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Making friends as an adult is hard. And I think a lot of women feel embarrassed admitting that.We made friends so easily...
09/15/2026

Making friends as an adult is hard. And I think a lot of women feel embarrassed admitting that.

We made friends so easily as kids. You sat next to someone in class, played on the same team, walked home together, and somehow you were best friends. Now you’re an adult with kids, a marriage, schedules, past hurt, different convictions, limited time, and a phone full of people you kind of know but maybe nobody you’d call when life actually falls apart.

That does not mean you’re bad at friendship.

But I also don’t think we should use “adult friendship is hard” as a reason to stay stuck.

At some point, somebody has to send the text. Somebody has to ask for the number. Somebody has to invite the other mom over before the house is clean. Somebody has to risk being the one who cares a little more first.

And if you need help doing that, so what?

Seriously.

If someone handed you a step-by-step plan for building the kind of friendships you’ve been praying for, would it really be more embarrassing to use it than to stay lonely because you felt like you should already know how?

We get help with marriage. We read books about parenting. We take classes for work. We ask for advice about health, money, faith, and home.

Friendship is one of the most important parts of our lives, and somehow we decided we’re supposed to just magically know how to build it.

You’re allowed to need a little direction.

You’re allowed to say, “Tell me who to look for. Tell me what to text. Tell me what to do next.”

That is not pathetic. That is practical.

Because the goal is not to prove you can figure friendship out on your own.

The goal is to build the kind of community you don’t have to do life without.

If that is what you want, comment STARTERKIT and I’ll send you the Village Starter Kit.

I think a lot of us pray for deep friendship while still protecting ourselves from everything deep friendship requires.W...
09/12/2026

I think a lot of us pray for deep friendship while still protecting ourselves from everything deep friendship requires.

We want women who really know us, but we keep parts hidden because we’re scared they’ll judge us. We want friends who will tell us the truth, but get defensive when the truth hits a nerve. We want women who show up when life gets hard, but sometimes we disappear when friendship gets awkward.

A close friendship is not just finding the right woman. It’s two women deciding, over and over again, to be trustworthy with each other.

It’s not repeating something she told you privately because “I was just asking for prayer.” It’s not keeping score of who texted first. It’s not assuming the worst because she was weird at Bible study. It’s not needing her to agree with every decision you make in order to feel supported.

Sometimes being a good friend looks like celebrating her when you’re in a season of waiting. Sometimes it’s saying, “I think we need to talk because something feels off,” instead of slowly backing away. Sometimes it’s bringing dinner, admitting you were wrong, or shutting your mouth when gossip would make you feel included.

And sometimes it’s letting another woman love you enough to call something out without immediately deciding she’s against you.

We underestimate how much maturity real community requires. We say we want a village, but villages are full of actual people. Different personalities, bad days, missed texts, hurt feelings, and blind spots.

The goal isn’t to find women who will never disappoint you. It’s to become women who know how to love, forgive, speak honestly, repair, show up, and point each other back toward what matters.

So yes, pray for good women. But maybe also pray, “God, make me the kind of woman other women are safe growing beside.”

That prayer might change your friendships more than finding the “perfect” friend ever could.

I care deeply about helping women build this kind of community. Not just names in a group chat, but women they can actually do life with.

If you’re trying to build that and want help figuring out where to start, comment STARTERKIT and I’ll send you more info.

Four months ago, I was the new mom. No years of history here. No built-in group text. No friend who already knew my kids...
09/12/2026

Four months ago, I was the new mom. No years of history here. No built-in group text. No friend who already knew my kids or could read my face and know I was having a rough day.

I think sometimes we look at women who have that and assume they got lucky. They found the perfect church, the perfect group, the perfect friends. Meanwhile you keep showing up and still feel like you’re standing a few feet outside of everyone else’s life.

I really don’t think you have to stay there.

I got active, quickly. I went to things. I invited women into things I was already doing. I opened my house before I knew everyone that well. I hosted workouts with babies running around, Bible study, girls’ night, coffee, random kid stuff. Half the time it was basically, “I’m doing this Thursday at 10. Who wants to come?”

And somewhere in all those ordinary reps, things started changing.

You stop being “the new mom.” Someone remembers what you told her last week. Your kids know each other. The group text gets less awkward. Someone comes over without needing your house cleaned first. Then one day your house is full on a Tuesday and you realize, wait… this is the thing I was hoping for.

I’m not saying this like I cracked some friendship code. There have already been awkward moments, hurt feelings, declined invites, women I connected with more than others, and plenty of times I’ve had to get out of my own head.

But I do think we can spend way too long waiting to feel included before we participate.

Sometimes you have to go first. Not chase people. Not force friendship. Just give people enough opportunities to actually know you.

Because the village you’re praying for may not arrive as an already-formed group that pulls you in. You may help build it one coffee, one text, one messy playdate and one random Tuesday at a time.

And when those women start becoming part of your real life, it is so worth the awkward beginning.

