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This was one of the most freeing things I ever had to learn. And one of the most controversial things I ever had to say out loud.

For so long, women in destructive marriages have been told to stay. To pray harder. To submit more. To protect the institution of marriage at all costs, including their own safety, their own sanity, their own lives.

But God is not more concerned with keeping a marriage intact than He is with the people inside it. He sees you. He cares about what is happening to you. And His Word, read in full, reflects that.

Marriage was designed to be a covenant of love, safety, and mutual honor. When it becomes a place of ongoing harm, God does not require you to disappear inside it to keep it alive.

If you are ready for clarity and next steps, visit leslievernick.com for resources to help you navigate what you are walking through.

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Someone needed to hear this today.

Your silence was never meant to be the foundation someone else's reputation is built on. And yet, so many women in destructive or unhealthy marriages have been conditioned to believe that keeping quiet is the godly thing to do.

It is not.

Speaking truth is not betrayal. It is not bitterness. It is not unbiblical. In fact, Ephesians 5:11 calls us to expose what is done in darkness, not protect it.

You are allowed to tell the truth about your life. You are allowed to stop carrying what was never yours to carry.

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📊Are you the queen or king of multitasking? Read this… 

💭Allow yourself to know what you know. An excerpt from a paper I wrote on trauma:

An individual’s need to push trauma away as to not remember the distressful event is a natural defense behavior known as the defense cascade and includes fight, flight, freeze, and faint (Kozlowska, Walker, McLean, & Carrive, 2015). Trauma embedded over time will only lead to increased problems and emotional pain. Renowned trauma researcher Bessel Van der Kolk (2014) writes, “As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself. The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage” (p. 233).