run a 46 minute 10kmā is like staring at the clothes I donāt fit into anymore that hang in my closet, and thinkingā¦āone dayā.
One day is now. As I am.