Curiously Carissa Systems + Energy for ADHD Moms

What it’s like being a mom in 2026…🫠

Are you mentally, spiritually, and physically tired too? 🙋‍♀️

I hereby declare you the right to consume all the chocolate and caffeine you want. 

From a mom who’s averaging about 5 hours of sleep during the darkest days of the year. Physically, mentally and spiritually…😵‍💫
•
•
•

Every mom’s internal monologue before a late ADHD diagnosis 🙃

Is it depression?
Is it anxiety?
Do I have ADHD?
Am I just lazy?
Am I burnt out?

Why does everyone else seem to be handling life better??
What the f*** is wrong with me???

Turns out… nothing was “wrong” with me.
My brain just needed to put a name to it and more support.

*It was actually also anxiety and burn out. For me anyways. 🫠

**Maybe perimenopause too 🙃


If you’ve been cycling through self-blame instead of answers… you’re not alone.

Tell me this wasn’t your exact thought process too 👀
(or just drop a 🙋‍♀️ if this was too real)
•
•
•

One of my biggest pet peeves is hearing women with ADHD tear themselves apart. 😩

“I’m stupid.”
“I’m slow.”
“I’m a mess.”

And every time I hear it, I think… who taught you to talk to yourself like that?

So much of this becomes identity-level stuff after years of criticism, childhood, school, past relationships, workplaces that weren’t built for your brain. It sinks in and then follows you into motherhood.

But here’s the truth:
You are NOT dumb.
You are NOT broken.
You are NOT behind.

And you would never speak to your kids the way you speak to yourself.

What if the next time that voice shows up, you answered it the way you would your child? 🫶

With patience.
With context.
With kindness.

You’re not failing.
You’re learning in a nervous system that’s been surviving for a long time.

And you are more than enough. EXACTLY as you are. 🩷
•
•
•

No one warns you about this… 

Motherhood doesn’t just change your schedule, it changes your whole identity. Especially if you have ADHD.

You don’t lose who you are.
You don’t need to “fix” yourself.
And you definitely don’t need a fancy new personality.

What most of us are actually dealing with is chronic overstimulation, depletion, and zero space to hear our own thoughts.
Let alone our desires and following what lights us up.

And so we wait.
For the motivation.
For more energy.
For the “right time.”

But ADHD brains don’t come back online through force. (Or medication.)
They come back through permission.

Permission to play.
To rest.
To trust ourselves.
To follow curiosity instead of productivity.
To start small, even selfishly, WITHOUT justifying it.

Feeling like yourself again is about creating enough *breathing room* for the real you to resurface.

If you felt this, you’re not alone.
And you’re not broken or flawed.
You’re just tired AND worthy of a life that fits you.

Follow along if you’re rebuilding access to yourself, one small choice at a time 💛
•
•
•