Tiffany Wilkerson Fitness

If you’re passive, you’ll feel trapped and unhappy in even the freest of environments. But if you take an active approach and challenge your circumstances, you will be free, no matter how confining your situation may actually be. - Daisaku Ikeda

Challenge your space in this moment in time..

Say what needs to be said.

Do what needs to be done.

Help those that need help.

Look within when you want to quit or hide away.

Dissect the inner obstacle that is keeping you from reaching your potential.

Challenge who you are now to become who you desire to be.

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There is no sport or ever will be a sport like The sport of bodybuilding! Never-mind placement; never-mind posing; never-mind the nerves…. Bodybuilding forces you to transform - to truly evolve - physically and mentally - pushing past fears, ego and personal belief limitations.

Sitting at the judges table; I can’t express the joy and pride I have in every athlete - complete strangers - however I know the obstacles they have had to face to get to that stage - the internal battles they have won - the demons they have slayed.
I have to utmost respect for each and every athlete, the promoters & team, fellow judges - all brought together out of love for the sport and the journey each athlete represents. I absolutely love meeting new friends , connecting with old friends and being honored to share the stage experience with each athlete.

The fears, the tears, the joys, the disappointments, the excitements - most importantly - personal evolution that occurs as each person walks from one side of the stage to the other…. You line up stage right as who you were and exit stage left as who you have fought to become! It’s beautiful.

Celebrate your human revolution. Celebrate the personal victory of lining up stage right - of choosing to become the next best version of yourself.

❤️ me

As long as we are human, we are bound to make mistakes. We all fall prey to flawed beliefs and views. What separates a forward-looking person from an intransigent one, a virtuous person from a malevolent one, however, is whether one can candidly admit to ones mistakes and take bold steps to redress them.” - Daisaku Ikeda

👉🏼 We all f* up! It’s just a thing with being human! How we move forward from our mistakes is the true reflection of the soul - the authentic self. Do you apologize to shut someone up? Do you apologize with the intent to change? Maybe you have no idea bc your ability to self-reflect doesn’t exist?

An apology with NO action is a passive-aggressive assault on you and or the other person’s emotions, self respect, hopes and dreams. If you have no intention on changing - say so! Don’t just apologize to pacify. If you do plan on changing - be authentic and genuine in your apology and ask for support while evolving. Be honest about your intentions and create a clear action plan!

👉🏼 Say what you mean - mean what you say. No more no less.

Evolve - ❤️ me

Why doesn’t constant trampling defeat the dandelion? The key to its strength is its long and sturdy root, which extends deep into the earth. . . . The same principle applies to people. The true victors in life are those who, enduring repeated challenges and setbacks, have sent the roots of their being to such a depth that nothing can shake them. - Daisaku Ikeda

We can either interpret life’s challenges as limits OR we can embrace them as opportunities.

We are not in control of what life throws at us - as hard as we try - we’re just not. However, we ARE in control of how we PREPARE ourselves for unexpected obstacles.

We can focus on building strong mental fortitude and self-awareness, knowing that EVERY challenge we face will emotionally and mentally take a toll on us. However, most will continue to see challenges as limits or use them as an excuse to NOT grow as a person.

Life is ALL about challenges. How we approach them, how we battle them and how we walk away from them - each step of the journey defines us; our habits; our confidence and our ability to grow.

Challenges make us uniquely brilliant; empathetic and HUMAN.

NO ONE - NOT ONE OF US - will leave this world unscathed, unmarred or undamanged. Our scars are beautiful and should be held up and celebrated!!

There is no place for shame or guilt on the battle field. Give yourself grace regardless of where you are in life’s battle - then continue to charge forward!

Accept who you were bc that person - good, bad or what not - was part of who you are now and who you will become. Accept that person; identify character flaws and challenge yourself to be and do better.

Challenging where you were - where you are - where you want to be - physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually - is the ONLY way to personal growth!

You can either face challenges as they arise and build confidence in who you are or lie down and play dead until you just accept defeat or no longer remember how to fight for your goals and who you want to become.

Challenge yourself.

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 AAAAAMMMMMMEEEEENNNN!

I couldn’t be more proud of this girl!! What an amazing human! Grateful for the memories we make! ❤️❤️❤️

Being present in each moment is an art form. It takes practice and work.

Let’s be clear - challenging one another is not ‘calling them out’ or ‘putting someone in their place’ or confronting someone with pettiness, malice or to feed our own fragile ego.

To care about people is to support their Human Revolution. Challenge the people you love to grow as individuals - as kindred spirits.

Push them to conquer their goals and to dream big. When we share our goals and dreams with others we are often times looking for validation that we ARE capable, that we DO have IT in us to conquer the world. Cheer them on - point out their strengths and remind them they are badass.

