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The Confidence Question

Everybody wants confidence...

Almost nobody agrees on where it comes from...

I've seen athletes with elite talent who fold under pressure, and athletes with average talent who never blink...

So where does REAL Confidence come from?

I'm talking like the kind that shows up when it's hardest?

This is what I teach my athletes:

Confidence is a Skill that YOU can and should Build...

It has Three Parts and Three Places...

1. Confidence is Built through PREPARATION. (Your brain is a Goal seeking device and it is constantly looking for EVIDENCE & PROOF.)

2. Confidence is Built and Reinforced by PAST EXPERIENCES (Specifically, past experiences where you've OVERCOME CHALLENGES, which plays into a constant search for Evidence & Proof.)

3. Confidence is Built in Developing the Skill of PRESENT MOMENT THINKING. (It's a known fact that the Brain and your Mind work Best when it negates TWO SPECIFIC TIME PERIODS: The Past & The Future.) It THRIVES When YOU are able to sustain FOCUS through EX*****ON and stay in the present moment. "Be where your feet are" OR "W.I.N." (What's Important Now!!

I call this the THREE P's:

1. PREPARATION
2. PAST EXPERIRNCES
3. PRESENT MOMENT THINKING

IF you are an Aspiring Athlete, get yourself a Mental Performance Coach and remember...

ATHLETES Always do things TWICE:

First, MENTALLY and then PHYSICALLY.

Ask yourself this simple yet powerful two-part question:

How much of your athletic performance is Physical and How much of it is Mental?

Let's say you said 50% Physical and 50% Mental or some other ratio...

Then ask yourself, How many Drills, Routines and Skill Development exercises are you currently doing that make up the Mental Side of Performance?!

IF you are like most athletes...

It's either one of two answers...

1. Not as much as I should...

OR

2. I'm not sure how or what to do to train the Mental Side of my performance.

STOP leaving the most important part of your training to chance!!

Coach Tommy Pavia
Founder, Superior Athletes Academy
Certified Mental Performance Coach
"Master the Mind. Master the Moments."

I AM SO EXCITED TO SHARE BOTH OF THESE NEW BOOKS (on Amazon now - Links in the Comments)...

I know some of you may be thinking...

What's Coach doing?!

Sell-Sell-Sell...

But I have to tell you this is truly my heart...

To Help Performers and Athletes at the HIGHEST LEVELS...

My books are more than just reading material...

They are TOOLS...

TOOLS to Help, Equip, and Solve the Challenges that can sometimes be the MOST FRUSTRATING...

For Parents (Yay Parents, you deserve the BEST too!!)...

For Athletes (who are doing everything but need the mental piece to bring it all together when it counts the most)...

For Coaches (who are tired of seeing their teams and athletes fall short when they are working so hard)...

For Athletic Directors (who would love nothing more than to see their coaches and parents be on the same page and create successful cultures within their communities)...

So, please pass this by if it's not something you can believe will help...

But please know this...

There are 30-plus years of work, sweat, sacrifice, winning, losing, learning, and growing that has gone into my work...

My goal is that it benefits and blesses you, PERIOD.
Please share with those; it can help...

Email me at [email protected] after any purchase of my books: (I will send you a FREE GIFT)

1. THE LAST REP (A Mental Performance Training System you can implement tomorrow)

2. THE PARENT'S PLAYBOOK (Raising Mentally Tough Athletes)

3. JOURNAL FOR SUCCESS 2.0 ELITE MALE ATHLETE EDITION (8.5" x 11" with 195 pages of a Daily Mental Performance System that is both JOURNAL & SYSTEM)

4. JOURNAL FOR SUCCESS 2.0 ELITE FEMALE ATHLETE EDITION (8.5" x 11" with 195 pages of a Daily Mental Performance System that is both JOURNAL & SYSTEM)

TAKE A LOOK TODAY

JOURNAL FOR SUCCESS 2.0 (Elite Athlete Edition) (Male & Female Editions)

A 12-Week Mental Performance Training System for Athletes...

What if the difference between where you are and where you want to be isn't talent... but your daily habits?

The truth is that most athletes spend countless hours training their bodies but very little time training their minds. Yet confidence, focus, discipline, resilience, emotional control, and consistency are often the qualities that determine success when the pressure is highest...

Journal for Success 2.0 (Elite Athlete Edition) is more than a journal—it's a complete 12-week mental performance training system designed to help athletes develop the habits, mindset, and routines necessary to perform at their highest level in sports and in life...

