05/20/2026
Little different Wednesday Wisdom post today. I wanted to share my experience as a player in high school and college, and how the coaches I played for and teams I played with made a lasting impact on me and how I coach today. Bit of a long read, but I think it is useful to share my experience for athletes who may experience something similar â even at the travel level. Thanks!
I played baseball at Jefferson High School for legendary Coach John Lowery. He has the 2nd most wins in HS baseball history, is a Hall of Famer, and one of the greatest coaches of all time. He taught me a lot. He was hard on us, but open to questions. He instructed, he listened to us, and he took the time to answer our questions. He made everything feel like an open competition day in and day out. Your spot on the field never felt safe so you worked hard all the time to keep it once you got it. He had zero tolerance for bad behavior. Everyone worked hard and rooted for one another. Even as a starter, I never felt any sort of animosity from the backups in my spot. Many of the principles I follow as a coach I got from Coach Lowery.
I only started full time my senior year of high school. It was a very competitive environment as it was the only school in the county at the time. The first 4 weeks of my senior year, I went on a bit of a tear and started getting calls, emails, and letters from colleges - mostly D2 schools in WV/VA, but also a few D3 schools and JUCOs. I met with the Head Coach at Shepherd in the middle of the season in his office, and he gave me an offer on the spot. He was pumping me up, saying how much he wanted me to be a Ram and was excited to have me learn from the guys who were there. He was transparent about his plan for me, which was to redshirt behind the starting third baseman who was a senior, then get a chance to compete for a starting spot the year after. This sounded good to me and was what I wanted, so I verbally committed, but didnât sign.
Fast forward to a few weeks later at the end of the HS season. I played in the Mid-Atlantic Baseball Classic at the Hagerstown Suns Stadium. This was effectively an All Star game for all the local HS teams in the tri-state area. The Shepherd coach was in attendance, as well as many other colleges. I hit a home run, a double off the top of their version of a green monster in center field and got MVP of the game. The coach was making it clear that I was going to Shepherd, so nobody even tried to approach me about it because that was effectively shut down. Sometimes I wonder if I had waited to verbally commit, what opportunities may have come from that day. I ended up signing with Shepherd a few weeks later. Lesson number 1 â timing is everything. Outline your schedule and wait until youâve explored all your options before you commit to something.
Moving on to the fall season my Freshman year of college at Shepherd. The season started off great. I had a great fall season, was producing, was getting along with the team, and having a good time. Then one thing happened that kind of started the downfall of my experience on this team. We had a fundraiser called the â100 inning gameâ where we played 100 innings over a couple of days to raise money for the program. They brought in Shepherd Baseball alumni to play against us. Some came to pitch, some came to hit, some came to play the field. It was fun, but it was my first opportunity to show what I brought to the table in a game type environment in front of a crowd. Every out recorded by an alumni pitcher raised money, and every hit they got raised money. I stepped up my first AB of this game, excited to show what I could do to this coach, my team, and the fans who were there and I hit a home run off a pitcher who graduated the year before. It was a shining moment for me because it was off a person who was just in college ball, so it showed me that I belonged. As I was rounding 2nd base, the head coach screamed at me to go in the woods and get my own ball. Here I was â happy to succeed and show that I belonged there, and Iâm getting yelled at by my coach for hitting a home run. After I got back to the dugout, he came up to me and sternly said the purpose of the 100 inning game was to raise money and not make me look like a superstar. This was extremely discouraging, and hard for me to grasp. But it set the tone for how the rest of the year went.
After that, it felt like everything changed. He was especially rude to me, dismissive of questions, made me feel bad for asking questions, and spoke to me disrespectfully. They just moved me to be the backup 1B, which I had rarely played before going to Shepherd. I had some questions here and there just because I hadnât played the position much before, and he made me feel like an idiot with every question I had. Lesson number 2 â pay attention to how coaches talk to players. You can learn A LOT by watching a little bit of GameChanger film, watching how they interact with the kids in the huddle, how their body language is when the kids make a mistake, and how they talk to kids in open practices.
Fast forward to spring, where I went on a tear in our pre-season. I hit the crap out of the ball every BP session and lit it up in scrimmages. Remember â the plan was to redshirt me and have me compete at 3B next year. They moved me to 1B as the backup. About 10 games into the season, we went to Mount Olive, NC to play against one of the top D2 baseball teams in the country. They had a few guys get drafted off that team. In pre-game batting practice, in 10 pitches I hit 8 home runs. The coach pulled me aside after my BP session, and told me he was going to pull my redshirt and start me. The starting 1st baseman at the time was struggling a little bit at the plate, and he told me he wanted to give our 1B a kick in the (you know what) to get him going. To me â this was not a great message. First â it went against the plan. I wanted that redshirt year so I could continue to get bigger/stronger/faster and better so I could hopefully start for a full 4 years. It also felt like I was being used as a pawn to motivate someone else, rather than getting rewarded for my own play. I lost a year of eligibility because of it. Lesson 3 â if you are told a plan, use your voice in a respectful way to hold the people accountable who promised it.