Yes, I know - we shouldn’t look for outside validation, we should know we are enough without it… blah blah blah 🤷🏼‍♀️ however, let’s be real - we are human and we don’t always feel like we are enough or that we ARE capable… sometimes we just need people in our fighting corner to help us strategize the fight and wipe the sweat and blood off our faces.

Even more important - be open to being challenged.

⚡️How open are you to accepting someone nudging you?

⚡️ Do you define the love that comes with being pushed as nagging or find it irritating?

⚡️ Do you start distancing yourself from those that remind you of your goals and or dreams that you may have begun to doubt or are scared to go for?

To conquer our fears and self doubt and our goals - we need people around us that challenge us where we are today, that celebrate our victories and help us realize our true potential. We also have to accept being challenged.

We ALL thrive when those around are thriving.

Don’t back down from someone challenging you to grow - put your insecurities away; silence the self-doubt that encourages negative emotions and perspective - allow your warrior spirit to step up to the challenge and accept the war party that’s rallying around you.

Challenge your tribesmen and allow yourself to be challenged.

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Sometimes you just have to prioritize your energy and step back from the hustle to appreciate the ones you hold dear.

I can’t even put into words the joy of hanging out with my grandkids. I am so grateful for these moments.

They revitalize my soul. My time with them helps me refocus my energy on what really matters and the human example I want to be for them.

My heart is full. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

I have been MIA for the past few weeks doing some soul searching and pondering what truly living is to me.

Life isn't about taking the easy route and avoiding challenges.

It isn't about superficial gratifications.

It isn't about everyone else.

Life isn't about right or wrong.

Life is about stepping up to challenges that force us to look deeper into ourselves for the determination and self reflect to grow. Making hard decisions that aren't superficial or self-serving is where we truly grow, personally, emotionally and physically - we begin to see our 'ripple effect' - positive or negative, every action/choice creates a ripple in the pond of life - our choices impact those around us.

Life is about connections not superficial BS. Connecting with each other; not for gossip; petty grievances or to delight in other people's misfortunes. Connect to give a damn - even if the other person isn't a 'friend' - pettiness, gossip and the delight in an other people's struggles is a reflection of our own insecurities and shallowness NOT a reflection of that person. Climb up on the fence to get your feet out of the BS that is so easy to step in when your on the ground level.

It's not about everyone else, it's not about what this person did or is doing or about comparing ourselves to others constantly. We give the negative people in our life to much mic time in our minds, we compare and contrast ourselves to them, we allow petty insecurities cloud our view of our own humanity. I hear "who does she/he think he is?" "I can't believe he/she is said or did that to me!" - blah blah blah - it's not about their actions - it's about how you REACT and if the reaction is true to who you want to be. Stop allowing people to dictate your actions, your thoughts and your view - that's just handing them over all your power and control in the moment. We all suffer, we are all struggling - perhaps that other person's defensive is passive-aggressive slights or vindictive actions. I feel bad for them. I feel bad that they are in such a state of BS that they lash-out due to insecurities and fear. I refuse to stoop to that level of interaction. It's not about them, it's about how we react...

"There is no right way. There is no wrong way. It is what it is." Your way isn't necessarily right or wrong and my way may not be the right way for you.... it is what it is. Stop fussing over making the 'right' choice; make a choice; put action to it and then reflect on it's outcome. Let it go, right or wrong. The choice was made, lingering in it doesn't create growth - let it go and move forward with the boost the choice gave you or the life lesson you earned bc of that choice. We have all made choices that were dumb as hell, sulking doesn't erase it... pick up that shovel and start taking actions to dig yourself out of the hole it may have put you in. There is no right way. There is no wrong way. It is what it is.... sometimes you just have to say 'F* it' and move on.

We get one shot at this life.

We get one shot at becoming who we are truly meant to be.

We get one shot at developing our humanity.

We get one shot at connecting with those we truly love and care about.

We get one shot at living with intent.

Living with INTENT is not easy, it is not mindless - it is purposeful self reflection and getting to know who you truly are and want to be.

Stop going through the motions - start asking yourself "why am I doing this?" "Does this serve me?" "Who do I want to be?" "What actions am I taking to be that person?"

Avoidance only puts off the inevitable.

Put on your war paint, scream your battle cry at the top of your lungs, grab your weapon and step up to obstacles that are keeping you stagnate.

There is NO back-down in this body.

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Everyday we should wake up and ask ourselves, "If I die today, what is my legacy I want to pass on?" ☀️

⚡️ Focus your action on the legacy you want to pass on, beyond the bank accounts, the investments, the dreams of having streets named after you or seeing your name in lights.
In that 👆 focused action, you will not find a obstacle free existence. But cherished obstacles that you accept and enjoy pushing past because the potential for growth outweighs those obstacles.

💪 Accepting and taking on your obstacles to leave a legacy true to you will lead you to absolute happiness - happiness that nothing shallow or superficial can destroy or devalue.

😘 Me