Built around the powerful JFS Elite Growth Cycle, athletes learn how to:

PLAN with Purpose
EXECUTE with Discipline
REFLECT with Honesty
GROW with Intention

Through a structured system of weekly planning, daily ex*****on, performance reflection, and personal growth, athletes will learn how to take ownership of their development and build the mental skills that separate good athletes from great ones...

Inside You'll Discover:

A Complete 12-Week Performance System

Weekly Planning Pages to establish goals, priorities, and Most Important Daily Tasks (MIDTs)

Daily Mental Performance Journaling Pages

Confidence, Focus, Discipline, and Energy Tracking

Daily Reflection Prompts to Accelerate Growth

Performance Accountability Tools

Recovery, Sleep, Hydration, and Nutrition Tracking

Weekly Performance Review Pages

A Powerful 12-Week Graduation Reflection

Proven Mental Performance Strategies used by elite performers
Whether you're a middle school athlete, high school competitor, collegiate athlete, or dedicated performer striving to reach your potential, this journal will help you develop the consistency and mental toughness necessary to thrive under pressure...

Because success is not built in a single game...

Success is built through small daily actions repeated consistently over time...

If you're ready to build confidence, strengthen discipline, improve focus, and unlock your full potential, Journal for Success 2.0 (Elite Athlete Edition) will become your daily roadmap for growth...

The JFS Elite Growth Cycle
PLAN. EXECUTE. REFLECT. GROW.

"Master the Mind. Master the Moments."

— Coach Tommy Pavia
Certified Mental Performance Coach
Founder, Superior Athletes Academy

Journal For Success™ 2.0
A 12-Week Mental Performance Training System for Athletes
(Male Edition. Female Edition. One System.)

For every Parent of an Athlete. Every Athlete and Every Coach.
I didn't build another journal...

Everybody's got a journal…

A pretty cover, a few motivational quotes, some blank lines, and a "good luck…"

You fill it out for three days, it goes in a drawer, and nothing changes…

I knew there had to be a better way!!

I went on a mission that lasted exactly 18 months…

A deep dive into the science of mental performance training…
And halfway through I discovered that there was no denying what the research said (and continues to say)...

Intentional purpose-driven consistent JOURNALING was indeed a difference maker…

A defined variable hidden in the science of performance outcomes and championship results…

So I scoured everywhere you could find a Journal related specifically to INCREASING PERFORMANCE…

And although I must admit there are some Great Journals out there, they are all predicated on the Internal Drive and Self-Discipline of each individual who has ever used a Journal…

Like most aspiring performers, using a Journal typically came at the advice of a Parent, Coach, and/or another Athlete…

And Yes, that helped with initiating the beginning behavior of Journaling…

But here's where it gets real interesting…

Over 77% of performers reported putting the Journal down and NOT continuing after just two weeks because of THREE FACTORS:

1. They were bored with the repetitive actions of writing down just “their feelings.”

2. They couldn’t see any “measureable change” in their performance as it related to their respective sport.

3. They didn’t feel like they were seeing any progress with the Mental Side of performance or their Mindset. (which was expressed as the following: no increase in confidence, focus, mental skills, or understanding how to navigate their training after mistakes were made during competition.)

So I got to work and created what may be the first of its kind…

A Journal for Success, where every page builds upon the page before it and takes aspiring athletes through a momentum building, phase-by-phase mental performance training system—because Week One should never look like Week Twelve, and in this journal, it never does.

I didn't just fix the boredom problem. I engineered it out.

Problem #1: Bored writing down "just their feelings." Gone.

Every page in this journal has a job to do. You're not staring at a blank line hoping something profound comes out—you're running The Elite Growth Cycle™.

You're working your WELL•BETTER•HOW™. You're building your Daily Game Plan, your Mental Edge Focus, your Visualization. And it changes every week—Phase 1 lays the foundation, and by the time your athlete hits Phase 3, they're living inside Elite Mastery & Legacy™. It's not repetition. It's progression.

Problem #2: No measureable change. Fixed. Effort. Focus. Discipline. Attitude. Scored—every single day, 1 to 10.

A Championship Standard score, out of 25, every single week. For 12 straight weeks. Your athlete isn't guessing if the work is paying off anymore. Neither are you. The numbers don't lie, and now, neither does the process.

Problem #3: No progress on the mental side. Solved. This journal was built by a Certified Mental Performance Coach with 30 years in the trenches and over 500 athletes coached—not a therapist guessing what athletes need, but a coach who's watched it work in real rooms, on real mats, in real fields, and on real courts.

