10/05/2026
6 lessons after 2 years of marriage…
Not that 2 years of marriage is a lot, but thought I’d share some thoughts about what has worked well in our marriage.
(1) Have the Courage to Communicate
Communicate the good and the bad. The small and the large. Small things fester into larger things so get them out.
This person is your person for life, they will and should love you in spite of your quirks.
Just communicate it and get it out in the open.
Not that I’m always the best at this, but things always seem to be better when I communicate more not less.
(2) Appreciate Everything
Don’t take things for granted. The big and the small. The trivial and the magnificent.
Say thank you - a lot - and for everything.
Appreciate when they do the laundry. Unload the dishwasher. Prep your coffee maker. Do your meal prep. Prepare you dinner. Clean the house. Make the bed.
Those aren’t things they SHOULD do or NEED to do. They are things that must be appreciated and are a blessing.
Don’t just appreciate it in your head; express your gratitude.
(3) Spend Time Together
I’m all for girls doing girls weekends and guys doing guys weekends. But if you’re hanging out separately more often than together, then I’m not sure it’s the best recipe for a great marriage.
Don’t just be great spouses; be great friends. And find things you enjoy doing together and do them.
(4) Talk About Finances
Whether you have the same relationship with money, similar, somewhat different, or very different, it must be discussed. If not, resentment is bound to build up over time.
Discuss what matters to you; ask them what matters to them. And figure out what that looks like financially on a month to month basis.
And discuss it regularly.
(5) Have Routines Together
This could be a morning routine together. How you welcome them home in the afternoon. Where you go to dinner on Friday nights. What you always have for dinner on Monday nights. How you round out the week together on Sundays. How you say good night.
The small things seem small, but they’re the biggest things of all.
These are the things you do every day or every week. And if you’re married for 20, 30, 40, 50+ years…that’s a lot
