10/01/2026
What if the thing you call “ambition” is actually an old survival pattern with a really good résumé?
Dr. Mel Krug told me something on the podcast that I have been thinking about ever since.
Every time a patient stopped care or someone left her business, she would get ANGRY.
At them. At herself. At her team.
Which didn’t make sense. She was a successful business owner. She knew people leave. She understood all of this intellectually.
So why was her body reacting like something terrible had happened?
Eventually, she traced that reaction all the way back to being a little girl in her childhood home. Her parents were fighting upstairs, her dad left, and she was terrified he wasn’t coming back.
Years later, someone leaving her business could still trigger the same message:
Someone left. I’m unsafe.
Oooof.
It made me wonder how many things we’ve learned to call ambition, perfectionism, control, independence, or being “really driven” have a completely different story underneath them.
Mel said something else that got me:
“Pride on the external is often driven by inner shame.”
And THAT is a conversation I’m interested in.
Because you can build a wildly successful life while being driven by something you’ve never actually stopped long enough to examine.
Dr. Mel Krug and I went there in this episode of EPIPHANIES: the weird intersection of trauma and entrepreneurship, what our nervous systems bring into our businesses, rejection, obsessive goal setting, faith, surrender, and the question that may matter more than the next goal:
Who are you becoming while you build it?
Episode 11 is out now. If any part of this made you go, “Oh crap, I do that,” I think you’ll love this conversation.