Alexis Story Coaching

Happy Monday! What’s on your list of things to do this week?

Let me give some practical self care suggestions!!

1. 𝑹𝒆𝒗𝒊𝒆𝒘 yearly goals (4.5 mos of the year left!) 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒋𝒖𝒅𝒈𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕.(𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚔 𝚌𝚑𝚍𝚌𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚗𝚟𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚘𝚛𝚢)

2. M𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕- even if it’s getting up right now and stretching. Time yourself 10 minutes (at least) of stretching OR 𝒈𝒐 𝒐𝒖𝒕𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒌!

3. 𝑮𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒕𝒖𝒅𝒆- send a text to someone randomly. Be specific! Not just “for being in your life” try this: “You inspire me every day.” OR “You always make me feel special every time I see you.” OR “Thanks for listening to me the other day. I really needed that and appreciate that opportunity to share.”

4. 𝑴𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒇𝒖𝒍𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝑷𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒆: this could be yoga, meditation, or it could be part of your walk -no music, no phone calls, no scrolling, or journal OR literally just lie on a bed and clear your mind- 5min is ok, 10min is good, and 15 min is pure mind relief!

5. 𝑯𝒖𝒈 someone or some animal. The power of touch. Some days we just don’t get enough. A hug can stimulate oxytocin production which is your love hormone- distressing and good for emotion regulation.

6. 𝑭𝒖𝒆𝒍 for your body- get some veggies in, good protein and maybe cold pressed juice. Give thanks to the food and your body for getting you this far 💛

Happy Monday! Let me know if you get some extra 🤗hugs today🗣️👇.

Hi friends. It's about time I took a minute to introduce myself again. Notably, my instagram account has a lot going on guthealth, healthhacks, mindset tips, spiritual flavors, meditations, mentalhealth advocacy, lots of fitness, yoga, weight training, and throw some dancing in when I'm feeling fun.

So here it is: I am a coach to women who are looking for a health in a mental or physical capacity. I have worked a lot in the health space but tend to focus my time on helping women see their worth, fight perfectionism, and show up as a more calm and incontrol (of all things) empowered female.

I work with men on relationships. Not because I am a relationship expert, but because I can provide an honest understanding of how they are feeling and how there actions do not support what they want.

I am a coach trained in NLP, techniques of change. I am also a health coach, and a weight training fitness fanatic for 20+ years. I have been teaching yoga since 2007. I am currently in grad school for clinical mental health counseling.

I survived an eating disorder in my youth and addiction throughout my life. My lack of permanent partner, (never married) nor having kids has been both a symbol of my strength and a source of my shame. In 2010 I was diagnosed with IBS (ie gut health trauma) and spent a long time refining my diet and my supplements to know what creates belly hell and how to get back on track. I have felt self hatred, self love, and dealt unmedicated adhd, fought to not take medication for depression and anxiety and lost every battle.

I take long breaks from social media because I can't always handle the time it takes me to interact, much to the detriment of my IG growth.

My strengths are: empathy, intuition, knowledge, intellect, emotional depth, fitness training, yoga, nonrestricted eating, gut health, humor and creativity.
My weaknesses are: consistency, codapendency, emotionalism, perfectionism, procrastication and self sabotage.

I have helped over 100 people through my coaching and if anything speaks to you here, reach out. I'm good at what I do and helping people is what I am meant to do on this earth.

Happy Monday friends!
I’ve been thinking about how to synthesize the themes that are both my nemesis and my savior. If you are looking to have a different life, we have to show up differently and these few things are the fundamental and yet so easily forgotten.

Do you utilize any of these? Or what helps you feel more in control, more love, more abundance and empowered?!

🔐 Control through Discipline
True control isn't about suppressing or dominating others, but about mastering yourself. It's about developing the discipline to align your actions with your intentions, to stay focused amidst distractions, and to persevere in the face of challenges. Embrace discipline as the catalyst that empowers you to shape your destiny.

💞 Love through Giving
Love is a boundless force that grows when shared. The more love you give, the more it multiplies within your heart and radiates to those around you. Practice acts of kindness, express gratitude, and extend compassion. Embrace the beauty of giving and watch love flourish in your life.