If you’re thinking, “I want this, but please just tell me what to DO,” that’s why we made the Village Starter Kit. It gives you the steps, texts, hosting ideas, overthinking tools and direction to start.

Comment STARTERKIT and I’ll send it to you. 🤍

09/10/2026

Have you ever tried using tallow to take your makeup off?

That’s actually become one of my favorite ways to use it.

If you’re in the crunchy space, you’ve probably heard people talk about tallow for skincare. I had heard about it for a while too, but I’ll be honest, the idea of putting beef fat on my face was just a little hard for me to get past.

My skin does really well with thick creams, oils and balms though, so I finally tried it.

Now I use a little on dry skin to break down my makeup, wash my face, and then use a tiny bit more afterward as my moisturizer.

It’s just really simple, which is probably why I keep reaching for it.

The biggest thing for me was finding one that didn’t actually smell like tallow. My mom literally buys hers from the grocery store, so I knew I needed something that felt a little more like skincare if I was going to put it on my face every night.

This one smells like straight vanilla. Like when I open the jar, that is all I smell.

And now it’s just one of those products I really don’t want to run out of. It takes my makeup off, gives me the heavier moisture my skin likes, and I don’t feel like I need a bunch of different products sitting on my counter.

If you’ve already been using tallow, try it for makeup removal too. That was the part I didn’t expect to love so much.

And if you’ve been wanting to try it but couldn’t quite get past the whole beef-fat-on-your-face thing, this is the one that finally got me there.

Code WOLFE gets you 10% off.

I wasn’t raised Christian, so Halloween was always just normal to me. I dressed up, watched the movies, did the whole th...
09/09/2026

I wasn’t raised Christian, so Halloween was always just normal to me. I dressed up, watched the movies, did the whole thing. But the more I grow in my faith and pursue God’s heart, the more I ask questions I never used to ask. What would He want me putting in front of my own eyes? What do I want my kids learning to see as funny, harmless, exciting, or normal?

There are so many voices telling us what to think. One person says Halloween is demonic. Another says Christians are ridiculous for even questioning it. It’s easy to borrow somebody else’s conviction just because they sound confident.

I don’t want to do that.

I want to know what the Bible actually says, understand the history, and then sit down with my husband and decide what faithfulness looks like for our family.

Romans 14 has been really helpful because it shows that some things are clear in Scripture, while other things require discernment and Christians may land differently.

That doesn’t mean truth is relative. Witchcraft, divination, mediums, and trying to communicate with the dead are directly addressed in Scripture. But costumes, pumpkins, trick-or-treating, certain movies, and how your family handles October 31 take more discernment.

If God is convicting me about something, I don’t want to ignore it just because another Christian is comfortable with it. But I also don’t want to turn my conviction into a rule God never gave every other mom.

For us, this year will probably look like church festivities, letting the kids dress up, and skipping neighborhood trick-or-treating. We don’t really feel the need to walk our little kids past witches, ghosts, gore, and scary decorations when they already have another way to have fun.

But I don’t want you to borrow my answer either.

Open your Bible. Pray. Talk it through with your husband. Ask what is shaping your kids, what is shaping you, and where God may be asking your family to be more discerning.

We have enough people online telling us what to believe. I think we need to get better at letting Scripture form us and following God where He convicts our own family.

09/09/2026

If you feel like you carry the entire mental load in your house, I understand why that feels exhausting. You’re remembering appointments, groceries, meals, clothes, birthdays, schedules, what’s running out, what needs to be cleaned, what everybody needs. Your brain can feel like it never shuts off.

But I think some of us need to ask a harder question too: are we only noticing the things we carry because we’re the ones carrying them?

There may be an entire list of things your husband handles that you barely think about anymore precisely because he handles them.

And I’m not talking about the husband who isn’t showing up. There are women carrying way too much, and that deserves its own conversation. I’m talking about the marriage where your husband is working hard, taking responsibility, carrying stress, helping with the kids, handling finances, fixing things, making breakfast, getting up with babies, doing the things he has taken ownership of.

And somehow, it can still be easy to focus on the cup he left out.

That’s what making this bed brought up for me.

I could have thought, “I already make all the other beds. Why can’t he make this one?” And technically, that would be a reasonable request.

But then I started thinking about all the things he carries that I don’t have to think about at all.

Marriage can’t become two people constantly keeping score and building a case for why the other person should do more.

At some point I have to ask: Am I trying to make everything perfectly fair, or am I looking for opportunities to love my husband well?

That doesn’t mean ignoring your own needs. It doesn’t mean staying quiet when you’re drowning. It doesn’t mean one spouse gets to check out.

It means love isn’t always 50/50.

Galatians 5:13 tells us to serve one another through love. Philippians 2:4 tells us to look not only to our own interests, but also to the interests of others.

So maybe today, instead of mentally listing everything he missed, ask yourself:

What is he carrying that I’ve stopped noticing?

And tell him you see it.

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