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How to change unhealthy defense mechanisms

For the most part, defense mechanisms can be toxic to our social skills, as well as relationships with people.

For this reason, it is a good idea to target those defense mechanisms and change them.

Here are a couple of ways you can do that:

1. Mercy

Stop guilt-tripping yourself and realize that you are not always aware of how your mind and ego will react.

Reactions and defense mechanisms are automatic and as such, we only experience them, rather than do them.

2. Awareness

Each manifestation of a defense mechanism is a chance for you to notice the unhealthy behavior pattern.

Once you're aware of it, you have the opportunity to make a conscious decision, cut it halfway through, and change it for the better.

3. Accountability

Talking to friends and family can be one of the best ways to get an objective, third-person perspective on your behaviors and mechanisms.

This in turn will help you become more aware of them and make change easily inducable.

4. Coping strategies

Mindfulness and meditation are two very potent tools for shifting defense mechanisms. The premise is the same - Become aware of your mechanisms and limiting thoughts and take a conscious decision to change them.

What is your way of coping? Share down below!

Change the mind. We change the world!

Always be great!

Your everything coach,
Joe Delgado

What is YOUR defense mechanism?

All of us, at one point in our lives, have developed certain defense mechanisms.

Here are the 5 most common ones:

1. Denial

A common defense mechanism is a denial to accept reality or facts that contradict what you want/need.

2. Projection

This second common defense mechanism involves a projection/attribution of one's own unacceptable thoughts/emotions to another person.

3. Regression

The third defense mechanism, regression, involves a sudden change that makes you act as you did when you did not really have those problems.

4. Repression

This is without a doubt one of the most damaging defense mechanisms, as it leaves emotions and feelings unresolved.

Repression is characterized by an attempt to hide thoughts, memories, or certain beliefs.

5. Rationalization

With this last defense mechanism, we tend to use self-reassuring but incorrect explanations for one's own thoughts and feelings.
(i.e I only cheated on a couple of my test questions, I did most of the others on my own!)

Have YOU recognized your own defense mechanisms?

Change the mind. We change the world!

Always be great!

Your everything coach,
Joe Delgado

Development goals: Charisma

The ability to attract people and charm them, can in fact help you make those people be devoted and interested in you and your ventures.

Here are 6 crucial steps to developing lion-like charisma:

1. Goals & influence

Who's that one person that inspires you to do what you do?

Recognize your idol and learn from them!

2. Don't talk too much

Know your abilities but don't talk about yourself too much.

Remember, actions speak louder than words.

3. Understand emotions

Emotional & social intelligence are the two fundaments you should master.

Learn to understand your own emotions and those of others.

4. Listen more

Many people don't listen enough and instead, try to instill their opinion on others.

Try and listen in order to understand others' thought patterns and emotions.

5. Dress up well
Not feeling good in your own skin?

Dress up well!

Good-looking clothes are the best way to improve self-confidence and other people's perception of you.

6. Improve your vocabulary

Enrichening your vocabulary and teaching other people new words and terms will, without a doubt make you look different in their eyes.

Learn more and constantly educate yourself.

What do you find charismatic?

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Change the mind. We change the world!

Always be great!

Your everything coach,
Joe Delgado

Burnout happens to most of us, and it doesn't have to be the case!

Read this blog and be on the lookout for part 2!
Read the article here!
https://indestructibleme.com/blogs/news/burnout-part-1-what-it-is-and-how-it-happens

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Development goals: Network

Networking is a big part of personal development.

The right network can open up opportunities you have never even thought possible.

Here are our 6 best tips to improving your networking:

1. Who do you like to meet?

What is the type of person that would bring something positive for your venture?

Envision your perfect networking buddy.

2. Begin with who you know

Often times, we have friends and relatives who can be of great help for us.

Recognize those people, they are just one message away but can be crucial to your goals!

3. Attend

Going to the right places and events can help you meet the right people at the right time. Find events relevant to your visions and goals and attend as many as possible!

4. Ask

Sometimes, a golden opportunity is just one question away. Don't be afraid to discuss things with peers and ask questions.

