08/11/2026
This morning I wrote a letter in support of one of my postpartum athletes deferring the Berlin Marathon so she could give her body more time to recover from birth.
Could she have run it? Yes.
Would it have been the race she wanted to run? No.
And ultimately, that’s why she decided to take a pass.
As she increased her training, her effort wasn’t matching the pace and performance she expected. And while this isn’t true for every postpartum athlete, I see some version of this often.
As postpartum athletes we ask our bodies to to a lot: recover from birth, replete nutrient stores depleted during pregnancy, meet the energy needs of lactation, navigate broken sleep, rebuild strength and fitness, and then…run a marathon. It’s a pretty extraordinary physiological task.
This isn’t a professional athlete whose life revolves around performance. She’s like so many of us: competitive, working, caregiving, and navigating an entirely new life as a mother.
Could she have pushed through? Probably. But “I can” and “this is the experience I want” are two very different things.
Part of supporting my people means asking questions like: “What do you want your return to look like?” “What does your body need right now?” Or “What kind of racing experience do you want”? And sometimes these answers lead to someone choosing to have more time. They choose. It is ultimately their CHOICE.
We are finally starting to have options when it comes to pregnancy and postpartum race deferrals. We don’t have to race simply because we registered before we knew what this season of motherhood would look like. And I for one am grateful for this option. Just because we can, doesn’t mean we need to. And we should not (there it is) feel like we have no choice.
If you’ve returned too soon, waited, wished you had waited, or didn’t know waiting was an option, I’d love to hear your story.
And if you ever need an advocate (or a gentle reminder), I’ve got you.
Here for you always,
Xx Mama Mel
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