Storey Fitness

PROFOUND 🧐

Absolutely mind blowing 🎇

I bought this book for myself not for my future children 👶

Because I bought it for myself it will have a profound 🧐 impact on my future children 👶

Vision Hunters: in pursuit of imaginative conceptions

I’m pursuing imaginative conceptions and mode of pursuit is hunting

Bufo: An unforgettable right of passage.

What a teacher and what a lesson in surrender, love and letting go.

Wow.

Grateful.

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Some of the books 📚 I’ve read over the past 8 months.

Over the years I’ve found that when I want to study a new craft it’s best to start broad.

I like to start with a shotgun approach and work my way to finding sniper rifle systems.

If that makes sense🤔

Reading from as many different angels possible really helps me find out what works for me. I find what works and discard the rest.

So far “Never Split The Difference” “Pitch Anything” and “Gap Selling” have resonated with me the most. Those 3 books have allowed me to improve my ability to collaborate with others and help them navigate the emotional landscape of the selling/negotiating process.

Have you read any of these books?

If so, which ones helped you the most when it comes to sales, negotiating or just plane old communicating with other human beings?

Did I fail or did I not fail? Am I a failure or am I not a failure?

From my experience certain life events can amplify those thoughts and all the negative feelings that come with them.

This brings me to a Conversation I had with my brother a couple of months ago.

Mentally I wasn’t doing too well. I felt off. Like I was stuck in quicksand. The more I did and the harder I worked the worse I felt.

During a brief phone call he invited me to his house to talk in person. I hung up, got in my silver 4-runner and drove over.

Upon arrival I walked through a wooden gate up a stone walkway into his backyard. He was sitting under the trees lighting a cigar. I sat down next to him and he asked me “ what’s up, what’s going on?”

I told him “it’s been difficult to accept where I’m at lately. After closing my gym I’ve been struggling with not knowing what I’m going to do next. I feel like a failure because after 8 years of owning my business, I don’t really have anything to show for it. I mean I didn’t sell it for a couple million dollars and I don’t have a bank account full of all the profits.”

He stopped me mid-sentence. Kind a like ejecting an old cassette tape out of a boom box.

He said “Listen to what you’re saying and how you’re saying it. Listen to your words. Listen to the language you’re using. The language you use is very important. What you’re saying is just a perspective. You’re saying your a failure and that your business failed, but from my perspective you’ve been extremely successful. Not only did you live out of your car, sleep on the floor, and risk everything to build your business you’ve helped thousands of people transform their lives. How is that a failure?”

As he continued to talk I was struck with a moment of clarity like a bolt of lightning. The floodgate of tears opened up and some more of my old demons flew out.

Have I made mistakes, have a messed up, have a failed before? Yes, plenty of times, but that doesn’t mean I’m a failure and it doesn’t mean my business failed.

The truth is I burnt myself out and lost interest in the fitness industry.
I’m a courageous human being willing to let go, start over and face the unknown.

Our willingness to look inside and do the work has made this union possible.

I love you and I love sharing our lives together.
You are beautifully courageous.

This day was symbolic of what we committed to early on in the development of our relationship.

Till death do us part🤠 @ Cascade, Idaho

Over the past seven months my change in career has continued to evolve.

It was sparked with an interest in sales but that’s just the beginning.

That spark lit an amber. An amber of pitching and negotiation skill sets.

Now it’s become a burning flame of curiosity and exploration into the world of psychology and neuroscience.

I don’t quite know where I’m going but I do know I’m evolving.

As a kid I didn’t know I could watch my own mind.

So did whatever my mind told me to do without examining what it was telling me to do.

What’s wrong with that? Big deal Cody. What’s the point?

Maybe nothing. Maybe nothing is wrong with it, but for me it caused a lot of pain suffering. “It” meaning the unobserved mind. The mind that got me to do many unthinkable things. Things that came with many negative consequences.

All of which Ive taken full responsibility for. Things like drug addiction, alcoholism, physical altercations, handcuffs, manipulation, selling dope, home invasions, and plenty of other forms of criminal activity which I’ll save for different post. (You might identify and you might not)

However at 23 I was given a moment of clarity. I woke up, I became aware. I was struck sober.

I was able to see my life, and who I had become in a way I had never seen it before. For the first time there was a separation between me and my thoughts.

This shift in perception allowed me to finally admit that I had problem. That I was out of control and needed help.

In that moment I reached out to my brother and he led me to a path of recovery.

I’ve been on this path for a while now, and I’ve been able to connect with, and learn from many people just like me. People who had become slaves to their own minds but changed.

One of the greatest gifts I’ve been given outside of sobriety and that continues to help me is from an old mentor I met on this path.

He said “ Cody you’ve got to see your mind.”

It sounds simple and it doesn’t seem like much but it’s powerful. It has the power to transform lives. It has the power to free you from your own mind. It’s a practice.

One way to practice it is to carry a notepad around and write down any reoccurring thoughts, thoughts that keep popping up. Thoughts from the past thoughts, from the present, and thoughts about the future.

Give it a try you might be surprised by what you find.

🏆 GAP Selling has been the most impactful and helpful book that I’ve read in all of 2020.

📖 I’ve read it cover to cover but more importantly I’ve continued to read it.

Why?

💎To learn how to apply it.

💡 It’s more than a book, it’s a manual.

⛏🔦If you want to go below the sales process surface than this book is for you. If not, it’s all good.

Give it a read and let me know what you think. 🧠