I started for about 12 games or so and did ok. Batted around .250 but definitely did not perform to my standard. It was a tough stretch facing really good pitching on our spring break trip down south and against really good programs in the conference. After 12 games or so he put the original starter back in and sat me the rest of the season. That starter, Nathan Minnich, ended up going on a tear, earning all conference that year, was voted the D2 National Player of the Year the following year, and got drafted by the Red Sox in the 8th round after his senior year. Heâs also one of the nicest, most genuine guys Iâve ever played ball with. He was supportive, showed mentorship, included me in what he did training wise, invited me for meals, was a great teammate, and great human. Lesson 4 â Nathan taught me that the best players donât have to be these cocky, arrogant guys and you can be humble and still be a stud. In fact â I think his attitude, team first mindset is what helped set him apart from the rest and ultimately played a big factor in his success.
One of the biggest learning moments I had happened on the last road trip of the season. We had a few guys on the team who acted a fool when they failed. Throwing helmets, throwing bats, cussing and yelling, the whole 9. They were seniors though, and it seemed like nobody ever said anything about it and it was just accepted. We were at West Liberty at the end of the year, and the coach randomly put me in to pinch hit. I had already been feeling a type of way about how the year went down, and I grounded into a double play. I came in really mad and slammed my helmet and batting gloves and yelled out a word I wonât say on here. The coach came in and got in my grill yelling at me saying âI donât know who the *** you think you are. Youâre a freshman and havenât done **** here.â I was never the type to do this, and I was quite embarrassed and ashamed with how I acted in that moment. It made me aware of how the environment you are in can impact your behavior. Lesson 5 â one bad apple can ruin a whole bunch. When one person acts up, it can carry over into the rest of the team. One person slams a helmet, everyone thinks thatâs acceptable. One person cries on the field, everyone thinks thatâs acceptable. Itâs important as coaches that you set the expectation up front that there is absolutely no room for bad attitudes or behavior, as the actions of 1 almost always carries over into the rest of the team.
I wanted to share all these lessons I learned with you for a couple of reasons that I think are very valuable not only during the college recruiting process, but also where you decide to send your kids for travel ball:
1 â a good coach can make you fall in love with the game, but a bad coach can make you fall out of love with the game. I was obsessed with baseball in high school playing for Coach Lowery. Every single day I was doing something baseball related and truly loved the process/grind of offseason training, hitting, lifting, playing wall ball, and more. He brought that out of me and drove me to be the best version of myself. That changed in the span of 1 single year playing for a coach that I despised. I dreaded going to practice, felt nervous even taking infield at practice like I was going to get yelled at or berated for making an error. I couldnât play freely because the voice in the back of my head kept saying âdonât mess upâ, which was driven by how I was talked to as a human being by my coach. It was so bad that I didnât even watch a baseball game for 3 years after I left the team. This 1 year difference can happen to anyone at any age. The importance of good coaches for growing the love of the game for kids cannot be overstated.
2 â do your research and go where youâre wanted. Had I taken the time to do my research and surveyed current and past players and families â I likely wouldnât have gone to Shepherd. It is completely appropriate to do this, as every year you play somewhere is possibly a year of progress or a year of regression. Get the full details of the environment, culture, chemistry, and how the coach talks to the kids. How are their practices? Is it an open competition for playing time or is it always the same kids playing the same spots every single game? Do they actually instruct and are they open to questions? Ask them questions about the role they envision your child will have on the team. So many coaches and organizations will just blow smoke to get you in the door, and stop with the effort there. You need to go where youâre truly wanted, where you will thrive, where you will get opportunity, and where you get rewarded for doing the right things.
Lastly â behavior matters. Crying on the field and in the dugout after mistakes, walking on the field, throwing helmets and bats, yelling at each other, sitting with your arms crossed moping on the bench after a mistake brings the whole entire team down. I went from a team at JHS where this never happened, to a team where this always happened and I cannot begin to explain how that made me feel as a player. The mental headspace you are in as a player surrounded by positivity makes you perform at such a higher level compared to a toxic environment. This is why we enacted a â10 second ruleâ on our team to have 10 seconds after the play to be upset, be mad at yourself but after that your time is up and itâs time to move onto the next play. Thereâs no room for lingering awkward tension from mistakes that are inevitably going to happen in a game played by humans.
I wanted to share my experience with everyone. The good and the bad have both shaped me into the coach I am today, and I think we do a good job living by the principles that I learned from Coach Lowery and avoiding the actions by the coach that effectively made me fall out of love with the game. I hope this is helpful for everyone when it comes to deciding where to take your kids now and in the future, and hope this is helpful for the coaches reading this to hopefully give you a different perspective into the importance you play in driving love for the game. Thanks and have a great day!
- Coach Bryan
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