🔑 Trust through Self-Belief
Trust is the foundation of strong relationships, but it starts within. Believe in your abilities, honor your values, and listen to your intuition. Cultivate self-trust by making choices aligned with your authentic self. Embrace your strengths, acknowledge your growth, and let go of self-doubt. As you trust yourself, you invite trust from others.

🌟 Power through Seeking Higher
True power is not about control over others; it's about connecting with something greater than yourself. Seek a higher power that resonates with your soul, whether it be spirituality, nature, or a deep sense of purpose. Tap into this divine energy to unlock your full potential and make a positive impact in the world.

💫 Embrace the Journey, Embrace Yourself
Remember, life is a magnificent journey of growth and self-discovery. As you navigate through its twists and turns, keep these principles close to your heart.

Embrace discipline, love, trust, and the power of seeking higher. Then watch your life and the quality of your interactions deepen; life becomes about what we put into vs get out of it.💛

One of my favorite psychologists is Carl Jung. Not only because of how he expanded on Freud’s psychoanalysis (Jung created analytical psychology), but also because he was into , the collective consciousness, and (Metaphysics is the branch of philosophy that studies the fundamental nature of reality.) He also is the founder of the term Shadow self… and much more!!

So I’m always looking for new ideas or prompts to journal from… try these out to give yourself that intellectual and Jungian flare!!

"𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒔𝒕, 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒔." & "𝑾𝒉𝒐 𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒌𝒔 𝒐𝒖𝒕𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆, 𝒅𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒎𝒔; 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒌𝒔 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒂𝒘𝒂𝒌𝒆𝒏𝒔."
Are there areas in your life that you are avoiding, pushing within, that sometimes bother you before bed? Is there something or a situation that is familiar that occurs and you think how did I attract this again? What do you think you need to learn from this situation?

"𝑾𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒓𝒖𝒍𝒆𝒔, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓; 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒅𝒐𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒔, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈."
Where can you bring a sense of love in your life? To your work? Your children? Someone who hurt you? Look wherever you are frustrated or feeling negative, bring love there.

“𝑨 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒊𝒏𝒇𝒆𝒓𝒏𝒐 𝒐𝒇 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔, 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎."
What are you passionate about in your life? What do you wish you could do because you are passionate about it? Discover here where you can push yourself to grow.

“𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒄𝒊𝒐𝒖𝒔𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒑𝒂𝒊𝒏."
Are you looking beyond the physical? Are you guided by something greater than just your physical mind’s chatter? When we begin to challenge ourselves to live better and follow deeper, higher principles, the suffering of the world is apparent, we feel pain, our own and those oppressed in the world.

What is one of the biggest barriers to mind and body healing?

Did you know that self-criticism is actually a form of self-protection?

💛so before we go any further, sit with that truth and consider appreciating that part of yourself that's trying to keep you safe/motivated/in control.

Self-criticism activates the brain’s threat response, that works perfectly when a threat is life-endangering, but when the threat is to our self-concept, self-criticism does nothing but make things worse. When you view yourself as the problem, your reptilian brain kicks in and keeps you stuck in that fight-flight stress loop that were trying to get out of.

Self-compassion is a huge component in activating the parasympathetic branch of the nervous system, combatting the threat response that leads to chronic dysregulation and chronic mind-body symptoms.

📝So what to do?
Notice your critic.
Build your awareness of their presence.
Massive understand and accept them.
See them as just a part of yourself.
Maybe even befriend them?
Then choose a different, kinder narrative.
Over and over and over.
You can do it.

This is the work that will change everything for you. Trust me! It’s my work!

What's your relationship with yourself like? What’s one thing you can say to yourself to set that inner critic aside?

Happy Monday!

I was thinking about what I personally was going to do this week to make sure I gave myself the best opportunity to feel good mentally.🥰

And here's my list that I thought I'd share with you.🗒️
1. 𝑬𝒏𝒆𝒓𝒈𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕𝒔
I know it seems woo-woo, but think of someone who gives you energy. Now think of someone who takes your energy. So it's a thing.
😆Your thoughts are the same thing, they can take your energy or they can give you energy. Learn how to harness your thoughts. I know it seems tough but it's possible!

2. 𝑴𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕
Move your body. ESPECIALLY when you feel down and meditation, prayer, journaling, isn't working. It's a fact- movement is effective to change your emotional state!!

