Joy with Jax

Mexico City.

O.
My.
Goddess.

Divinity. ✨

The food — superb.
The culture — exquisite.
The museums — I found my favorite in the world.
The art — I wept at a painting for the first time. Mary Magdalene.
The friends — lifelong.

12 days in this Mecca of a city.

No wonder she’s wildly popular.
She’s a yes every time for me.

I’ll be back.
Again and again.

What you must do:

✨ Museo Anahuacalli
(part museum, part temple, part time capsule)

🌮 Michelin tacos at Maizajo
(I had them three times)

🥐 Pastries at Panadería Rosetta

☕ Breakfast at Another

🥗 Lunch at Entremar, Molina El Pujol & Manu

🍷 Dinner at Gaba & Rosetta

But honestly…
it’s hard to f*ck anything up here.

Gratitude oozes.
Memories abound.

My love for this city —
and this country and culture —
is deep and wide.

And?
I can now order in Spanish. 🇲🇽

If only the U.S. treated Mexicans
the way Mexicans treat us.

Forever grateful for this journey. ❤️

Mexico has been a true love story.
Just not the one I expected.

When I left for Mexico on January 31, I thought I was coming for a month.
For the food, the culture, the sunshine to bronze my skin, and a much needed reset.

And if I’m honest… maybe there was even a person 👀

But as I’ve extended my time here… twice… what’s been revealed is that the person I’ve fallen more deeply in love with… is me 👱🏼‍♀️.

There is something exquisite about travel.
I’ve always thrived in this arena, maybe it’s my Sagittarius rising.
But there something even more special about traveling so(u)lo.

Travel disrupts your routines.
It forces adaptability.
It expands your perspective.
It reconnects you to your curiosity.
You’re forced to see yourself and your place in the world, differently.

But more than anything,
it reveals who you are.

How you move through the world.
How you see yourself in new environments.
How you respond when things don’t go your way.
How you spend your time and energy when no one else is around.
And of course, there’s learning a new tongue.

We humans are wired for connection.
We spend years dependent on our caregivers… longer than almost any other species.

Dependence isn’t weakness.
It’s part of our design.

But I believe we’re entering a new era of love. I know we are.

Not one where we outsource ourselves.
But one where we come home to ourselves first.

Mexico hasn’t been a romantic getaway in the traditional sense. Which makes sense, I’m not really a traditional woman.

But it has been wildly romantic.

Because the romance wasn’t about someone else.
It was about how I spend my time.
How I honor my energy.
How I meet myself when no one else is there.
How I turn myself on, simply by living, breathing, and feeling.

This trip has been a deeper becoming.
A fuller embodiment.

Of loving myself.
And ultimately… trusting myself!
And what I’ve created as I’ve been here?
Is the best work of my life.

And it makes me curious:
Have you ever taken a trip that changed the way you see yourself?

Not just where you went —
but who you became while you were there.

To all my lovers 🖤🤍
Journey in, and journey on.

Just a very belated Puerto Escondido, Zicatela drop. 🌊☀️

Because I’m not all business.

I’m a helluva lot of PLEASURE too. 💃✨

If you would have told me seven years ago that this is what my life would look like…
my mind couldn’t have believed it.
It couldn’t have held it.

But now?

I’m so(ul) grateful. 🌺
Proud.
Expanded.
Delighted.
On purpose.
In my body.
In my S*X. 🔥
Abounding with pleasure.
Alive.
Well.
Magnetic.
Sweet.
Witchy AF. 🪄
Devoted.
Amazed.
Adoring.
On fire.

The life I wanted
was waiting on the other side of my biggest fears…
and some very deep doubt.

And in the end,
I trusted that I would have my own back.

My spirit team too. ✨

My Year of Joy. 💫

Modern dating says:
“You just haven’t met the right person yet.”
(It’s not you. It’s them. A blame game.)

Disruptive Dating asks a different question:

Have you become the person who can attract what you say you want?
(It’s part you, and it’s part them. Accountability + opportunity)

The person who knows what they actually want.
(Not just height, income, or a checklist. Surface level bs)

The person who understands the energy of the relationship they want to create.

The person who can communicate clearly.
Who can be patient and playful!
Who knows their patterns, and works with them.

