09/15/2026
"How'd you play?" is a grading question.
And your athlete already spent the whole ride home grading themselves. They don't need a second scorecard from the front seat.
Try this instead: "What was one moment today where you felt brave?"
Same car. Same five minutes. Completely different thing they go looking for.
Perfection gives them one right answer. Courage gives them a dozen — the loose ball they went after, the shot they took anyway, the teammate they picked up.
Change the question, change what they replay tonight.
Save this for Saturday.