I used to have to BEG my husband to help around the house or to do the little intentional things that I wanted to be surprised with every once in a while.
Now, he’s outside in 90 degree heat making me a fire stick for my girls night & watching all the kids so my friends & I could fully relax.
What changed?!
Well babe, you may not love the answer to this one, but it was ME learning to ask for exactly what I wanted, in a way he could actually understand it, while also making it known how it would make me feel.
As soon I dropped the blaming and shaming I used to do just to get any kind of help and started asking from a place of love instead…
Whewwww, my husband started showing up for me in the ways I didn’t even know he was capable of.
Because here’s the thing, at the end of the day, your man WANTS to make you happy. He truly desires to show up for you. He just needs to understand what that looks like & feel what it means to you when he gets it right.
We were just never taught how to communicate in a way each other deeply understands.
And that’s exactly what my husband, Abraham Lamark and I will be teaching at our free 5 day online event this fall!
If you’re tired of begging for help & ready to actually be shown up for, come join us🫶🏻
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Macey LaMark
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Helping women and couples show up more fully for themselves, their partner, and in the bedroom! Hi, I’m Macey! I’m not here to “fix” you.
I help women and couples bridge the gap between who they are and how they love. As an Intimacy Coach, my main goal is supporting you in creating the kind of connection that feels safe, honest, and deeply fulfilling. Not just in your relationships, but within yourself. Whether you're single, dating, in a long term partnership, recently divorced, or somewhere in between, intimacy starts from the ins
08/27/2026
Men & women were designed to come together in sacred union🌹
But nobody taught us how. Nobody explained how he processes, how she receives, or why we keep loving each other in languages the other one can’t quite hear.
Sooo we spend years misreading each other & making each other wrong. Then, we sit & wonder why love feels so hard when we want it this badly.
It was never a marriage problem, babe. It was never a him problem or a you problem.
It was just truly never being taught how to actually meet each other.
But that’s exactly what Abraham Lamark and I are changing at The Devotional Path to Love this fall.
FREE | 5 Day Online Experience
Both sides of the dynamic from two people who have lived it🫶🏻
Come join us. Link in bio!
How to make the masculine ACTUALLY feel seen🖤
08/18/2026
What we had to learn to save our marriage👇🏻
Abraham: She didn’t need me to solve or “fix” all of her problems. I had to give up being the hero unless specifically asked.
Me: I couldn’t keep shutting down & still expect him to be there for me in the way I wanted.
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Abraham: I realized defending the choices I made/make wasn’t helping her see my “side”. It was only making her feel even less seen and heard.
Me: Stopped creating stories in my head of what I thought was happening & got more curious. Not everything means something!
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Abraham: The word “nagging” doesn’t exist inside of our marriage. There will always be a “to do” list and I’m grateful for it. I look at each item as either a test or a celebration.
Me: Started telling him exactly what I wanted instead of expecting him to read my mind AND explaining to him how it would make me feel if he accomplished # # #.
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Abraham: Realized I didn’t always have to do more to be a “better” husband, man, or father, but instead focused on really acknowledging & seeing my wife in everything she does on a daily basis.
Me: Started being vulnerable enough for him to see the real me. Not the version that I thought he wanted, but the version that was softer, messier, & just needed to be held.
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Marriage issues don’t actually exist🫢 I know… triggering! But stay with me, babe.
What we love to refer to as “marriage problems” are really just one of two things:
→ A reflection of the wounds within ourselves that we haven’t healed yet aka all the patterns, stories, & trauma we carried in longgg before we ever met our partner.
→ The masculine & feminine not knowing the difference in how each other operate.
Men & women biologically don’t think, feel, hear, or even process things the same way. We literally live at odds with each other until we are taught differently.
It’s never you vs your partner.
It’s you vs you, love.
The sooner we stop focusing on the “marriage problem” and start getting curious about what’s actually underneath it, the sooner everything changes🤍
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