Christina Medina -Transformational Life Coach

Now that I understand my Human Design... you couldn't pay me to go back.

Something I've been sitting with that I want to share honestly today.

I have a Cave environment in my Human Design. Which means I am literally designed to recharge through retreat... solitude... stillness. Regular quiet isn't optional for me. It's how I refill the cup that everyone else drinks from.

Here's what I didn't know for most of my life.

I was terrified of being alone.

Not because I didn't need solitude. I desperately needed it. But because I was running from what lived in the stillness. The feelings I hadn't processed. The truths I wasn't ready to sit with. The version of myself I hadn't met yet.

So I stayed busy. I filled every quiet moment before it could fill me with something uncomfortable. I called it productivity. I called it being needed. I called it just the way I am.

It wasn't just the way I am.

It was a nervous system that had learned stillness wasn't safe.

Understanding my Cave environment didn't just give me permission to retreat.

It helped me understand why I'd been running from the very thing I needed most.

And slowly... with the somatic work and the tapping and the willingness to finally sit with what was there...

The stillness stopped being something to escape.

It became somewhere to come home to.

If you have a Cave environment and you've been filling every quiet moment to avoid it... you're not broken. You're just carrying something that made stillness feel unsafe. And that can shift.

Have you ever noticed yourself running from solitude even when part of you was desperate for it? I'd love to hear your experience.

Oh and for those of you who know me personally and have been curious about my coaching work... and for those of you who are newer here... this is exactly what I do.

I help people understand their design... release what's no longer working... and discover what's still possible.

If any of this landed for you... you're welcome to reach out. That's what I'm here for.

Coincidence or Divine Confirmation?

Either way, I hope this finds the person who needs to hear it 🩷

Raise your hand if you're an overthinker who's tired of having seventeen tabs open in your brain and not being able to close a single one.

I see you. My hand is up too.

Something I want to say about this because I think it matters.

The tabs don't close because you haven't thought hard enough yet. They don't close because you need more information or a better system or the right planner.

They stay open because your nervous system doesn't feel safe enough to land anywhere.

When your system is dysregulated it keeps scanning. Keeps processing. Keeps running the same loops looking for a certainty that never comes. That's not a discipline problem. That's not an intelligence problem. That's a body that hasn't received the signal that it's safe to stop.

The work isn't to think less.

It's to create enough safety in your nervous system that the thinking finally has somewhere to rest.

I work with people who have been running those tabs for years. Decades sometimes. And what shifts the loop is never more thinking. It's always body level work. EFT. Somatic practices. Understanding the design underneath the pattern.

That's where the tabs actually close.

If this resonates... I'd love to hear how many tabs you're running today. And if you're ready to start closing some of them... you're welcome to reach out.

Something I want to say about how the Enneagram gets used... because I think it deserves better.

Three things that give me the ick.

Using your type as a personality badge instead of a map to your core wound. Your type isn't who you are. It's what your nervous system learned in order to feel safe. That's a completely different conversation.

Typing people without their consent and then explaining their behaviour back to them. I have been on the receiving end of this. It is not helpful. It is just a more sophisticated way of telling someone you've figured them out.

Stopping at the head centre triad. The Enneagram is a body map. Every type has a physical signature... a place in the body where the fear lives. Stopping at the personality description without ever getting to the body signals is like getting directions and never actually driving anywhere.

The Enneagram changed how I understand myself and every client I work with. But only when it's used as a map... not a label.

What's your type? I'd love to know how it's showing up in your body right now.

Something I want to share about where every EFT tapping session begins.

The karate chop point. Side of the hand between the pinky and the wrist.

We always start here because this point addresses what we call a psychological reversal... the part of you that is quietly working against the healing. The part that says I should be over this by now. The part that says I don't deserve to feel better.

That part needs to be acknowledged before anything else can shift.

Today the setup phrase was...

"Even though my nervous system is on overdrive right now... I am choosing to slow down for 60 seconds."

But your phrase will be different depending on what you're carrying today. Maybe it's exhaustion. Maybe it's anxiety. Maybe it's something you can't even name yet.

That's the beauty of it. You meet yourself exactly where you are.

If you tried it just now... I'd love to know what came up for you.

When you're ready to stop coping and start reconnecting... call me.

I want to sit with that for a moment.

Because coping is not nothing. Coping kept most of us functioning through the hardest seasons of our lives. It kept us showing up for the people who needed us. It got us through the days when getting through was genuinely all we had.

I'm not here to dismiss that.

But there is a difference between coping and reconnecting. And once you feel that difference... you can't unfeel it.

Coping manages the surface. Reconnecting goes to the source.

Coping gets you through the day. Reconnecting gets you back to yourself.

Coping is something you do to survive. Reconnecting is something that happens when you finally feel safe enough to stop.

If you've been coping for a long time... and some part of you is quietly wondering if there's something on the other side of that... there is.

And when you're ready... I'm here.

Something I want to say about the word cope.

I used to be told... and honestly used to tell myself... that the goal was to learn to cope. To manage better. To get through the hard stuff with more grace and less falling apart.

And I got very good at it.

I coped with the exhaustion. I coped with the disconnection. I coped with the quiet feeling that something wasn't right. I white-knuckled my way through anxiety and called it strength.

For years.

Until I realized that coping... was just overriding with better branding.

It wasn't that I was doing something wrong. Coping kept me functional. It kept me showing up. At the time it was the best tool I had.

But it was never the destination.

The shift came when I stopped trying to manage what was happening on the surface and started asking what was actually happening underneath. In my nervous system. In my body. In the patterns I'd been running since long before I had words for them.

That's where the real work lives. Not in coping better.

In getting to the place where you don't need to cope anymore.

That's what I help you do.

If you've been coping for a long time and wondering why nothing actually changes... I'd love to talk. You can reach out any time.