The 10 Keys to Elite Performance™ target confidence, focus, resilience, and how your athlete responds the moment something goes wrong in competition—because that's the moment that separates good from elite. Every page is built to strengthen the mind the same way film study and reps strengthen the body.

This is Journal For Success™ 2.0.

Not a notebook. A system.

Not motivation. A method.

Built for the athlete who's tired of being talented and inconsistent.

Built for the parent who knows their kid's mind is the real ceiling—not their talent.

Built for the coach who's sick of teaching skill and watching it fall apart under pressure.

Boys. Girls. Every sport. Male Edition and Female Edition—same standard, same system, because mental toughness doesn't have a gender.

12 Weeks. One System. Master the Mind. Master the Moments.™

This is coming…

Get ready to put it in your hands.

Comment "SUCCESS" to get on the waitlist and get a SPECIAL FREE BONUS!!

— Coach Tommy Pavia, Certified Mental Performance Coach
Founder, Superior Athletes Academy™

If you work with athletes as a parent, a coach, or an athletic director…

You already know talent isn’t the biggest variable that decides outcomes…

Mental performance is…

The Mind of an ATHLETE is POWERFUL..

Think about it…

Any given Athlete (or team of athletes) can DO ALL The RIGHT THINGS PHYSICALLY…

And YET…

The MIND can come in (uninvited because it’s untrained) and with just ONE THOUGHT Crash the Party of High Performance…

And like the First Domino set in motion, cause a cascading effect that makes PHYSICAL PREPARATION look like it doesn’t even matter…

This is the reason I wrote THE LAST REP (A Simple yet Powerful Mental Performance Training System YOU can implement TODAY!!)

THE LAST REP gives you a simple, repeatable Mental Performance Training System built on two components:

1. The Three Controllables™ — Attitude (Attitude towards the Process and Attitude towards Adversity), Work Ethic (Not just a good effort but a Standard and the consistent effort to meet that standard every day), Mindset (how you see and talk to yourself). The only three things an athlete owns, regardless of scoreboard, matchup, or bad call…

2. R.E.S.E.T.™ — a 5-second, 5-step process (Recognize, Empty it, Set intention, Execute, Trust) that gives athletes a real-time tool to reset after a mistake instead of spiraling from it…

I built this from 30+ years on the mat and the course, coaching 500+ athletes as a Certified Mental Performance Coach. It’s simple enough to teach a 10-year-old and effective enough to change how a program competes big time…

If you’re a coach or AD looking for something your staff and athletes can actually implement — not just talk about — this is it!!

📖 Available on Amazon (Link in the comments—stop waiting!!)

After 30 years of coaching (and still in the trenches today) I’ve noticed something that every experienced coach eventually sees:..

The athletes who perform best under pressure…

They aren’t always the most talented…

They’re the ones with the most trained adversity response…

Not hoped for, but Trained…

Here’s what I mean:

Most athletic development systems invest heavily in preparing athletes for success… (makes sense)

For the moments when everything is clicking, the conditioning is there, and the skills are sharp…

Almost none of them DELIBERATELY & INTENTIONALLY Train for an Athletes (or team’s) failure.

For the critical error in a high-stakes moment…

For the scoreboard that’s working against them…

For the setback that feels — from inside it — like it might be permanent…

That gap is where competitive careers are made or quietly given up…

Not Willfully…

But because there was one factor that wasn’t planned for, and that is…

FAILURE, MULTIPLE MISTAKES, or…

That “A” Word that some coaches, athletes, and teams HOPE NEVER HITS…

“ADVERSITY…”

The framework I teach athletes and coaching staffs that is built around four steps:

Recognize — name what is actually happening, clearly and honestly, without inflation or minimization…

Reframe — ask the one question that moves attention forward: “What is this preparing me for?”

Respond — make one specific, controllable decision that reflects competitive identity, not reaction…

Reset — use R.E.S.E.T.™ to physically and psychologically close the gap between the adversity and the NEXT ACTION…

This is not a motivational framework…

It’s a performance protocol…

And it produces a measurable difference in how athletes handle the hardest competitive moments…

The athletes who have it compete differently when things fall apart…

They don’t perform resilience…

They have RESILIENCE!!

It’s Trained!!

If you’re a parent of an athlete, coach or athletic director looking to add a systematic mental performance component to your program — one that actually prepares athletes for adversity rather than hoping they handle it — let’s connect.

Coach Tommy Pavia
Founder, Superior Athletes Academy
“Master the Mind. Master the Moments.”

