a better monday

It’s Sunday afternoon. If you’re already feeling that low-grade dread creeping in, this is for you.
We just launched a quiz that tells you your Sunday Scaries archetype what’s actually behind it, and what to do about it.

Comment QUIZ below and I’ll send you the link directly. And once you get your result, drop your archetype in the comments. We’re so curious which show up most in this community. 👇

Clap backs for when a colleague can’t stay in their lane.

If you’ve got someone stepping into your work and offering input on things they don’t own… this is for you.

1️⃣ Clarify ownership out loud.
“”Just to align - I’m leading this, correct? I’ll reach out if I need input.””

2️⃣ Redirect without escalating.
“”Let’s loop in [manager] so we’re all on the same page.””
or “”What’s the outcome you’re hoping for here?””

3️⃣ Reclaim authority and keep it moving.
“”I appreciate the feedback. I’ve thought it through and I’m moving forward with this plan.””

4️⃣ Document everything.
Ownership. Roles. Decisions. Next steps. Not to be petty, but to be protected. If it keeps happening, you’ll have the receipts.

You’re not escalating. You’re creating clarity.

Save this for the next time someone steps into your lane.

Content is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, HR, or mental health advice. Coaching services are not therapy or mental health treatment.

This is so me at work by Friday.

Can we just make Fridays part of the weekend already?! Like who do we need to talk to? Do we start a petition?

4 day work week. Who’s signing? 👇

Dear algorithm, please introduce us to female-identified folks born between 1981 and 1991!

Being a millennial woman at work right now is a very specific experience.

You’ve got the experience and still get questioned. You’re confident and somehow that’s a problem. You’re the most capable person in the room and they reward you with more work instead of a promotion.

The patriarchy didn’t skip the workplace. It just learned to use softer language.

And a lot of you are navigating things you shouldn’t have to navigate alone.

We see you. We want to hear from you. We want to support you through it.

If this is you, you’re in the right place. Tell us what you’re dealing with right now 👇

Called “intimidating” at work? Here’s what to say instead of apologizing - Part 2!

Before anything else: know your environment. Not every workplace is safe for the same level of directness. Reading the room - especially for people with marginalized identities - isn’t weakness. It’s survival intelligence.

You always have permission to take these and modify them to what feels safest for you. Protecting yourself is never the wrong call.

Here’s how to back yourself up 👇
→ Build your bench. Find colleagues you trust who will support you and advocate for you when it matters.
→ Document everything. Especially when feedback is vague - your “”presence,”” your “”energy,”” your “”approach.”” A paper trail protects you. This is even more critical for women of color.

You are not “”too much.”” You are competent and confident. Don’t shrink. Don’t apologize.

Save this and send it to a woman who’s been called “”intimidating”” like it’s a problem. Spoiler: it’s not.

Content is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, HR, or mental health advice. Coaching services are not therapy or mental health treatment.

How to go from relied on to invested in at work:

Nobody teaches you this part. You get really good at your job. You become the person people trust. The one who always delivers.

And then it flips. You stop being someone they develop and start being someone they depend on. More work. Less visibility. Fewer opportunities.

You get stuck doing the work that keeps everything running but doesn’t get you noticed.

So you change the game.
→ Start making your work visible
→ Say what you led
→ Share outcomes
→ Talk about impact, not just effort

Owning your work out loud isn’t ego. It’s how you stop being the best-kept secret on the team.

Send this to someone who needs the reminder.

If you’re checking Slack on vacation, you’re not taking a vacation. You’re working from a different location for free.

We’ve been taught that being reachable all the time is how you show you care about your job. So we answer the “”quick question”” from the beach, scan our inbox before dinner, and convince ourselves it only took five minutes. But it’s never just five minutes.

You earned your PTO - in fact, it’s a part of your compensation package.

Set expectations before you go, turn on your OOO, and actually log off. Try leaving your phone behind for an hour.

You don’t have to prove your worth while you’re resting. The time off already counts.

Save this for your next PTO week!

We had to respond to this comment because it was pure gold:

“Am I intimidating or are you intimidated?”

I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve been called intimidating. And every time, the unspoken message was the same: you need to make yourself easier to deal with.

Nobody can make someone else feel intimidated. That feeling belongs to the person having it. Somewhere we decided it was the “”intimidating”” person’s problem to solve, though. Like it’s on you to shrink so other people don’t have to sit with their own discomfort.

That’s backwards.

You’re not too much — most rooms just haven’t caught up yet.

What have you said back when someone hit you with the “you’re intimidating” line? Drop them below 👇

ConfidenceAtWork

We’re not party Le****ns. We’re couch Queer.🌈

“Homo-sectional,” if you will.

If you don’t know this about us — we LOVE a good couch hang. When we’re not working, you’ll find us cuddled up with our three pups, half-watching a show we never finish… because Amanda is already asleep 😴

Low energy. High cozy. Exactly how we like it.

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Some of you see these clapbacks and think “”that would get me fired.””

You’re not being dramatic. You’re reading your room correctly and this is a time to listen to yourself.

Being a Black woman in that room is different from being a white woman in the room. Being q***r or trans changes the math. So does your religion, your accent, where you’re from, how you present, whether your body or brain works the way the room expects. These aren’t excuses. They’re the actual conditions you’re working inside. What’s safe to say — and what gets punished — is not the same for everyone in the same room.

Self-advocacy doesn’t look the same for everyone. The goal isn’t to use the exact words of any script we create. It’s to find the version that works for you, in your environment, with your actual life as the starting point.

That’s what these scripts are for. Take what works. Leave what doesn’t.

Save this or send it to someone who needs the reminder.