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In Singapore, the word “coaching” gets easily confused with “counselling” or “therapy”. 🤔 They are 2 different approaches and processes which have different outcomes.

Broading speaking, coaching is future-oriented and action-driven. Coaches see clients as creative, resourceful and whole. 🌱

In counselling, there is emotional healing and trauma processing. ❤️‍🩹 Counsellors may spend time on history taking to find out more about your past, r/s with family and others to understand how these may have influenced or shaped who you are today. They may also come in with psychotherapy or intervention during crisis.

Put it simply, work with a coach if it’s for everyday issues such as stress at work, procrastination or confidence issues as long as these are not affecting your day-to-day functioning as an individual. 🧑🏻‍💻

If you believe you are having maladaptive behaviours 😞 (for prolonged periods) which affect your ability at normal daily tasks, it may be useful to visit a counsellor or a therapy instead.

Remember, seeking help is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of self-awareness and courage. The strongest people are often the ones brave enough to say, “𝙄 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙚.” 💪🏻

The choice of words used, our body posture and tone of voice can change the perceived level of trust and psychological safety that our employee(s) in a conversation.

If you want to appear less confrontational and accusatory, it may be good to rephrase how you ask the question.

Instead of “𝙒𝙝𝙮 𝙙𝙞𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪…”, start the conversation with “𝙃𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙢𝙚 𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙙…” ✅ where it creates the space for the staff to reflect upon themselves.

It’s a small shift but reaps big rewards if done right! 🌟👏🏻

Are you the manager who is ALWAYS the solutionist? 😳

When you provide answers to all problems, you are training your team members to depend on you. 😕

How about using coaching to tap into their resourcefulness?

𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙖𝙨𝙠💬:
1. “What’s the real challenge here for you?”
2. “What outcome do you want?”
3. “What’s your next step?”�
𝙄𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙗𝙚𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙦𝙪𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨:
✨ The first question creates clarity.
✨ The second builds ownership.
✨ The third drives action.

Remember, great managers don’t just solve problems, they develop and grow people. 🌱

How can we forget such a pantry? ☕️😆

Honoured to be speaking on best practices of live-streaming on TikTok Shop.

🦦 has come a long way! 🚀

2-min breakdown on coaching versus mentoring, inspired while walking alongside the river this lovely afternoon. ☀️😌

These are 2 different approaches and processes to suit different clients, based on their goals and outcomes, at different phase of their lives and/or careers.

Which one do you need right now? 💭

Want to learn coaching skills as a manager, team leader or HR practitioner? 💭

Start 2026 with a good book 📕
“Breakthrough Coaching” by Marcia Reynolds. 🤩

3 key takeaways 🔑
✔️ Non-reactive empathy
✔️ Coach insights out of emotional moments
✔️ Values alignment

Which is your favourite? Share your comments! 🌟

Honoured to be spending a day of learning to understand more about Mindfulness from 𝘿𝙧. 𝙍𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡𝙙 𝙎𝙞𝙚𝙜𝙚𝙡, 𝘼𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙋𝙧𝙤𝙛𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙤𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙋𝙨𝙮𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙤𝙜𝙮, 𝙖𝙩 𝙃𝙖𝙧𝙫𝙖𝙧𝙙 𝙈𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙎𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙤𝙡, who flew in from Boston to conduct 2 days of workshops in Singapore.

Here are some key takeaways:�
𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗽 𝟭: 𝗦𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗠𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 & 𝗧𝗼𝗼𝗹𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗪𝗲𝗹𝗹-𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 🌸

🌟 𝙎𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙖𝙣𝙭𝙞𝙚𝙩𝙮 𝙗𝙮 𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙪𝙙 suggests that anxiety arises in response to an internal conflict.
Eg: In order not to feel the anxiety, we reach out to our phone to make us feel better.
🌟 𝙇𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙨𝙚𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 around 2 components that arise from pain: noticing the pain and the urge to do something about it.
🌟 𝘼𝙘𝙘𝙚𝙥𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙘𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙢𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 doesn’t mean passivity and not taking actions.
🌟 𝙉𝙚𝙜𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙗𝙞𝙖𝙨 means that our human minds tend to get stuck on the bad stuff that happens to us.�𝙂𝙤𝙩𝙩𝙢𝙖𝙣 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙘𝙝: It takes about 5 positive experiences to “undo” one big fight for a couple.
🌟 “𝙐𝙣𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙮 𝙩𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙮” 𝙗𝙮 𝘿𝙧. 𝙆𝙧𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣 𝙉𝙚𝙛𝙛: Self-criticism, Isolation, Self-absorption. Antidote is self-compassion! 💖

𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗽 𝟮: 𝗠𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗔𝗻𝘅𝗶𝗲𝘁𝘆 & 𝗗𝗲𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 😞�
🌱 𝙈𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙛𝙪𝙡𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 at hand and not running away from it.�This increases the “𝙘𝙖𝙥𝙖𝙘𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚𝙖𝙧” experience. You become more resilient.
🌱 𝙒𝙚 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙩.� If we don’t experience the full range of emotions, we can’t be fully present & enjoy life as a human being.
🌱 𝙁𝙖𝙘𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙨 is a necessary component of all anxiety treatment.
🌱 𝘼𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙖𝙛𝙛𝙚𝙘𝙩 means focus on the 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩, not why
Ask, “𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘸?”

Hello there, it’s my first post in 2024! 🤗

Most of you know me here as a yoga teacher 🧘🏻who practises on mindfulness since 2017. I’m re-activating this page with revamped content around Coaching.

Connect with me here if you would like to know more about 𝙘𝙤𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙠𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙨- be it for personal relationships or in professional settings at workplaces, they are going to be useful! ✨

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