SEARCH “Coach Tommy Pavia book” on Amazon for a complete mental performance training system that you can implement TODAY!!

Or DM me to find out about how to work with me one-on-one and ACCELERATE your Success!!

I wrote a book called The Last Rep because of a moment that changed everything for me as a coach…

It wasn’t a championship…

It wasn’t a highlight…

It was watching a kid put in extra work — alone — when no one was watching…

That’s where CHAMPIONS are actually built…

If you have an athlete in your home, that book was written for them…

📖 Available on Amazon → https://lnkd.in/ekz53e97

— Coach Tommy Pavia | Certified Mental Performance Coach

DM me “PLAN” for a personalized Mental Performance Plan and within 48 hours…

Your athlete will be well on there way to making leaps like never before!!

Here is what others are saying after working with me:

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Working with Coach Tommy Pavia completely changed how I approach wrestling mentally. He helped me transform my mindset to an atack mindset and this has poured beyond wrestling and into my daily life on how I approach everything.

HS Wrestler - North Carolina

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His strategies help our daughter in high stress situations and she is thriving at dealing with pressure at the plate and on the mound!

- Parents of Travel Softball 🥎 Player, Delaware

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The mental training he has done has paid off big time early on. We’ve seen a huge difference not only in her performances, but also in how she carries herself before and after competition.

Parent of AAU Track & Field Runner
North Carolina

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Wow...where do I start?, you cover so much!!! I will always remember how powerful and unstoppable I felt. You introduced me to many skills that I still use today.

—Wrestler, Laurel, Delaware

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Coach Pavia has helped our son immensely to overcome performance anxiety and mental blocks to perform beyond expectations in multiple sports.

—Dr. Anita D. (Parent of Tennis player and XC Runner and Doctor of Oncology), North Carolina

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Let me say something that most people in this sport already know but nobody talks about enough…

Wrestling is the hardest sport on the planet…

Not just because of the conditioning…

Not because of cutting weight…

Not because you’re out there one-on-one with nobody to blame and nowhere to hide…

It’s hard because of what it does to your mind…

And most wrestlers — no matter how tough they are physically, were never taught what to do with that…

I’ve been in this sport for over 30 years…

I Coached hundreds of wrestlers…

I watched kids with every physical tool you could imagine step on that mat and completely freeze…

Not because they weren’t ready…

But because nobody ever trained the part of them that lives between their ears…

And here’s what I want the parents in this group to hear:

That moment after a tough loss, in the car, on the way home — that’s the one where most of the important moments in your kid’s wrestling career get developed or destroyed…

What you say, or don’t say, shapes how they show up next time they step on that mat…

Most parents want to help. They just never got a playbook…

And coaches — I see you too…

Heck, I’m one of them…

You’re pouring everything into these kids…

Drilling technique, building conditioning, watching film…

But if your wrestler’s mind breaks down in the third period when it’s tied up and everything’s on the line, all of that work is at risk…

Mental performance isn’t soft…

It’s not extra. In wrestling, it’s the whole game…

Just ask any Parent, Coach, or Athlete…

That’s exactly why I wrote The Last Rep and The Parent’s Playbook…📕 📖

For the wrestler who knows they’re better than they’re showing…

For the parent who loves their kid and wants to support them the right way…

For the coach who is ready to add the one piece most programs completely skip…

Not because they don’t think it’s important but because they barely have enough time to do what there currently doing…

I’ve built a 5-second mental reset tool that wrestlers can use right in the middle of a match. On their feet. In a scramble. After giving up a takedown with 30 seconds left…

That’s not motivation. That’s a trained skill…

And it can be learned!!

If any of this hits home — drop PLAYBOOK in the comments or send me a message directly. I’ll get you taken care of.

This sport has given me so much…

I’m just giving it back…

I totally believe in you—100%.

— Coach Tommy Pavia
Certified Mental Performance Coach | Superior Athletes Academy™
Master the Mind. Master the Moments.™

The Athlete who can control their Attitude (and TWO OTHER THINGS) when things go wrong or sideways, is Unstoppable…

That’s not talent…

That’s training…

I teach it…

Here are THREE ways I can help you right now 👇

📖 1. Grab THE LAST REP on Amazon — your DIY blueprint to mental performance training that actually works. (Link in comments)

📩 2. DM me “PLAN” — I’ll show you how to get a fully customized training plan for less than the cost of one coaching session.

⚡ 3. DM me “ACCELERATE” — and I’ll show you what it looks like to not only make progress, but take massive leaps in performance, regardless of your sport.