3. 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓 𝒐𝒇 𝒂 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒌
Go for a walk and be present. Be alone with your thoughts. Take some time with no music, no social media, and let your mind just be. Make an effort to come back to the present moment. Just give it a try and see how you feel.

4. 𝑺𝒖𝒏𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒆
Getting out of ourselves is the best way to change the me focus in our mind. Choose to do something for someone else. Be their sunshine even if you can't be your own.

5. 𝑳𝒂𝒖𝒈𝒉𝒕𝒆𝒓
😆Laugh. What a great and easy way to physiologically change our mental state and tone our abs ;). FIND something to make you laugh. Take that 5 minutes and give your brain that gift.

Some of us have rough 😓days. Some of us have 😢rougher days than others. It never hurts to remind ourselves that we can be the master of our own mind. And don't worry, I know each one of these won't work for everyone, so take what works and leave the rest.

🌟I do know that they work for me, and for my clients.

✅There's plenty more choices out there. Tell me yours.✍️

👉Know this. ANYTIME you need a boost, I am there for you. You just have to make that little step to reach out!

Now take on the week IG fam💪💛

Here it is! A way to get it all and ignite your health in a fun way.
Struggling with accountability?
Tired of feeling confused on what’s the most important part of your health?
Feel as though you are your biggest enemy?

My NEW 4-week Vitality Program is designed to help you feel your best inside and out, with weeks one and two focusing on physical fitness and nutrition, and weeks three and four delving into emotional and mental wellbeing.

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LINK IS IN MY BIO👈

I believe that a holistic approach to wellness is essential for achieving lasting results, and that's exactly what the Vitality Program provides. Whether you're looking to lose weight, reduce stress, or simply feel better overall, this program has something for everyone.

There has never been a person that said oh gee, I’m so upset I focused on my health and feel amazing now. This will be a transformative journey. PLUS It’s FUN! Challenges to win water bottles, journals, recipes and more.🏆

Sign up now via the link in my bio. You won’t be disappointed and you will gain so much knowledge you’ll always know how to stay (or get back on) track.

So excited to do this!! Let’s GO! We start on May 1st!

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These affirmations cover 3 important pillars:
1- EMOTIONAL: 𝑰 𝒂𝒎 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒊𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒍 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒚 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔. 𝑾𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝑰 𝒃𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒆𝒆𝒑, 𝑰 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒚 𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒓

2. MENTAL: 𝑾𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒊 𝒂𝒎 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒕, 𝑰 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝑰 𝒂𝒎 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝑰 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒐 𝒊𝒏 𝒎𝒚 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆, 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒎𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕, 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒆𝒓, 𝒓𝒆𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑𝒔, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇.

3. PHYSICAL: 𝑴𝒚 𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒇𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒐𝒓 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒊𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒊𝒛𝒆 𝑰 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕. 𝑰 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒆𝒙𝒆𝒓𝒄𝒊𝒔𝒆. 𝑰 𝒄𝒉𝒐𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒇𝒐𝒐𝒅𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍 𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒊𝒏 𝒎𝒚 𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚.

Focusing your mind on what you want vs what you lack is key 🔑 in change management.

If anything feels out of whack this weekend, remind yourself that everything in life is perspective and there literally is an up with every down.

So today let’s see the good, redirect our mind to the good and commit to the follow through with our actions.

What affirmation speaks to you?


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I am literally obsessed with or Internal Family Systems (can be a coach and get certified in this technique- so I’m not out of scope!)
There are lots of techniques out there that are effective, but I have been doing inner child work with myself, my friends (before coaching) and with my coaching clients since 2004 (not joking first letter to my inner child that broke my pattern of using men for attention was in 2004) and it is PROFOUND.
Internal Family systems aka parts work is an expanded version of inner child work, where different voices in your psyche are personified- whether they are creating harm or protecting you.
Where we get into trouble when overcoming issues, is when we push down those voices and ignore them. When we do this, we stay ignorant to what they are trying to accomplish.
When we start looking at every character defect or poor coping mechanism as having a role in our lives, essentially, an intent to help us in a way, then we can understand ourselves that much better.
The personifying is key and I promise it's quite a mind spin. To actually dialogue with yourself and get into the "character" of these voices can be mind blowing. I'm not exaggerating. I've done this work and integrating it more with my clients. I'm just a baby at utilizing it, but already have seen it's worth.
I'm SO excited to have this tool. If you are curious, I'm giving away free sessions to give myself more practice.
Set up a discovery call! Link in bio.
Happy Thursday friends~ from your health/gut coach turned life coach turned grad student in counseling... look at that plethora of knowledge that can be included in your coaching ;)

It’s free. What are you waiting for?

