10/09/2026
🇺🇸 Talking to Your Kids About September 11, 2001
For many adults, September 11th is more than a history lesson. We remember where we were, what we were doing, and how we felt as we watched the events unfold.
For our children, however, 9/11 is history—something that happened long before many of them were born. As they learn about September 11th at school, online, or through conversations with others, they may come home with questions, confusion, or even anxiety.
So, how do we talk to our kids about 9/11?
❤️ Start by asking what they already know.
Try asking, “What have you heard about September 11th?” This gives you an opportunity to correct misinformation and understand what may be worrying them.
❤️ Keep your explanation age-appropriate.
Young children usually need a simple explanation: something very sad happened, people were hurt, and many brave people worked together to help.
Older children and teens may be ready for more historical information and conversations about terrorism, the lives that were lost, the first responders, and how September 11th changed our country.
❤️ Let their questions guide the conversation.
You don't have to explain everything at once. Answer what your child is actually asking and allow them to come back with additional questions later.
❤️ Be mindful of graphic footage.
Images and videos from September 11th can be overwhelming—even for adults. Children do not necessarily need to see traumatic footage in order to understand the significance of what happened.
❤️ Talk about the helpers.
Tell them about the firefighters, police officers, paramedics, military personnel, passengers, volunteers, and ordinary people who helped complete strangers. Even in moments of tremendous tragedy, there were extraordinary examples of courage, compassion, and humanity.
❤️ Offer reassurance without making promises we cannot make.
Rather than saying, “Something like that could never happen again,” remind children that many people work every day to keep them safe.
If your child becomes anxious, bring them gently back to the present:
“September 11th happened 25 years ago. You are here with me. You are safe right now.”
It is also okay for our children to see us become emotional when remembering September 11th.
We can show them that sadness and grief are normal responses to remembering people whose lives were lost.
❤️🩹Over the next 24-hours, we will honor and remember the nearly 3,000 lives lost; the first responders who ran toward danger; the families forever changed; and the countless acts of courage and kindness that followed. It will be on many TV channels, radio stations, and topic of conversation around us.
❤️We remember. We honor. And we help the next generation understand—with honesty, compassion, and care. 🇺🇸
❤️— Angela Sewell Counseling at The Barn