— Coach Tommy Pavia
Founder, Superior Athletes Academy™
Master the Mind. Master the Moments.™

I'd love to share something real with the people here that I care about and consider friends and family—especially those who've been with me as a coach, a teacher, and now a Certified Mental Performance Coach.

Over the past few years (and honestly, the past couple decades), I've seen the same gap over and over again in teens' sports:
We train the body. but we don't usually train the mind.

As a coach for over 30 years, I’ve seen incredibly talented athletes lose their spark because of pressure, doubt, or lack of confidence. I’ve also seen amazing parents who want to help but don’t know how and end up feeling stuck watching their kids struggle mentally and emotionally. Whether it was pressure filled moments, or just not performing in alignment with how they prepared. I have seen it all.

That’s why I’ve been building something behind the scenes —
useful, down-to-earth tools that parents, athletes, and coaches actually can apply to develop discipline, focus, mental toughness, confidence, resilience and consistency — the kind that persists long after a match, game or season is over.

These are not mass-market products. These are tools constructed based on actual experience… from time spent in locker rooms, from tough post-loss talks, from my own experience as a competitor and as a parent as well.

And I just wanted to say this simply:
I'm not imposing anything on anyone.
I've simply seen the need and built what I wish more of us had along the way.

If you're a parent of an athlete, an athlete, a coach, an athletic director or know someone raising a young competitor — I'd be grateful if you'd share these tools.

Grateful to all of you who've already been doing that.
I'm just getting started and look forward to positively impacting as many Parents of Athletes, Athletes, and Coaches as possible.

Let's keep inspiring our young champions to become strong from the inside out.

– Coach Tommy Pavia
Master the Mind. Master the Moments.

Whether you are Locked-in to watching the FIFA World Cup ⚽️ or you are sitting on bleachers somewhere in the USA 🇺🇸 enjoying 11-12 year old Travel Softball 🥎 players get after it, YOU can be assured of one thing…

YES, the Levels of play are incredibly different…

But one thing both athletes share…

They will ALWAYS do things…

TWICE…

First, MENTALLY and…

Second, PHYSICALLY…

So my question to EVERY Parent, Athlete, Coach, and Athletic Director…

HOW are YOU being EQUIPPED…

To do the SECOND PART (The MENTAL Side of Performance) each and every day?!

IF YOU CANNOT Answer in a way that describes the following (below)…

Describe What DRILLS, ROUTINES, and SKILL DEVELOPMENT EXERCISES YOU or Your Team(s) are doing to make up for the MENTAL SIDE OF PERFORMANCE without sweating…

Then YOU are Leaving your BEST MOMENTS to chance and just fulfilling ONE HALF of the Equation (The Physical)…

How much of ATHLETIC PERFORMANCE is Physical & How much of it is Mental?!

The ANSWER I get from 10-year-olds to 22-plus-year-olds are exactly the same…

But when I follow up with the SECOND QUESTION…

How much of THE MENTAL are you currently doing in the way of Drills, Routines, and Skill Development…

CRICKETS…!!

This is WHY I wrote the book
THE LAST REP (A DIY Mental Performance Training Program”)
(Book Links in comments below 👇)

AND…

WHY I work privately one-on-one with Athletes across all sports ACCELERATING their SUCCESS by giving them exactly what they need to become the best…

And making sure their Game-plan is complete with not just the physical side of training but THE MENTAL SIDE as well…

DM me if you want to learn more; I only work with a small number of athletes…

PLUS, to my Coaches and Athletic Directors…

Be on the Lookout 👀 for the first of its kind…

A Plug-n-Play Mental Performance Training System that EQUIPS…

ATHLETIC DIRECTORS
PARENTS OF ATHLETES
COACHES (And their Teams)
AND SCHOOL COMMUNITIES

A Plug-n-Play Mental Performance Training System…

That can be implemented in a day and will never ADD MORE time or work into a Coaches Practice Plan…

NO I’m not joking and I can prove it…

But works ALONGSIDE a Coaches Structured Practice Plan and…

Yet, when implemented correctly, it will simultaneously create a team full of athletes, coaches, parents, and community stakeholders who are in alignment making for increased levels of mental toughness, resilience, cooperation, buy-in, and a powerfully shared vision for all…

There’s much more coming so stay tuned…

I’m excited to Launch 🚀 this soon…

because when you learn to “Master the Mind, you Master the Moments!!”

Blessings…

Coach Tommy Pavia
Founder, Superior Athletes Academy