Monday meanderings. Deep thoughts and belly breaths!

I have not always been that confident. And I still struggle (obviously). I mean if you know me personally or have read enough of my posts, you see me tell feelings of fear, not feeling good enough and ya honestly some down right personal issues that seem almost cringey.

But that's MY story. And part of my story is learning how to lose the "what people think" mindset or the followers I lose or for that matter, the followers I gain. Being literally like, I do not care how this comes across because this is my life!

Business plays a part but these days, the pain, the authenticity, the disclosure is becoming more and more what we hunger to let out. And hunger to see and feel. 💯

I don't want to just know about the weight someone lost, I want to know how some days it's hard to get going or eat the right thing or to be married or single, working at a corporate office or doubting your career choice or ability to be a parent.

And then I want you to tell me how you got through it. Are you better? Will that thinking come back? Is it ok if it comes back? (what even determines ok)
And through you, I feel seen. Through me relating, YOU feel seen.

So ya there are some that travel this road of life and don't really "get" the low self esteem, self depracating nature some of us have or have the same deep wounds of addiction, eating disorders, relationships that never quite hit the happy mark, and that is ok. My people are the people that show up with their scars and proudly show them.

My people are the ones that say, yep, I was an as***le. Or I don't necessarily agree, but I see how you could feel that way. Or the ones that say, hey I need help, what can I do to be better?

Nothing like some deep thoughts for a Monday? My posts are always reflecting something I am thinking about, encountering and hoping to inspire others in an authentic way.

I hope you touch someone's soul today with your authenticity. And then I hope you share that. If you don't have anyone to share it with, you have my DM's.

Happy Monday to all of the souls that have burned 🔥so hard that they became ashes and had to start anew.
I 🫶 you!

Some Thursday inspiration.

Listen to the longings of your soul.

Honor the pull at your heart and mind and body.

Be true to yourself and trust your intuition.

Take a risk and be vulnerable when youare uncomfortable. See what doing hard emotional things feels like. Oh! The freedom that it brings.

𝙎𝙃𝘼𝙍𝙀 𝘼𝙉𝘿 𝙎𝘼𝙑𝙀!

𝑴𝒚 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒂 𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒍𝒚:
(𝕗𝕣𝕠𝕞 𝕆𝕣𝕚𝕒𝕙 𝕄𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕥𝕒𝕚𝕟 𝔻𝕣𝕖𝕒𝕞𝕖𝕣- "𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗜𝗻𝘃𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻")
“It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.

I want to know if you will stay in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”

The other day I discussed how stress affects the body.

Let's take a look at a few of the ways that stress can affect our 🅜🅘🅝🅓.

𝑴𝒆𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏: Stress can impact a person's cognitive abilities, including memory and concentration. >>They may have trouble remembering details or completing tasks that require sustained focus.
>>This can be especially problematic at work or school, where performance depends on cognitive abilities

𝑺𝒍𝒆𝒆𝒑: Stress can interfere with a person's ability to get a good night's sleep. They may struggle to fall asleep, wake up frequently during the night, or wake up feeling unrefreshed.
>>Chronic sleep problems can lead to fatigue, irritability, and difficulty concentrating during the day.

Stress can affect our :
𝑬𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒂𝒍 𝒘𝒆𝒍𝒍- 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈, leading to feelings of anxiety, depression, irritability, and mood swings. It can also affect their ability to focus and make decisions, and cause a lack of motivation and energy. >>This can affect relationships: Prolonged stress can strain relationships with family, friends, and coworkers. 𝑰𝒕 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 a person to 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒅𝒓𝒂𝒘 from social situations, become more argumentative, and feel less connected to others.😔

There are so many more ways that we are affected.

𝚂𝚝𝚊𝚢 𝚝𝚞𝚗𝚎𝚍 for an upcoming post 📝on stress relieving tips!