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𝐈𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐡

We live in a world where our kids seek constant approval and validation, so teaching our kids to look for self validation instead is sooooo IMPORTANT.

But how do we do that as parents?

💕When your kids come to you looking for approval, from time to time you can respond with a question🙋‍♀️ that makes them look in.
For example, when your daughter asks you, Do I look pretty?
A quick response as a mom is: Of course you look pretty, you are pretty…🤓.but answering with something like, 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐲? 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮? It makes them look inside instead and it opens a door for reflection and self approval.😍😍😍

By doing that, this is the message that they are receiving:
𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐢𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬❣️❣️❣️.

You can practice doing the same when they show you a drawing, a good grade, a reward.
Questions like: 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐝 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝? 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐢𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐮𝐩 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐝𝐫𝐚𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠?

When we see them as the person instead of the thing or action we see the worth inside them and it helps them notice their own value. 🤩🤩🤩

𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐫𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧.

Why are emotions so hard to understand when we live with so many of them daily?

There are a lot of anxious family members in my family, including me. Through out the last 4 years I have been learning a lot about it and also I have been practicing different tools to calm my anxiety down and also to teach my own kids and my coachees about them, too.

I have been working with a 10
Year old girl who has been having dealing with anxiety and fear based on automatic negative thoughts. 🐜🐜🐜

We used a situation that usually makes her feel anxious 😥 and she was able to draw and describe her thoughts and emotions when she is in that situation.

After that, she drew and described her ideal situation😁, how she wants to feel in that same situation. Her drawing showed someone calm, 😌confident and as she described with less ANTs 🐜 🐜

When I asked her about how could she get from scenario A ( current) to scenario B ( ideal), 🔛she started to brainstorm ideas, and believe it or not her ideas where all related with self regulation!!!🤯🤯🤯

When we talked about it she noticed that the situation didn’t change, but her response to it did.

Some of the ideas she brainstormed were:
Finger Breathing 😮‍💨
Change ANTs for more comfortable thoughts
Meditation 🧘‍♂️

That’s when I realized that sometimes we don’t give our kids enough credit and think we need to help them fix things, but when we ask the right questions they are able to find their own answers.

This beautiful and inspiring girl is learning how to self regulate at such a young age and becoming so aware of her emotions that is helping her understand her own inside world.

I am taking some coaching sessions with George Naugle to gain more clarity in my coaching business. This is my company's vision, mission and values.

All U need is U Kids Life Studio is a heart centered organization that genuinely focuses on providing tools and knowledge to every child, to help them be emotionally and mentally healthy, by developing connections and caring relationships. Our coaching programs have a positive impact in our community and beyond.

And this is the world I envision once my vision is achieved:

Kids and teens will flourish, they will be more confident, comfortable with themselves, develop more self control, self love and self respect, which will lead to better connections and relationships, which will lead to more connected families. Caring, kind, genuine, compassionate people will interact with each other, creating peaceful loving, compassionate communities, cities, countries and eventually we will live in a kind and caring world with lots of hope, respect and compassion between each other. This new way of living will start with my company and replicate with every human interaction.
And that’s my burning desire, what motivates me every single day.

I reached out for help to deal with the anxiety the shooting had created in me, I was trying to minimize it because I wasn’t there. My rational mind was trying to convince me that I was overreacting but my stress response was letting fear take control. Helping each other and recognizing that we need help is an act of love for you and for your family!

I have been trying to wrap my head around the horrible situation at the Allen Outlets on Saturday. How broken can someone be to act in such a heartless manner?
I felt a range of emotions at the same time and it was very hard to process all of them. During a session with a 13 year old yesterday I realized how much this is affecting kids, too. She was having a range of emotions as well but together we were able to process them.

What we need as a society is not only related with guns or no guns, but we also need an education system that focuses on Mental Health and Emotional Health. The access to mental health shouldn’t be limited to those who can afford it, but to everyone.

My heart goes to those who are directly impacted by this tragedy.

Compassion is a character skill that can be developed by improving your emotional intelligence. Practicing compassion gives you a purpose and a it is very rewarding, it can also improve your relationships.

Do you want your kids to develop this and other important life skills?
Contact me for a free consultation.

Are you looking for a more meaningful and life changing Summer Camp for your kids?
I joined forces with Gina at Spanish Tea Time and we will run a bilingual Summer Camp that will give your child tips to develop their EQ!
They will learn what emotions are and how they show up in their bodies, they will learn about self love and the importance of developing a friendly relationship with themselves.

It will be a very personalized camp, we will have small groups to have a more meaningful connection and approach with them.

To enroll please visit:
https://www.spanishteatime.com/

B's mom reached out because, she wanted to give B, the necessary tools his 12 year old son needed at the moment. He was having a hard time with friends, setting healthy boundaries, standing up for himself, speaking up without being afraid of rejection and low self confidence.
He was very hesitant at the beginning, stating that he didn't need any type of help and after every session he always ended up with a HUGE take away. He was using the tools and implementing his new knowledge, his self conversation changed and he was able to recognize and understands his friendship expectations.
This boy made huge improvements slowly, he created awareness about his ANTs, learned how to lower the volume down when his critical voice was too loud, learned how to ride his emotions and be in control of his reactions and most of all, he learned how to love and accept himself.

Do you want this for your child? Schedule a free family consultation

Carry Kindness wherever you go. How amazing would it be if everyone could carry kindness at all times? We can't change the world but you can start with your inner circle and share kindness.

Curiosity is the antidote to boredom. Studies show that as kids grow up their natural curiosity decreases. So, what can we do to foster creativity in our youth today?

Look around you. Most everything you see and or use daily was created by someone’s curiosity!

o Henry Ford wondered what it would be like to be able to travel longer distances faster, so he invented the motor vehicle (car).
o Thomas Edison wondered what it would be like to be able to see well in the dark without the use of candles, so he invented the light bulb.
o Alexander Graham Bell wondered what it would be like to be able to talk to someone living far away, rather than waiting on the mail. He invented the telephone.

Lets be curious!!