Stacy Idema LLC

Some mirrors heal you.
Some expose you.
Both teach you.

Not all women are allies, compatibility is about integrity, not gender.

This recognition widened my discernment field.

And mirrored who I was
And the gap between who I desired to be
And the woman i am becoming

This isn't blame

It is the acknowledgement that we mirror each other.

Different allies.
Different futures.

Safety is the birthplace of victim stories.

I played those stories for decades

Wished and hoped, only to disappoint myself

With integrity, the path revealed itself
Layered with grief and uncomfortable truths
Shredding the thick barriers of belief I once identified

In turn, my intensity, sensitivity, duality, and too muchness became part of the exact frequency my soul required
to match the outcomes I desired.

Your desires never reveal themselves the way you believe.

We are who we perceive ourselves to be,
shaped by our integrity,
irrespective of gender.

P.S. Learning to be a good sister, blood has deeply shaped how I lead from the heart, love unconditionally, and share new stories with the next generation of women.

I decided to go for a walk but didn't feel much like walking....

So instead, I found a limestone rock the size and shape of a bed and laid down to soak up the sun and be deeply present instead.

Previously identifying as an overachiever
Multi tasking
Hardworking
Resilient
Ambitious
Courageous
Busy......oh so busy

Woman....chasing her dreams burnt me out, reinforced resentment and fueled bitterness.

My former husband told me I used to outwork him.

I thought I had to....

The process of unraveling the need to prove is daily but that process is no one else's responsibility, except my own.

And so today, I didn't walk 😉

When you use complaining as a substitute for connection and intimacy,
you co-create victimhood like it is a badge of armor

Venting is the mirror of your own suffering and struggle.

One upping your problems keep you in the problems

Reinforcing the exact narrative your soul seeks to no longer live out.

I was afraid of my desires and the truth of those desires

Because I knew it would bring out my best in me and the worst in others

It would reveal the lies I told myself
the lie I lived
the pain I caused

the life I no longer wanted
or ever desired

Complaining was the coverup for the glow up I desired

Complaining attracted friends
who were conditional
and relationships I immediately outgrew

I grieved their loss as if I was wronged
without realizing I already wronged them

The depth of it's despair in the complaint
is the depth of the repair you desire in yourself, for yourself

Everything begins within
With you.

This is relational coherence.
This is your legacy
Your lineage