Honoring Our Animals

Are you looking to offer more support or receive it during pet loss grief?

The first days after a beloved transitions are usually full of people reaching out. It’s the weeks and months after, when everyone else has moved on, that feel the loneliest. A simple, consistent check-in can change that.

If you’re supporting someone in pet loss grief, try these:

“Just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you today. I know how much [name] means to you, and I’m here if you want to share a memory or just need someone to sit with you.”

“I know these milestone days can be tough. No need to reply, I just wanted you to know I’m holding you and [name] in my heart today.”

“I was just thinking about you and [name]. How’s your heart today?”

If you need support and want to ask for it, try this:
“I know grief will be a long road. If you’re open to it, I’d love a check-in text once in a while, especially on days when I feel their absence most.”

Consistency is what counts. You don’t have to do something grand, you just have to keep showing up.

DM me if you’re ready for 1:1 pet loss grief support.

Have you ever received a check-in text that made a difference in your grief? Tell me in the comments.

What’s your hallelujah with your soulmate pet that’s resonating during your grief?

One of the hardest parts of pet loss grief is losing the one who knew you better than anyone.

Your soulmate pet didn’t just love you, they understood you.

They sensed your moods before you spoke, comforted you without being asked, and saw every version of you, including the parts you hid from everyone else.

That kind of knowing is rare. It’s why the absence feels so unbearable, and why so much of pet loss grief is about more than missing them. It’s about losing the relationship where you were most fully seen.

You carry every way they loved you, every way they saw you, every way they changed you. That doesn’t leave when they transition.

DM me if you’re ready for 1:1 pet loss grief support.

What’s one way your soulmate pet understood you like no one else?

People might be telling you to “get perspective” or “It was just a pet” or “You’re being overdramatic.”

They don’t understand. Your soulmate pet wasn’t “just” anything.

Your constant. Your witness. Your safe place. Your reason to come home.

The intensity of your grief matches the depth of your love.

If you need 1:1 support through this, I work with grieving guardians. My DMs are open.

What does your beloved mean to you?

Pet loss grief carries forward everything your beloved gave you.

They were present without an agenda, they loved without keeping score, and they found something worth investigating in an ordinary afternoon.

Stay present. They were never anywhere but here, with you, in this moment.

Love without conditions. Can you offer yourself the same?

Find curiosity in the unknown. Every new path or unfamiliar corner, they met with openness.

Let joy and sorrow coexist.

Comment HOABOOK for my book “Honoring Our Animals: 365 Meditations for Healing After Pet Loss” (Quarto/Wellfleet Press).

How do you carry forward the love and wisdom of your beloved?

If your pet loss grief feels heavy before Mother’s Day even arrives, I’m thinking of you.

Two places to be held in the upcoming weeks if it feels supportive:

April’s Live Pet Memorial Service on April 28th at 9pm EST. Come hear your beloved’s name out loud in community. I’ll be taking names for submission soon - stay tuned to my profile.

Mother’s Day Live on May 10th at 9pm EST. Just for us. For everyone who is grieving, complicated, or just needs somewhere to be that night. We’ll do an honoring tree with our beloveds names and I will also put out the call for that a few days before!

Share what’s coming up for you if it feels supportive. I’m here.

What if I forget them?

That fear lives in so many guardians I work with. That time will soften the details until they’re gone. The sound of their paws. The way they looked at you. The quiet rituals that belonged to just the two of you.

You won’t forget them. Their love is woven into your habits, your instincts, the way you move through the world. But if you want to hold the details close, here are some journal prompts to spark remembering:

Describe the way they greeted you. A happy dance, a slow blink, a wag, a chirp. What did it feel like to come home to them?

Think of a time they made you laugh unexpectedly. What were they doing? What was their personality like in that moment?

Close your eyes and find their scent. Warm fur, fresh grass, something they always curled up on. Describe it.

Write about their favorite spot. The windowsill, your lap, that one corner of the house. How did they make it theirs?

What was their unique way of showing love? A nuzzle, leaning into you, bringing you a toy, just sitting nearby to be close.

Pet loss grief doesn’t erase them. You don’t have to hold every memory at once, they live on in the ways they changed you.

Every month I hold a memorial service for beloveds by name. Follow so you don’t miss the next call for names.

Drop a 🐾 if you’re holding your beloved close today, or share a memory you want the world to hear.

Which of these do you need to hear most today?

Your pet loss grief is valid. The depth of your pain reflects the depth of your love. You’re not overreacting, you’re not too sensitive, you’re grieving someone who mattered.

Be kind to yourself. The way you speak to yourself in grief matters. Ask whether you’d say any of it to a dear friend. Your beloved would want you to meet yourself with the same love you gave them.

You are not alone. Grief can feel isolating, but there are people who understand, who have been exactly where you are, who are holding space for you right now.

DM me if you’re ready for 1:1 pet loss grief support.

Which one do you need most today? Tell me in the comments.