Sam Gibbs Morris Consulting

I asked a couple that had been married for 57 years what is the one piece of advice they can offer me.

They said, talk to each other. And don’t stop talking to each other. Your time is the most precious currency you can ever give each other, it’s the only thing you can’t get back once it’s gone.

Suppressed anger and drinking is a bad combination for your relationship.

No matter you’ve been told, alcohol is not your friend.

You don’t need it to de-stress.
You don’t need it to celebrate.
You don’t need it to connect to your wife.
You don’t need it to network.
You don’t need it on vacation.

Alcohol is not your friend.

If what you desire to be is a better husband, father, brother, leader, or man what you need is more capacity.

What alcohol takes from you is your capacity.

There are some things that really s_ck about stopping drinking alcohol.

It’s really easy to sit here and talk about all the really amazing things that happen when you stop drinking, and that’s only telling half the story

Here are a few of the things that are not amazing that happen when you stop drinking alcohol.

You’re going to have to sit with a lot of uncomfortable truth, and you’re going to have to have a lot of hard conversations about the wreckage you caused, the relationships that were broken, the ways you were out of integrity in every area of your life

There’s going to be a lot of cleanup, and it’s not going to feel good.

Your sleep is going to be weird for a little bit.

Alcohol used to be the thing that “helped” you fall asleep, and you no longer have that crutch. You’re going to have a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep.

It’s going to be frustrating, and you’re going to feel tired.

You’re going to have to rebuild a lot of relationships, mostly your marriage.

And if you’re single, you’re going to have to rebuild many friendships. That’s going to be really uncomfortable.

You’re going to feel lethargic and tired, almost bored a lot of the time. Alcohol filled a lot of the empty gaps that you had in your life: you would get home from work and have a few drinks, go out on the weekends and have a few drinks. A lot of the things you did involved “having a few drinks”.

You’re going to experience boredom for a little bit when you stop drinking.

Now there are more things that are not going to be fun about stopping drinking, and the good news is that they are only temporary.

All the things that I talk about that are amazing when you stop drinking are permanent.

They are on the other side of the discomfort and the crunchiness.

They’re on the other side of the rewiring of your systems and the repatterning of your behaviors.

If you can withstand six months or a year (no sugarcoating that) of discomfort, you’re going to have an amazing life, and you’re not even going to think about drinking alcohol.

Four positive things that happen in your life when you stop drinking.

Three, of the many, reasons why I left AA after 6 years.

Little known fact about stopping drinking.

One of the biggest reasons why it’s so hard to stop drinking.