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I do not fix problem. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves. // Louise Hay 💡

For all the over-thinkers out there…

Thinking about something is not the same as doing it.

It’s best to get out of your head and start taking action today.

It doesn’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to have all the answers. Just start. Progress not perfection.

Save this post for the next time you need the reminder 💛

When you are trying everything you can to get someone to do something, and it isn't working, their behavior is telling you they don't want to do it. When you keep pushing, you are not respecting the person's boundary. Recognize what you are being told and figure out your own boundary in response.

2026 plan: control the controllables 🤍

A half-hearted “sorry” or an apology that sounds more like an excuse can actually make things worse.

It’s like putting a Band-Aid on a deep cut; it might cover up the problem temporarily, but it doesn’t address the actual depth of the issue or promote true healing.

Make sure your apology does more than ease your discomfort.
Make sure it acknowledges the impact, takes responsibility, and creates space for real repair.

As we enter that strange period between Christmas and New Year, when time seems to muddle, and we find ourselves asking again and again, What day is it? … I used to think that these were wasted days, but I now realise that’s the point. … I’m not being lazy. I’m not slacking. I’m just letting my attention shift for a while, away from the regular routine and goals of the rest of my year. It’s like revving my engines.

Merry Christmas from me and my family to yours!🎄❤️

The right people don’t drain you; they steady you. If a relationship consistently adds pressure, noise, or doubt, that’s a signal to reset your boundaries and protect your peace. Choose the circles that help you breathe deeper, think clearer, and feel safer to be yourself. You’re allowed to prioritize calm over chaos, presence over people-pleasing, and quality over quantity. Let your life be a soft place to land, curated with care, held by those who truly lighten the load.

This is deep and it’s something I’ve been pondering lately.

Either/Or: The Myth of the Golden Rule for Life

We grow up searching for formulas: the right way to live, to love, to choose. Every culture promises one: discipline over pleasure, pleasure over duty, reason over faith, faith over reason... Yet the older we grow, the more we sense that no path truly protects us from regret. For every road taken, there is another forever closed, and behind each conviction lies the whisper of its opposite.

Kierkegaard saw this with piercing clarity. In Either/Or, he explored two fundamental ways of living: the aesthetic and the ethical. The first seeks beauty, experience, intensity. The second pursues duty, morality, purpose. Both, he argued, are traps in their own way: the aesthete is haunted by emptiness, the moralist by rigidity. The tragedy is not that one is right and the other wrong, but that both are incomplete. There is no final synthesis that secures us against doubt or longing.

Modern life only amplifies this dilemma. We scroll through infinite options (careers, relationships, ideologies...) each promising fulfillment. Yet beneath the abundance lies a quiet fatigue, the exhaustion of beings who have too many possible selves. We want to live fully, yet every choice feels like a betrayal of the lives we didn’t choose.

Perhaps the lesson is not to keep searching for the “golden rule” that guarantees happiness, but to live with the tension itself and to understand that dissatisfaction is not failure but part of being human. It is the sign of a consciousness too large to be at peace with any single answer.

When you look at your own life’s crossroads, do you ever wonder whether the problem isn’t your choice but the belief that one choice could ever be enough?

Painting: 'Crossroad in a Wood', 1660 by Jan van der Heyden

It’s okay to feel it all 🤍