The person who can handle conflict without losing themselves. Or without losing it.

Because a love that is soul-expanding will ask something of you.
Actually,
It will ask a lot.
Because it’s going to give you so(ul) much.

The Disruptive Dating Method addresses the real forces shaping your love life:
your biological wiring, your relational patterns, and the energy you bring into connection.

If you’re ready for a different way of relating to love… a more expansive, empowering way?

Let’s disrupt your patterns baby.

For a long time, I thought my dating history meant something was wrong with me.

Non-committal men!
Emotional unavailable men.
Wrong timing.

Most people want a secure, equitable, juicy relationship.
Most people want a million dollars.
But wanting something and being equipped to create it are two very different things, whether in the bedroom or the boardroom.

My dating life wasn’t random.
It followed my patterns.

Who I chose reflected what felt familiar — because that’s how we’re wired.
We recreate what we learned about love long before we had language for it.

And here’s the part most people avoid:
Patterns can be painful — and they are changeable.

How I dated reflected my emotional availability!
More than theirs.
Because an emotionally available person would never stay with someone who isn’t.
Period. Let that sting!

What I tolerated showed me where I was out of alignment with what I said I wanted.
Traditional dating says,

“You just haven’t met the right person yet.”
Disruptive Dating asks a deeper question:
Are your dating habits actually designed to create the relationship you want?
Gulp.

That question changed everything.
It wasn’t about the men.
It was about my tolerance.
What I accepted.
What I avoided.
My need to chase and prove love.
I didn’t need more options.
I didn’t need more chemistry.
I didn’t need to try harder.
I needed skill and will.

So I read over 250 books on dating, attachment, and relating.
I immersed myself in the science — and then? I fu***ng lived it.

I created a framework that helped me see my patterns in real time and make different choices — without shame.

Choices that aligned with what I actually wanted to create.
That’s why I developed the Disruptive Dating framework.
It’s a soul science.
Not a promise of “the one.”
Not a bypass around discomfort.
But a way to hand you the tools — the sword — so you can dig deep, create alignment, reclaim agency, and date with clarity and self-trust.

Your dating history isn’t a verdict.
It’s information!
And when you learn how to read it, it becomes the pathway forward.
🖤

Your mess is YOUR medicine.

Most people would rather stay in a familiar hell than step into an unfamiliar heaven.

Same fights.
Same shutdowns.
Same emotional loops.
Different partner… same damn pattern.

And then we blame:
“It’s my partner.”
“It’s men.”
“It’s women.”
“It’s my parents.”
“It’s politics.”
“It’s my boss.”

All partially true.

But if you stay there?

You stay stuck in the past.

Victim energy keeps you reacting.
Creator energy asks a much harder question:

And some people, can recognize their pattern, but don’t know why to change it!

Here’s what I see all the time in relationships.

When the feminine energy (the feeling, relational part of us) brings up a problematic dynamic, the masculine nervous system often experiences it as status threat.

Not feedback.
Not curiosity.
Not growth.

Threat.

The body goes to war.

Defensiveness.
Shutdown.
Frustration.
Projection.

“Why are you trying to change me?
You knew who I was when you met me.”

Meanwhile?

The feminine has often tolerated the behavior for way too long before saying anything.

By the time it’s spoken out loud,
they’re already exhausted.
Already hurt.
Already marinated in the BS.

So now both nervous systems are activated — and the relationship stays stuck in the same loop.

Here’s the truth most people don’t want to hear:
Healthy relationships REQUIRE adaptation. The invoke it.

Your behaviors are not your identity.
They are patterns.

Patterns can evolve.

But if feedback always feels like an attack?

Growth never happens.

And without growth…

You don’t get the thing everyone actually wants:
Deep safety.
Deep intimacy.
Deep, honest connection.
Deep, wildly free, phenomenal s*x.

That’s the work we do inside Disruptive Dating.

We don’t just talk about finding the right person.

We dismantle the unconscious patterns RUNNING your relationships — so you can actually create something secure, equitable, and juicy as hell. 🔥 🍒💦

Your old patterns won’t open new doors.

But your mess?

That’s where the medicine lives.

Full article is on my Substack (link in bio).
If you’re ready to disrupt your patterns, you already know the application for Disruptive Dating is open.