5. LinkedIn

Looking for the best networking platform for growth-oriented individuals?

LinkedIn is without a doubt the best one out there, get on it and connect!

6. Volunteer

Volunteering, even without getting paid can get you heaps of connections and experiences, especially in bigger companies!

See where you can fit and what you can learn from that place.

What are YOUR ways of networking?

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Becoming self aware is crucial to your happiness!

Many think it is negative but that couldn’t be further from the truth!

Want to know more? Read this blog post!
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https://indestructibleme.com/blogs/news/becoming-more-self-aware-in-4-steps

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Change the mind. We change the world!

Always be great!

Your everything coach,
Joe Delgado

Development Goals: Time management

Stress management and completing tasks in a timely manner is crucial to sustainable personal development.

Here are the 6 factors that impact this:

1. Organization - Do you have a structured plan of action or is everything chaotic?

2. Prioritization - If it's chaotic, go through your task list and set a priority. One task at a time.

3. Goal-setting - What is the purpose behind your actions? Set a concrete goal and be as specific as possible.

4. Stress management - Are you overworking yourself? Take stress-management breaks to align your thoughts into more coherent patterns.

5. Planning - Do you just know what you have to do, but not when you're going to do it? Set a concrete plan of action for your daily tasks

6. Delegation- Are there any tasks you can entrust to someone else? If yes, do it to save time for yourself.

Following these 6 steps, you will be able to seamlessly manage your time and therefore, your stress levels.

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Did you want the secret on getting the right people attracted to you? Not just for romantic reasons but think about what it can do for your career or friendships!

Read this article just for you!
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https://indestructibleme.com/blogs/news/attracting-the-right-people

You are missing out if you are not following Ndestructibleme.

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You need to become aware of the things you want in life. It may seem obvious to you, but your brain still doesn’t know!

Start writing your goals down today!

Get your success planner here today! It will change your life! 👉🏼 *LINK IN BIO*

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YOU DO NOT WANT TO MISS OUT ON ANYTHING!

Change the mind. We change the world!

Always be great!

Your everything coach,
Joe Delgado

Development Goals For Work

The goals on your way to personal development are objectives you set to improve your character and skills.

1. Direction and roadmap - Where are you headed and what's the best way to get there?

2. Better work ethics - Do you have sufficient work ethics to do what you're set to do? If not, improve it!

3. Focus and productivity - Are you able to focus on the task at hand and be optimally productive?

4. New networks - Do you have old networks of people who are counterproductive to your goals? If yes. limit your time with those and build new, more relevant networks.

5. Feeling of purpose - Is your goal driven by external motivating factors like money or do you actually feel like there is a purpose behind what you are doing?

6. Time management - Are you able to properly manage your time and effort, while setting a concrete list of priority?

These are the 6 checkpoints and questions you can ask yourself to improve your process, both internally and externally.

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Lack of motivation

The lack of external or internal motivation is one of the most common causes for us humans, to choose not to do something.

Nevertheless, there are ways around that. Here are our 6 best tips:

1. Set realistic goals

Whether we're talking about wealth, fitness or any other goal, you have to make sure to set a realistic goals, as unfulfilled, highly expected goals can lead to a loss of motivation.

2. Adjust your level of "good enough"

What is good enough for you, really?

Do you often happen to call something good enough only to realize it is not even 10% of what you can do? Or is your 'good enough' too much and robbing you of energy that then leads to a loss of motivation?

Analyze and change!

3. Positive self-talk

Try not to look for external motivation factors and instead, focus on you and your achievements.

This is sustainable motivation!

4. Milestones

Whatever the goal is that you are trying to reach, write a to-do list or a plan with milestones.

Find an accountability buddy and make sure to stay on track!

5. Ask for help

Don't be shy or scared to ask people for help, as this is why we're humans!

6. Setup a reward system

Whenever you hit a milestone, make sure to reward yourself, but then again, do not do it just for the rewards!

What are your ways to gather motivation?

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Change the mind. We change the world!

Always be great!

Your everything coach,
Joe Delgado